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Hello,
Ok..here goes. I get accused all the time of not being realistic. People tell me i am too nice. I have actually been told by a good friend once that I will never be successful because i am too good to people. That all the volunteering I do ends up costing me time that could be spent furthering my own family’s income. And while the outcomes to my niceness gives me a warm fuzzy feeling , I cannot live on that warm fuzzy feeling. Well...at the Risk of sounding like a dope, let me tell you right here, right now. I am successful in my life. Do I have money? No. Do I have fancy cars? No. Am I a woman of independent means? No. Am I healthy? Yes. Am I happy? Yes. Do I have 5 healthy kids and a banging happy marriage? Yes! is my family totally on board and even paticipatory in our volunteering endeavors...You Bet!
Ok..what is more important? Well I say the latter 4 questions are more important to answer yes to??? How about you? Is there any such thing as being too nice, too positive, too happy, too caring? I am Blessed with almost always being able to find a positive in any situation, even if there is not an obvious positive, i have Faith that there will be a lesson learned somewhere down the line.
Am i a Mary Sunshine? And if i am....is there anything wrong with that? I don’t do what i do for any type of reward...although, selfishly, when i see some ones face light up becaUSe of something I did....it is worth more to me than any type of financial payoff...is that so wrong?



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      Daphne wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • Ree,

      I don’t believe any of your questions (with the possible exception to the health question) holds more value than another.  We each have our own needs/wants/wishes in life and if you‘re getting what you need out of life, who is your friend (or anyone else) to question you?  Apparently, your friend has different needs and, while she would probably answer your questions very differently if asking herself, she is applying her needs/wants/wishes onto you.  Diversity is vital in this world...we can’t ALL be doctors, we can’t ALL be waitresses or retail clerks or soccer moms or baseball coaches or child-care providers or volutneers...the list goes on and on.  Not one is more important than the other when creating an effective, efficient, fulfilling world.

      Just my opinion...   :c)



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • If you are happy with what you do and what you have, and your family is on board, then forget the Negative Nancys. People like you are rare!!! That is your gift.



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      Daphne wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • Oh...i forgot...

      SHINE ON, MARIE...SHINE ON!



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      Gina Venturini wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • Hi Marie,

      It’s people like you that make this world a better place to be. I feel most of our society has let materialism take control of so much of their lives that they have to work all the time to substain it. I’ve been designing jewelry for about 3 yrs and have given away much more to charities and friends than I have actually sold however, it makes me happy.

      Because I don’t have a lot of money to give to charitable organizations, I am thankful that I have somewhat of a talent that enables me to still participate and help those in need.

      I’ve also been a singer for many years, singing in clubs all over the US and  working office jobs on down time to make ends meet. I was so miserable and about a year and half ago I got a job teaching music and art to children. It pays alot less than my previous jobs however, It’s more rewarding to me than actually singing in front of a bunch of drunks on stage and I can see the difference I making in these children’s lives as they are in mine.

      I feel sorry for those who are so consumed with money that they are not able to really enjoy life.

      You are not only helping people who are less fortunate, but your helping spread human compassion that our society tends to be lacking in these days.

      You‘re Awesome!



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • In my humble opinion, I think you‘re a delight.

      When I read your messages I say, “Gosh she’s a nice lady.” And you are, and that makes you someone that others want to be around. And, I know, I just know it, God smiles on you every day because of who you are.

      Cynthia



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      Mary Clark wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • I say do it if it makes YOU feel good or if you are genuinely helping someone in need...just don’t go over board and get  yourself in trouble.  I tend to go in that same direction and one time it literally stopped me in my tracks.  There is nothing wrong with helping or doing for other people as long as you are not over obligating yourself or leaving your family out.  

      Carry on.....



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      Sunkist wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • Ree, great post.  I think the answer to each of your questions really depends on what you hold most important to you in your life, so we all may have slightly different answers.

      I’m very down to earth and am a happy upbeat person, I tend to look toward the simpler things in life.  I have a loving husband, two sons who are both gentlemen and shining stars in many ways, we have our health, and life is good.  My priorities have always been my sons.

      I volunteer much of my time for my sons’ high school band.....I spend hours with them.  I am there first and foremost for my son(s) and then for the rest of the band.  I love it and find it very rewarding and enjoy being very involved in what my sons are involved with.

      As far as a definition goes for the word “success“, well that is going to vary for each and every one of us.  

      As far as being too nice, don’t stop being who you are, if it makes you happy then by all means.....



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • THANK YOU Ladies! I guess i knew i was right...LOL But sometimes i do not understand people and need a little reaffirmation. You are all great. Thanks!
      Have a good Saturday...going to my younger sons football game soon. Gonna be a beautiful night for football!
      Byeeeeeee,
      Ree



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      Leeann wrote Oct 11, 2008
    • Shine shine ! I think it is wonderful that you are a nice person. I am as well. I think your friend should learn something from you. Ree, You have a warm heart. Go Girl!



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