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It’s been four days now since B decided he didn’t want to date me any more...  Yes, I’ve cried a ton over it... and I’ve been angry... and I’ve finally started seeing things more clearly, even in the midst of the pain.  His sister-in-law called me Tuesday night to see how I was doing and to tell me how angry she is with B.  Her daughters are also...  Well, since then, I’ve received emails from both of the girls telling me they don’t want our relationship to change - which I don’t want either...  Today, I got an email from B’s mom saying she will continue to pray for me and that she will miss me.  Said she enjoyed having me part of their family.  So - all this just brought me to tears again.  B’s family became mine (and my family adored him also!) and I feel like I not only lost HIM, but his family also...  Wow - I’m so happy that they want to stay in touch, but at the same time I’m sad...  Boys are so STUPID!



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      Inakika wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Yes they are!
      But feel free to stay in contact with the family, as long as you don’t try to make any moves on B. Maybe he will come around, maybe not. Regardless, it sounds like you made some new friends that like your company.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • I agree with Ingrid. No reason to stop the friendship with his family. Best to you
      Cynthia



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • So nice they contacted you and want youto remain “family” with you! I am  hoping for the best possible outcome for you!
      Friends,
      Ree



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • annmarie, I dated this guy back when my oldest was a baby, and he was like a ‘daddy’ to her. We broke up because he ‘accidentally’ slept with his next door neighbor and she got pregnant. He wanted us to stay together, but I couldn’t because I knew I would never trust him again, but more importantly I didn’t want to take the chance that this child would never know his/her father, so I let him go..They are married now. Anyway, I still keep in touch with his mother, we talk a couple of times a month. I send her pictures of her ‘grandkids‘...lol..



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      AnneMarie Kimberling wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Thank you, girlfriends, for your comments and support...  B’s sister-in-law and niece called me again tonight - just to check on me... and because they love me....  That made me feel good...



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      Darla5 wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • amk024, we posted to you on the other blog about middle aged men.



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      AnneMarie Kimberling wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Darla - do you mean the one about why 40+ men can’t commit?  I appreciate those...



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      AnneMarie Kimberling wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • They are very upset - except his Mom... she likes me and all, but...  

      And Soulful - that had to be very difficult for you... sheesh!  What a jerkface...  I bet you looked at sugar differently for a while...  I probably would have shot arrows at a whole bag - with his FACE pasted to the bag....  LOL!!



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Teeky your right.  

      My advice is to move on girl.. its nice they want to stay in touch to torture you with the drama of your ex... like you really need that ?

      I say, move on be nice to them but cut them off and make your own world, with out your EX !

      I know its hard to let go but close that door and dont open it ever again.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • actually..I have 2 responses...‘Accidentally’ sleeping with other women seems to be something with my past men. He did that one, but this is even funnier. My ex hubby and I were having communication issues before we got married...I put him out and he’d rented an apartment...Well, one night he went to a party that his aunty had..His ex was there..Now I’m still confused about this..He gave his ex a ride home and he ‘accidentally’ had sex with her...the child is 13 yrs old and our daughter is 12...When I found out I called off the wedding, but was pressured by both sides of the family to work it out and continue on with the wedding because everything was already paid for..Yes I was a young fool...lol

      The explanation that my ex has..(and still uses to this day) is that he didn’t know she wasn’t me because he was so drunk..Mind you, I was about 85 lbs at that time and his ex was...well over 200 lbs..lol

      And as far as the guy with the neighbor thing. I was actually okay with my choice, I guess that’s why I was able to stay in contact with his mom. It was my choice to make and I felt that it was the right one. Now when I talk to his mom, I used to keep him off limits for conversation, because it wasn’t my business anymore.



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      AnneMarie Kimberling wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Teeky and Greeneyedlady...  competely cutting HIM out of my life will be very hard... we’ve been friends for over 15 years.... and there was a period when we weren’t talking and it was like a death that I never got over....  I’m just taking it one day at a time...



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • You can eventually get back to a friendship. Right now the emotions are just too raw. Take some time and put distance between you.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Soulful.. that was no accident.

      AMK, I have clients married 30 years or more that had to cut it off for sanity sake so they could move on.. Freinds with a man, can be cut and like vigirl said maybe someday a distance friendship but youll be pulled back in emotionally over and over and never move on.  

      Your choice, though.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • greeneyedlady..that’s why I said ‘accidently‘..lol..you missed my pun girl..I know neither one of them were accidents...My ex wanted me to embrace his kid and bring her into our home, but it was too hard for me to do..Besides, he never took a paternity test, so we never knew whether she was his or not...I’ve always maintained that the child is not his, But my girls talk to her now...Like I said she’s 13 and my daughter is 12...And her mom was hell on wheels..an evil piece of work...had to keep that out of my house before I committed murder on her..lol



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • amk..If you guys have that much history, then I understand distancing yourself would be hard, but you‘re gonna have to try, FOR YOUR SANITY, if not you‘re gonna want to find out what’s going on in his life instead of concentrating on yours..Don’t hold yourself in bondage like that..men love that they have power like that..don’t give him your power girl...Move on..There is someone out there, but how is he supposed to find you if you‘re hiding in the shadows pining away over B?



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      Mztracy wrote Nov 7, 2008
    • im with soulful. it will be too hard. You need to let go and move on w/o any of ‘him’ involved.
      maybe someday in the future, when the time is better.



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