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Let's talk about breasts.  Most guys love to, so why should I be any different?  Like it or not, this anatomical accoutrement receives more than its fair share of attention from the male of the species.  And while someone with a doctorate might be able to explain the underlying psychological motivation, the simple truth is that men love boobs.

"Duh," you say, "Every woman knows of men's almost obsessive surveillance of this particular part of the female topography.  Tell me something I don't know."  Okay, I will.  Regardless of what you believe, men don't just love big breasts.  We love 'em all: Large, small, medium, extra-large, firm, floppy, perky and pendulous.  All boobs are welcome.  And regardless of their size, the more we see of them the happier we are.  Hence, we are ecstatic about the current padded, pushed-up, on-display style bras which go out of their way to showcase whatever you've got.


Men And Breasts

Now this is not to say that a man won't be wowed by a particularly prominent set of boobs.  To be truthful, most will - because larger objects tend to more easily catch our attention.  Nonetheless, we are still almost fanatical in our affections for more modest endowments.  And if we spy even the slightest hint of nipple, regardless of the fullness of flesh of the surrounding neighborhood, we're happy as clams.  It's not unlike many women's fascination with diamonds.  Big ones catch your attention and may cause a chorus of "oohs" and "ahhs," but a smaller-caratted cut of equal brilliance will still illicit its fair share of complements – since you have an enthusiastic appreciation of diamonds in general.  But the similarity ends there, because even though your love of diamonds is only equaled by your disdain for cubic zirconia and other "fakes," we feel no similar animosity toward breasts that aren't 100 percent original equipment.  Spruce 'em up, plump 'em out, enhance or condense 'em, we'll love those puppies as if they were just the way nature made 'em.  What can I say, when it comes to breasts, we're very accommodating.  

So what does all this mean?  Simply put - regardless of what you have on your chest, men will be craning their necks to get a peek, or dare we dream – a grope.  Such is the allure of your boobs.  They are the mountains, hills or speed bumps at which we worship, and we wouldn't have it any other way.  So don't spend a lot of time being concerned about what you have or haven't got in the boob department.  As far as we're concerned, as long as they're less-hairy than what we have, they're sure to appeal to our simple tastes.  And it is a bad pun, but nonetheless heartfelt, that on behalf of men everywhere, I say, "thanks for the mammaries."  

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      Amy L. Harden wrote Aug 14, 2008
    • Thanks for the humorous and truthful male perspective on “breasts“.  

      Indeed, I believe you are very right about the way men feel about breasts...it doesn’t quite matter the size, as long as they can get a peek or even to touch.  But you MUST admit the larger they are...the larger the need to look and touch...I mean...they are kind of in your face...aren’t they?  

      I really wish women could embrace your opinion on the men's perspective of the "breast", but I fear, as long as we women look at one another and size each other up...the size, shape and display of a woman's breast will be a subject of competition among us.  

      I hate to break this to the men of the world...but all this breast augmentation and Victoria Secret bra wearing...is not necessarily about getting YOU to look at us...it is all about the way we feel about our own bodies and how we measure up to the next female that crosses our path that is in competition to catch your eye...the men of the world are just reaping the benefits of the eternal competition amongst women to be the fairer of them all...we are really doing it so other women see...then, if you look...well...all the better!



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      Blueiris1261 wrote Aug 16, 2008
    • So, are we women who have had breast cancer and reconstruction out of the running?



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      Yana Berlin wrote Aug 16, 2008
    • ALL WOMEN LISTEN UP!!!!

      DID YOU READ THIS AND COMPREHEND IT?

      Men like them in all shapes, forms and sizes.

      So Ladies, stop stressing about the way your boobs look and concentrate on how smart, sassy and classy you are at this fabulous time in your life.

      Don’t feel sassy and classy or fabulous today? put on your sneakers, lipstick and go for a walk. Eat healthy, exercise regularly, laugh a lot, and love yourself for who you are.

      Remember the BEST IS YET TO COME!!!



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      David M. Matthews wrote Aug 16, 2008
    • You are certainly not ‘out of the running’ at all, Blueiris1261, if what you‘re asking is, “will men be attracted to your reconstructed breasts?”  For most men, reconstucted breasts fall into the same category as any other surgical alteration to that region.  And since we harbor no negative feelings about any attempt to alter, beautify or “upgrade” that cherished part of your anatomy, your reconstruction will likely keep attracting positive male attention for many years to come.



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      Justsomedude wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • While I understand the sentiment is to pump up the female ego a bit, I personally don’t agree with the assessment that all boobs is good boobs.  

      Like many men, the author of this article seems quite happy to lie to women to make them feel good.

      This site looks to be designed with women as the main focus so its understandable if you wanna tell them what they wanna hear.  But as a  heterosexual man and a big fan of breasts, I feel I must put a more truthful reply on this page.

      There are some boobs that are actually quite uncomfortable to look at.  While size may not matter as much as women believe it to, shape often does.  I’ve met more than a few women who believed themselves to be irresistible simply due to the size of their endowment.  When in my own opinion, the huge flabby things weren’t appealing in the slightest.  I’ve seen women with a small perky pair that were delightful.  And I’ve seen large ones that are nice as well.

      Not all men like all breasts.  But chances are, some men will like what you have.  Whether your intended victim... ahem.. mate likes your particular pair, thats is anyone’s guess, and good luck with it.  

      But understand that a male looking at other women doesn’t necessarily have anything at all to do with how you look.  Men just look.  Its what we do.  Perhaps if women weren’t spending so much time and effort on their appearance this wouldn’t be the case.  We look.  It doesn’t mean you‘re unattractive.  It doesn’t mean you‘re repulsive. It means that some other woman is attractive as well.  Being beautiful doesn’t preclude another woman from being beautiful.  No woman has a monopoly on good looks.

      The real point of all this is you have what you have.  If you‘re not satisfied with how it looks, you have options for improvement.  But most likely the best course is just to stop stressing over it.  

      Self acceptance is more attractive to me than breasts of ANY shape or size.  A woman who is totally neurotic over her body is not attractive at all.  At least to me.

      Thats as honest an answer as you‘re likely to ever get.  The writer is either completely non-committal on purpose, or he just really has no particular preference.  

      Most men do have a preference.  A holy grail of tits.  The odds of a man being matched up with a woman who has what he feels are completely perfect breasts are astronomically low.  Real life just doesn’t follow fantasy all that often.  For some men, the perfect breast doesn’t actually occur in nature.  And if he finally meets this woman, the esteemed holder of the sacred pair, the chances that he’ll be able to have a relationship with her are pretty slim too.  He’ll likely spend so much time oggling her chest that he’ll make a complete ass of himself, and not get a single clue of who she really is, what her driving desires and dreams are, and what she expects/needs out of a mate.  Obsessing over boobs will rob both parties from ever knowing whether they are compatible or not.

      So stop stressing.  Its not helping anything.



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      Veebis wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • Hetero Male here... No, "enhanced" boobage does not compare to The Real Thing at all, for me or any of my friends. Natural is always best, even if they're tiny. Rare exceptions include deflated mothers who might get a MODEST refill, or perhaps those with very lopsided twins getting things balanced out. But by all means, PLEASE do not over-inflate; nothing is worse than hard, unnaturally upright "breasts" that refuse to submit to gravity, jostling, etc.



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      Deathfirst wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • I Agree with just some dudes comment, a lot of it comes from self acceptance. Its like what I heard from a women once, so many men focus on the size of their penis and most of the time it doesn’t matter its how they perform or their personality that really makes most of the difference.



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      Blueiris1261 wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • Just a note:  I made this comment to make a point, which apparently I failed to do.  I had breast reconstruction after being diagnosed with breast cancer in both breast. After a bilateral mastectomy, I chose reconstruction to bring my body back to some semblance of normalcy, not to have Pam Anderson breast or for the approval of any man.  I did it for my own sense of femininity.  The point that I am trying to make is this:  I am no less sexy. In fact, I am probably more sexy because I have faced what I have faced.  I know that the most erotic part of a person, man or woman, is the BRAIN.  Ever try taking a roll in the hay with someone who is brain dead?  

      The bottom line is that we all get older and our bodies change. Men get prostate cancer and have surgery that cuts nerves so they can’t get it up.  Women have their boobs removed.  It is a shame that society supports the mentality that we are somehow less desirable as human beings because of our lot in life.  If we continue to be so obsessed with the “perfect” body, we will die alone and terribly disappointed.  Go within.... or go without....



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      Blueiris1261 wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • just trying to get rid of a duplications!!! uggh!



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      Personne wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • There was a comment from a co-worker the other day about her breast: « Men look only at my boobs » . I almost replied - but held back because of, you know, sexual harassment and stuff - that the chest is only one of the areas of interest for a normal adult (mature) male; the lower back, the finesse of the ankles, the softness of the skin, the thighs - Oh Lord, The Thighs - the neck, the tone + warmth of the voice, the infinite expression palette of the eyes and, finally, my personal favorite: the... lips are all part of the equation when female attraction is concerned.

      Yes, breast are considered sexual organs by men. But if this was the only yardstick by which female adequacy was measured, China population would not be what it is today...



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      Thisguy wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • "But you MUST admit the larger they are...the larger the need to look and touch...I mean...they are kind of in your face...aren't they?"

      Your kinda right. If you have big breast and there’s cleavage then yes we‘re going to look, usually till we get caught. But let me let you in on a little secret... smaller breast are more fun to look at, especially if we have a view from above, be that in a bar/table, desk at office, or your just shorter than us. Why is it more fun? We can see more of the almighty breast. Slightly open blouses or low cut shirts can reveal a lot of what we want to see. And if the bra is not a tight fit or you don’t fill it up, then there’s a good chance that we‘re going to get a peak at your nipple. And that’s the prize that we strive for. You can see breast just about everywhere you look, every women has them. But just that slight hint at seeing the skin tone change when we can see your areola is what it’s all about, and you usually can’t see that with women with big breast.



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      Justsomedude wrote Aug 17, 2008
    • @personne

      bravo! I concurr!

      I didn’t mean to imply that all men have the whole “holy grail” thing goin on.  Just most of the self-proclaimed “tit-men“.  This is after all an article about breasts and men who are obsessed with them.

      There are lots of parts to what collectively forms “sexy“.  Physically, and psychologically, a lot of things are taken in subconsciously.  The kind of lust and desire that doesn’t take into account personality or intelligence is not the kind of desire (correct me if I’m wrong) that most women are craving.

      Rare is the woman who wants to be a mere sex object unless she is either dumb, sees it as some form of power/security, or abjectly hates herself for some reason.  

      I would think rather that they want to be desired AND respected... setting aside the occasional passionate animalistic domination sex. (how one acts in the bedroom doesn’t always reflect life goals and personal image)

      I’d also like to add that were i female, I would probably find having a “perfect” body to be more of a curse than a blessing.  That is if having a life where people were falling over themselves to impress me and do things for me actually left me with enough of a brain and sense of reality to have the objectivity to form that opinion.  Intelligence and wisdom come through experience.  Experience comes through hardship and obstacles.  Being gently liften over obstacles and shielded from hardship by sugardaddies and admirers leaves one bereft of the wisdom and intelligence one would have gained.  And without wisdom and intelligence, one does not truly perceive reality.  Thus to me it would be a curse.

      Pity the woman who goes and spends thousands of dollars on herself in cosmetic surgery in order to feel better about herself only to find that it isn’t the kind of attention she really wanted.

      If someone could please explain something to me, I’m curious why you see so many extremely beautiful women with the absolute biggest jerks that walk the earth.  This is a far bigger mystery to me than the finer points of breast worship.

      Until this gets explained in a way that doesn’t involve excuses about alpha males and pack behavior, I don’t think men have to explain or apologize for any irrational body part fixations.

      C‘mon ladies... why do they do it?  Enquiring minds wanna know.



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      Srini wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • its simple dude
      Bigger the boobs, smaller the brains, that is why u see the hotest babes with absolute pathetic cretins



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • srini, you are probably right!  When it comes to superficial attributes such as a well endowed woman or a “buff” guy...the generalization IS that the two will gravitate toward one another because they are both fixated on the outward appearance...this is what they have in common. Yet, it is what lies beneath and the way that they carry it that determines how they are treated and who they will attract.

      In my humble opinion:

        A beautiful, intelligent woman who possesses a lovely “rack” will go out of her way to make sure that it is her brain and her personality that is admired first. I have known both types of woman during my lifetime.   Curvaceous or not, women who dress with little left to the imagination...everything is on display except for maybe the  “holy grail” as some of our previous male posters mentioned...the nipples showing are asking for the men that they attract. Then you have the woman who has the “goods“, big or small, but only gives you a hint at what she has other than the generous or not so generous curves she possesses...she dresses her package in a way that makes opening it even more of a mystery. Both women are very smart depending on what type of man she wants to attract...they understand this power that they possess, one is willing to pull you in by advertising her goods...a man doesn’t have to work too hard, while the other makes a man work for the peek that they so desire.  This is the rub:  The “on display” woman has no filter...all men of all types will gawk and cozy up to get a chance at experiencing their wares...they have not created a filter and the first to grab on are those men who are Alpha males, macho men who tend be “the jerks” that one of the previous posters mentioned.  While the mysterious woman is less likely to attract the immediate attention that the "on display" woman receives; it is because she makes a man work for it. She forces men to look up or look at the whole package: her eyes, her smile, her lips, the curve of her hips, her legs...even, God-forbid, her personality.  

      Whether we like it or not, the display of one’s breasts, large or small is non-verbal communication!  It does say something about us to men and women alike.  It is powerful and we women know this fact.  This is why it is so important for us to listen to blueirsis about her circumstance and what the men are telling us...if we define ourselves and depend on what God has given us in this department, as a way of defining ourselves...we may one day find ourselves totally lost when they no longer have the allure that they once provided.  

      As a not so well endowed woman, I struggled with this as many do, desired breast augmentation for a brief moment and then realized that I am a whole package...not just a woman with a set of “The Girls” on display...I want men to work for my attention AND I do not want them to be distracted by my non-verbal messages shouting out at them from my breast area...I want them listening to what I have to say...to be attracted by the other powers that I possess...AND like David says; ALL men “see us naked” anyways...the challenge is to make them look further than that...the one’s that can’t move past this thought are tossed to the side as the jerks that they are and the one’s that move past it and discover that we are a “whole package” of loveliness, inside and out...now these guys are the keepers...the filter has worked.

       

      Bottom line:  I prefer the challenge and the results that I have received from making sure that men see me as an intelligent woman with abilities and talents that are powerful, can meet them on their level, whether it be in business or social, which, by chance, happens to be nice to look at all around.  I have very little patience or use for a man that can not look at me eye-to-eye..."The Girls" are just a small portion (literally) of who I am as a person.  Take it or leave it!

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      Lastshot wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • .. are we women who have had breast cancer .. out of the running?

      I can speak only for myself, a male (is it ok for me to be commenting here?)  The sexiest thing in the world is self-acceptance.  I think that’s probably what underlies much of the appeal of women with relatively “perfect” body regions, is that they tend to be unashamed of their bodies, and have and easier time of feeling free and playful and whimsical and mischievous.  When a woman feels beautiful, it if completely obvious even over the telephone.  That has nothing to do with looking.  And it has everything to do with chemistry and electricity and resonance.  Smiling eyes will knock me off my feet every time.



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • You make my point...lastshot...thanks!



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      Stride000 wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • To each his own.

      I’m now wondering if being a breast-man means loving all shapes and sizes. If so, what I thought I was I am not. However I can tell you that when looking for a partner, breasts are the most important criteria after the face and personality and if it turns out they‘re not to my liking, sorry, better luck next time!

      I will agree that we‘re always in for a peek or a touch. But that can lead to either a disastrous view or one of the most pretty things on earth. Yet we always strive to catch a glimpse and hope for the best.

      I have to disagree also with the rubic zirconia comparison. To me, going out with a girl who has implants would be like driving a car that was previously accidented but been repaired and buffed up. And it’s the same thing with breats that are either sagging, looking down or sideways and too mushy.

      Finally, size doesn’t matter. As long as they‘re round, firm and perky.



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      Justsomedude wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • While there are ways around this, obviously, since I’m posting this now, I take it to be insulting.  I will check back in one week.  If I’m still blocked, I’ll not bother trying to return again.

      Good luck ladies.  I only gave you my honest opinions.  Whether wrong or right, its up to you to decide.  But at least they were honest.  If the only purpose of this site is to make you feel good, and doing so by throwing honesty out the window along with integrity and understanding, then I leave you to it.

      I’ll have no part of such things.



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      Phunphysics wrote Aug 18, 2008
    • I totally agree. Men (and some women I know) love breasts.
      Doesnt matter what message you‘re trying to get across, breasts help.
      Take a look at this and see if you don’t agree.
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      Tarbox wrote Aug 22, 2008
    • Are none of the women here offended by the fact that this article assumes that the purpose of their bodies is to sate the male appetite? Sure, we like boobs, but that doesn’t mean you should put them on display all the time. If you do, most guys will focus on your chest rather than YOU.
      -Matt



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 5, 2008
    • I’ve met more men who are obsessed with legs, which really stinks for me since I’m trying to get my knee back in working order. So I’ve been looking for a breast man who doesn’t pay attention to my screwy knee. However, I think I’ve recently found a man who just likes ME or me...bad knee and all. I’m smitten with the fact that he’s digging me because I’m a great woman (OK, that was a little self serving but I’ve lost a lot of confidence since my accident!!) and not because I have two balloons in my bra. However, I am not afraid to say, “Hey, I’ve got ‘em, they are paid for, enjoy ‘em“. That might not be a real “women’s libber” type of thing to say, but I’ve never been a feminist, just feminine. ;)

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      Great topic...as if we didn’t know men like breasts already! :)


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      Buckeyebren wrote Dec 6, 2009
    • Oh man.. bad pun, but I can tell you, my man is definitely a lover of breasts. I have seen him nearly kill himself craning his neck then tripping or running into something to catch a glimpse when he thought I was not looking. I do not know whether to call it funny or pathetic. You guys!



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      Faye43 wrote Dec 10, 2009
    • I am with you Justsomedude. I am well endowed and yes the bigger they are the harder they fall (gravity pulls). I have always tried to hide them with baggy shirts and sweaters for that very reason. I always have felt self conscious that when men saw me that is what they were looking at.



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