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Forget youth. I want to get old.  

It's a gift that I added to my life's wish list at the age of 13, after my father had his first heart attack. He was in his mid-forties.

Watching my father's declining health—interspersed with medication and surgeries—caused me to be unusually concerned with illness and early death. My father passed away at the young age of 58 from heart disease.

But with the right perspective, I believe good can come from the hardships of life. For me, the good was learning to value the precious time I have here on Earth with the people I love—and doing everything in my power to ensure myself as many days filled with fun, love, and laughter as possible. As Ralph Waldo Emerson believed, "The first wealth is health." And in striving for health, I have gained the wealth of vitality, happiness, and peace. To me, that is aging gracefully and wisely.

So when perimenopause came my way, I wasn't going to lament the aging process. However, if hot flashes were going to be part of the gift of aging, then I wanted to hit the return counter ASAP. I took a proactive approach. I consulted with [Link Removed], was born. Understanding my body—and all of the incredible changes it goes through—has allowed me to feel happier and healthier in my own skin.

During [Link Removed], I know that expecting myself to look like I did in my twenties would just be setting myself up for disappointment. It would cheat me out of the joy I deserve. Every day we are alive, we age. Age and time provide us with more opportunities, not less! As we age we have more of a chance to love and be loved. The longer we live, the greater the opportunity to expand our vision of the "possible" and reach out and grab it.

Ready to feel your best? Here are my top tips for aging gracefully during [Link Removed]:

1. Be an information sponge. Remember that "knowledge is power" mantra? It's cliché because it's true. The more you learn about menopause and your health, the more power you have to control the way you look and feel. [Link Removed] and receive a free downloadable menopause symptoms chart. I don't care what you do; you won't be good unless you first feel good.

2. Love yourself. You are beautiful just the way you are. So start telling yourself that! As Vivian Diller, Ph.D., a ballerina and model turned psychotherapist and author of [Link Removed], "Women who maintain an internal dialogue with themselves and their mirrors that is kind and gentle can maintain high self-esteem at any age. They are less self-critical and more accepting of change." I suggest keeping a gratitude journal at your bedside. Each night before you go to sleep, write down what you experienced and achieved that day for which you are grateful. By focusing on the positives of the aging process, you can start loving your aging self more.

3. Shed your inhibitions. "Women always try to tame themselves as they get older, but the ones that look best are often a bit wilder. Thinking about age all the time is the biggest prison women can make for themselves," Miuccia Prada once said. And I don't think that could be any truer. At this point in our lives, we have earned the right to go wild. So let your hair down and stop worrying what is "age appropriate."

Reaching out is IN! Suffering in silence is OUT! Aging has become something of a four-letter word to women. Ask me what it stands for, though, and I'll tell you "G-I-F-T!" Aging with our friends and family is the greatest gift for which we can ever ask. But unlike jewelry and flowers—a long life is a gift that only we can give ourselves! And now's the time to start shopping!

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