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My best friend has a son who will be celebrating his birthday next week and I have been having a tough time figuring out what to gift him! I have always had this thing about gifting - I am not sure if there is anything like it but I am a “bad gifter“! I give gifts to people that they really do not care about! And the funny part is that any one whom I gift starts looking at me in a strange manner. It’s as if they are thinking, “What a lousy gift this guy gave me for Christmas“. Now I really don’t know if it’s only me or this is actually true. I mean, after all a gift is something you give as a token of love. It should be accepted no matter how good or bad it is.  

Any-case, bright thoughts apart, I have been thinking hard this time to ensure that I give this guy a gift that he will remember me for. The last week I spent researching on his likes and dislikes. He loves sports and plays ice hockey most of the times. So my list currently includes custom ice hockey sticks, high end [Link Removed] or a jersey. I also came across the options of mini hockey sticks and stuff but I want to give him something that he can use and not just store in the house. My research shows that the kid already has a whole lot of hockey sticks so skates should be the right option. I know his shoe size (from his dad) and I know he plays goalie, so I pretty much got it figured, the type of skates that would fit him right. But I still have my doubts :( What if he does not like them? What if it does not fit him? Boy! I have been thinking over the gifting part almost all days this week and I think I might just go crazy over this.  

Is it only me or are there others out there who have issues with gifting Or giftophobia as I prefer to call it?

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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Yana Berlin wrote Jul 25, 2008
    • First of all I think it’s very nice of you to take so much time to choose a gift.  

      Here is an idea for you:  Tell your friend’s son that you have something special for him on his birthday, and choose a day when you can take him out to celebrate.  

      This is when you actually tell him what you have in mind and see if he is all stocked about it, if not, see what else he likes.  This way everyone is happy.

      I routinely do this with my nephew, and it works like a charm. He knows that this is the gift I want to get, this is how much it costs, and if he doesn’t want it, I’m more than happy to drive to Toys R Us to get something else that he needs and wants within the same amount.  

      Giving gifts are suppose to be fun, so don’t stress over it, this might help:

      All the best,

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      Stephanie wrote Jul 25, 2008
    • I used to have this “giftafobia,” but then I realized that giving gifts is fun and should not be stressful at all. I think that people over think buying gifts and that will cause anxiety! So just relax, get him the skates or a jersey- and throw a gift receipt in there! When you give it to him say I hope you like it I know you love hockey, but if you already have something like this or do not want it, here is the receipt and don’t be shy, its your gift and its supposed to make you happy so return it if you want to!

      Good luck and let us know how it goes!

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      Goldenapple wrote Jul 29, 2008
    • Yana, Stephanie, thanks so much for the tips..

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