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Hello Everyone,

I have not posted in a long time. I been having a hard time since I got laid off in May 2010. It looks like I am also in perimenopause. Add those two things together and you have non stop anxiety. My doctor wants me to go on anti-depressants and I am refusing. I wonder if anyone can share their perimenopause story. I feel like there is no hope right now. I feel so lost.

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      Lazylola wrote Aug 20, 2010
    • There is hope, I started menopause early, underwent two back surgeries 6 months apart last year, got laid off in between and I’m still here. Life is hard but having family and friends helps. There is much support here, hope we can help and encourage you in one way or another. Have you tried any HRT? My doctore suggested that and said it may help with the mood swings. I am terrible at taking stuff regularly so I can’t say if it is helping.



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      Kisbel65 wrote Aug 20, 2010
    • Lola,

      Thanks for the reply. I don’t know if HRT will work for me (I had trouble with birth control). My doctor suggest zoloft for the anxiety. I don’t like taking anti-depressants, but the anxiety is out of control. I have tried natural treatments, but have not had any luck. What is your most troublesome symptom with perimenopause or are you in menopause?



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      Suzann wrote Aug 20, 2010
    • Hi Kisbel,

      I went thru peri fairly easily because I was on Prozac. Now I’m fully in menopause, and it’s okay. Not bad at all.  

      Like you, anxiety was the most difficult thing for me during perimenopause.

      I guess the anti-depressant was a good thing, but from my personal, non-medical-background experience, if I had to do it again I would get off the anti-depressant sooner than I did. I stayed on it for a few years, and now I want to get off it. It wasn’t all that easy, but I finally did get off it.  

      I guess like anything, in moderation it can be a blessing.  

      My doctor had said I would probably be on anti-d’s for the rest of my life. That didn’t sit too well, but I thought, “Well, he’s the doctor and I’m just the schlump,” so I stayed on them. In retrospect, if I had it to do again, I’d set a time limit, like - yes, I can’t stand this anxiety and Prozac can make my life more functional, so I’ll stay on it for a year (or whatever) and then get off it and see what happens.”

      Good luck to you with this. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I know it’s not an easy time.



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 21, 2010
    • I’m in full menopause now, and I hate it, but it gets better, my hot flashes aren’t quite so frequent, the mood swings come and go, but I don’t start crying at the drop of a hat like I did before. I hate the weight gain around the middle. I do love being liberated from those pesky mother nature monthly visits. It’s been years since I’ve had a period. I still have anxiety and was prescribed anti d’s and took one only, I don’t want to be on something I’ll have to continue to take forever. Things do get better, but while you are going thru it it seems like it will be with you forever, so medications that promise to make it better start looking real good. I hate taking anything so I just suffer thru it, but I don’t recommend that, visit your doctor and keep on him/her for something that works for you.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 21, 2010
    • Hi Kisbel. We have a group for perimenopause so please join in with the conversations there - http://fabulously40.com/group/id/menopause-101-538

      Please know that so many of us are in the same boat. We’ll all be there to help each other through it. I’m just coming out of a horrible 4 years with perimenopause. Lots of crying, sadness, lack of energy, feeling of hopelessness, weight gain, fatigue, intense hot flashes. I promise you that it does get better but I understand how this feels right now. We’ll get you through it with our stories, experiences and sharing what has worked for each of us.heart


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      Kisbel65 wrote Aug 21, 2010
    • Susann,

      I have set a time limit on the Zoloft, 7-9 months. I am also on the lowest dose possible, 25mg. How long were you on it total. Also, did any of the anxiety come back once you got off it. Now that you are in menopause, how do you sleep?



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      Kisbel65 wrote Aug 21, 2010
    • Mz. V,

      You said you were on Prozac. Could you tell me if you had any side effects on it? I know the sexual side effects of SSRIs are a problem and I am concerned. If this is too much of a personal question, please accept my apologies.



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      Allinet48 wrote Oct 10, 2010
    • Have you had Vitamin D levels. A lot of women have that defiency, don’t know it and feel like crap. I had to take prescription D3 for 12 weeks now I take an OTC supplement. Make sure it’s D3.heart



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      UK Girl wrote Oct 10, 2010
    • Sorry your feeling this way - but do join in here and keep posting we are all in the same boat and many voices so one could have an answer for you



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