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I’m typically the good humor girl who likes to keep it light and breezy. Few people know that I also have a side that’s serious and dare I say it...a little deep.  

I’m having one of those evenings. Tropical storm Hanna is making for a wild, windy night but I’m enjoying the sound of the rain and a quiet house.

I think about my parents, who have both passed away over the past few years, every day. Tonight I was thinking about the storm and how my Mother would have been a bit excited about it. She loved watching the Weather Channel and plotting what would happen and when. My father would have been neatly tying down everything in the yard with yards of twine tied into perfect square knots. If the power went out, they’d enjoy a candle and conversation.

The loss of one parent (my Mom died unexpectedly in 2001 at the young age of 65)is, in my eyes, traumatic. The Mom who always had the answers left me to figure them out myself. I had no idea how much of an “orphan” I’d feel like until my father passed away in 2006 at age 78. He died a very drawn out death...painful for him and painful to watch. However, he was so full of humor and life right ‘til the end. I miss him dearly.

I am the Mother of 5 children. I cherish every moment with them, even the tough moments. Those who have not suffered loss do not yet realize how fast life can be taken away from you. I make sure I carry on the loud laugh my mother had, the passion for life that my father had and the dedication to my children that they both had.

If you have parents who are still here and moving on in age, pick up the phone or, if you can, make a visit for no reason. These are the times we will remember....



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 7, 2008
    • Thanks...it’s funny how it takes loss to turn up our appreciation level!



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      Jodi Sugrue wrote Sep 7, 2008
    • Amen and Amen to the lessons you’ve learned and how you carry them forward.  Though it still hurts, the lessons you chose to learn will go on to bless your kids in ways they don’t understand yet.



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      Wife2gregg wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • I remember thinking, “now I have to be a grown up” when my father died when I was 35.  I was devastated and 10 years later, still am.



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • The sadness never goes away....sorry to hear you lost your Dad. :(



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      Kimk890 wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • Having both of my parents gone when I was 38 was terrible.  My mom passed in 2004 from Alzheimer’s.  My dad passed when I was 8.  Not a day goes by where I don’t think of them.  I feel like an “orphan” as well.  Death is so final.  I remember doing my first Alzheimer’s walk three years ago and one of the walker’s said to me, “Welcome to the club.”  Meaning the club where both of your parents are gone.  This is one club I wish I didn’t belong to.  No one told me that when both parents are gone, a big part of YOU is gone as well.  Hang in there and know that you are not alone.



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