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Here I am laying on the couch with my computer on my lap and a glass of wine by my side. Life is ok right now, for the moment. I’m not necessarily a negative person. Just sometimes life has so many twists and turns.

I’ve been married or in a relationship for the last 20 years and now in the process of ending my second marriage. It is hard, but I have 50 more years to find true love, peace and serenity. It will be great!

Both of my marriages were to alcoholics, the last one being physically abusive. I’m not going to replay the awful realities of the marriages, but hopefully give one woman’s perspective of living with alcoholism and coming out the other side. We can always make it to the other side. We always have choices.

I have this knack for finding needy men. They look at me and all of a sudden they are stuck like velcro. Is it pity? Is it love? Is it a need to feel wanted? Probably all of the above. All I know is I think I am finally growing up and able to live another day for myself.

I dedicate the rest of my life to myself. Finding out who I am and what I need because I am very important.


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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Mary Clark wrote Oct 4, 2008
    • Lilibet...

      Some people are drawn to men who are needy.  But just look at it this way.....the next time you come across a man that seems to need  you......get the heck out of dodge.  LOL...and need to be happy by yourself...FIRST...then...when you can be happy by yourself...and not need anyone or anyone need you....THEN...yu are ready to find someone you can share your already happiness with.  You shouldn’t marry to make yourself happy or anyone else happy....but to share that happiness with them.  

      I love my husband, but God forbid anything happens to him...but I don’t know if I can do it all over again.  It’s hard training them......  ;)  

      Good luck with your life.....take care of yourself...

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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Lilibet wrote Oct 5, 2008
    • Thanks maryclark. I guess I’m a late bloomer to the fact that i am the only one that can make me happy. it’s one of those Duh moments. happy

      It is very hard training and them, especially when they don’t want to be. LOL

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      Kisbel65 wrote Oct 5, 2008
    • I am new here. Your blog called out to me. I love your attitude about having another 50 years to find love. I get so caught up in my age (43) and my desire to marry again that I forget that we still have plenty of time.  

      My brother was an alcholic, so I understand your pain. I wish you many blessings.

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