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wow....i just spent 5 days with my momma and daddy...75 and 76.....we actually had a good visit. i gave them my room, allowed her to cook whatever she wanted, clean whatever she wanted, and she even did laundry. she told me that this has been the best visit she has ever had with me. all i had to do was go to work. i have never had a great relationship with her, i have always loved and respected her, but she was soooooo brutally abusive while i was growing up. she was stressed, working three jobs to provide for me and my four sisters while my bio dad traveled with a semi good band, and got addicted to alcohol...when he left when i was four, i didnt have memories of him. i still dont and havent cried over the fact that he died....but i digress....as i get older, i see more of my momma in me than i would like to sometimes....i broke the cycle of violence in my home. i dont beat my children, i take time to talk to them, and they arent afraid to look me in the face and tell me about their day.
anyway....my mother at 75 is getting so forgetful. we went to five different dollar general stores for her to get a pair of flip flops that she could have gotten at the first one. we went to olive garden so she could get italian food so she could get lazagna, and she got chicken tenders...i could go on and on....
my poor daddy...he just goes along for the ride. he is legally blind so he has to depend on her for most everything.
now, i notice that she is beginning to wear the same clothes over and over...she has started wearing flowered shirts so they hide spots..she was always so clean to the point of obsessive and now, she sometimes doesnt bathe for weeks.
i know im rambling, but i have had a whirlwind five days.
like i said. it has been the most enjoyable time with her since i have become and adult and had my own family.
my children, who will tell everyone that they dont like her actually cried when she told them she had to leave today....i was stunned.
God help me, i want to spend time with my mother and i know i dont have a lot of time left with her, but she still scares the hell out of me. im never sure when she will lose it and blow up at me, and i cant let her have my children alone because of the abusive situation i was in as a child. my children have been alone with her two times ...the older ones used to go with her, but my younger ones wont.
what am i trying to say here..? i really dont know...other than to allow myself to speak out that i had a GREAT time with my mother....i want to do it again....SOON
have a great day everyone.



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      L J wrote Jul 1, 2009
    • i read this and it touched my heart for you, and i am so glad to see people that can get along with their parents,.
      maybe now that she is old,she has mellowed to the point of you being able to really get close to her now!
      god bless you and your family!



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