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So, my nose is looking better...it’s obvious where the scars are going to be.  While my nose may be doing better, I am not.  I am still unable to forgive the dog.  I don’t speak to him unless i’m calling him to go out and go potty (and i only do that if no one else is home to do it) or shoo-ing him off furniture.  He used to be able to go wherever he wanted but i’ve decided that he is permitted on ONE chair in the living room and NO OTHER furniture.  He has a bed in the living room, our bedroom and in my shop.  His bed in the shop has been unused since “the incident” and i don’t see him getting his job back anytime soon.

He’s jumped onto my lap twice and both times i just got up and walked away.  He looks at me sometimes and i don’t know if he’s thinking, “I wish you’d forgive me,” or if he’s thinking, “she tasted good...how can i get another bite?”  I just don’t trust him.

My husband even commented tonight, “You’ve got to make up with him, Linda.”  The truth is, my feelings are hurt as badly as my nose was...  

My heart simply isn’t in it.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I can totally understand where you are at.  We consider our pets as family members and we would feel exactly the same as if a human "bit us up".  In time, your feelings will heal along with your injured nose.  You probably will never trust him like you have in the past but will resume a better relationship with him than what you have now.
      hugs
      xoxo



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I can understand how you feel. Unfortunately, the dog doesn’t know why you are mad-probably doesn’t even remember the incident! You’ll trust again, but just like anyone you love deeply who hurts you, it will take time.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Aw that’s awful. I’d be mad too, I’m sure. Or hurt. Glad you‘re healing up though.
      He knows you‘re upset with him- they sense that. I’m not really sure what I would do. Maybe hubby’s right- try to make up? Probably will take some time for you to feel better (inside) too- he’s like a fam member. I hope it works out!



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Awww i am so sorry ! I can certainly see where you are coming from. I have never been hurt by my doggies but would be devistated if they were to do so. I don’t even know what else to say...I hope things get better between you 2 soon.



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      Termite wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Honestly the dog has no idea why you are acting this way. I am sure that he forgot 5 minutes after it happened. I am afraid you are only making things worse by acting this way towards him. JMO I hope I havent offended you.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I understand how you feel, Linda. I know it’s hard to trust an animal that has bitten. They can’t communicate the way we do and therefore you don’t know what’s going on in his mind and his mood.

      But I also agree that he probably has no idea at this point why you are treating him this way and that could create more behavorial problems in the future. I’d consult a vet or a dog behavorial expert on this. I’d also have him checked out, maybe he had fleas or mites in his ears or some other issue that made him irritable that day.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I hope your heart and nose heals quickly!



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      Poollady3 wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I agree with Termite and Chocolatier. He has no idea what the problem is. We all think of our pets as our children, but of course our human children come first. I honestly feel you are being cruel to your dog. If you continue with your own behavioral problem you are going to make him even more aggressive.
      You are going to have to make a decision. Either forgive him or give him to someone who will love him unconditionally, like he deserves to be loved, and that has no children. I just can’t imagine an adult treating their pet this way. Yes, he bit you on the nose. There is a reason why he did that. Either a health issue, like Chocolatier suggested or he’s had a change in his life he isn’t happy with (such as food) or maybe a neighbor has a female dog that is in heat.
      Personally, after reading your blog when this occured, I believe you‘re more upset with how the bite has effected your appearance instead of the fact something may be wrong with your pet healthwise. JMO and not meant to offend.



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      Susan Sullivan wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I’m sorry about your nose and understand you being skittish around him but honestly, they are animals. They don’t think like we do and he likely doesn’t understand much other than you‘re pushing him away and he loves you.  My cats have bitten, clawed and kept me awake at night regularly, but they are like my kids and I look upon them like little, little children...I’d never treat my small child that way, I won’t do that to my darling, beloved animals.  I hope you heal soon, your heart, not your nose.  Your nose will be fine.



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      Daphne wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Well, i guess i’ve been told, haven’t I?



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Depends on which side of the fence you lean more to.  I, personally, could not be that forgiving.  I love my pets but they are just that, pets.  Not my children...even as much as I love them.  Maybe Im wrong...I dont know.  I can forgive my family members quicker than I can my pets, although my pets are more forgiving of me.  Got me thinking here............



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Just a tad harsh, ladies. I get where you‘re coming from, Daphne.



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      Daphne wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Poollady...i’m interested in where your animal expertise comes from.  Are you a vet?  An animal behavioralist?  

      Or perhaps you‘re a psychologist or counselor, being that you’ve addressed/diagnosed MY “behavioral issues.”  I’ve bitten NO ONE.  My behavior is reasonable and rational.  I am adult enough to conduct myself in a manner that is not offensive to the dog or anyone else.  Simply because i don’t interact with the dog does not constitute cruelty and your accusation is out of line, IMO.

      I AM offended by your comments.  I am NOT cruel to the dog.  I go about my business and leave him alone.  When i shoo him off the furniture, it is not done with any malice or unkindness.  I took him to the groomers today for two reasons.  One to get him cleaned up and trimmed and secondly, to talk to someone who knows the dog and who has a better understanding of dogs than i do.  If i was “cruel” to my dog, i would certainly not tend to his needs.  

      I do not consider my dog to be on the same level as my children and i never will. There is no health issue with my dog and if there was, i’d know about it and deal with it.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Kudos Daphne...well stated



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • I was bitten once (within 15 months) from a Shih-Tzu.  Cute little guy and you know I have dogs.  So as far as I know, I have no problems with animals and vice versa.  The dog knew me too.  So I was placing my face to his face for a kiss.  Next I know he bit on my nose.  His master said it could be my glasses; it could be my aggressiveness, or whatever.  His master felt bad but could not understand why he did that.  I was the only one he bit.  Luckily I was ok with a tiny scare.  

      I can understand your fear and cautiousness.  For even now, I am at a distance with that dog.  Again, mind you, I had and have big dogs and I have no fear of dogs but I rather remain a distance.. yes, the trust issue.



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      Susan Sullivan wrote Apr 15, 2009
    • Daphne, I know you were addressing Poollady, but at the same time, if MY comments were offensive or hurtful at all, I do apologize.  I guess, as I have no children, my feelings about my animals are perhaps a bit different than some of you blessed with kids. I did not mean to sound at all like I did not sympathize with your issue or feelings.  Indeed, you have as much right to your feelings as anyone else and I’m sincerely sorry that you were injured by your pet.



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      Linda Hendricks wrote Apr 16, 2009
    • Awww ... I’m so sorry about your nose... I just found out... I know how you feel... we have two black labs that I adore...  

      I hope you feel better soon and you and your little buddy are on good terms soon.



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