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My new challenge - staying hip for the sake of my kids.

Growing up, my mother and I never shared clothes or shoes. First off, our body shapes were so different that nothing ever fit the both of us. More importantly, even though my mom was only 18 years older than me, I never considered her “hip” enough for my standards.



As a teenager, I didn’t have a huge interest in clothes or fashion. To me, sexy meant “see- through.” Stylish meant my best friend Julia had pronounced it as such. As I got older I put on a few pounds, and designer clothes were out of the question. Twenty years ago, prominent designers didn’t go out of their way to make clothes in sizes larger than six.


When my daughters were born, so was my desire for hip clothes, accessories and staying in tune with the latest fashion. Fortunately, I relied on a few close friends to keep me up to date on the latest trends, because I still couldn’t figure it out on my own.


Fast forward 20 years, and my girls are all grown up. They shop more in my closet than in the department store, partly because it’s so convenient and partially because I let them. At one point we were all the same size, which was great for them and not so good for me. They were constantly borrowing my pants, belts, shirts, and purses, and whenever I walked into my closet, I never knew what would be missing.


Recently, however, my hormones have kicked in, the pounds have come on and we can no longer wear the same size anymore. Their raiding of my closet has diminished now to accessories.


Lately, I have found myself thinking more about what to wear in order to stay hip for the sake of my kids. They tell me what’s hip and what’s not, what’s cool and what’s hot, and the amazing part is that I often find myself agreeing with them and changing my wardrobe to suit their tastes.


Why do I try to stay hip for my daughters? For obvious reason, one being it makes them happy, another because how I look is important to them. When I get to spend a day with the girls, they want me all dressed up and made up, and I’m happy to please them.


Given some of today’s fashions, I wanted to make sure that I set the right example. After analyzing the situation, I decided to use it to my advantage. I told my daughters, “If you want me to wear jeans that end halfway up my butt, fine. I’ll wear them and suffer. But your jeans are going to be on top of your butt and not below your knees. If you want me to follow your wardrobe guidelines, than you have to follow mine!” To my surprise, they readily agreed (at least, most of the time).


The good news is that this parenting scheme seems to be working. My daughters are dressing more “tastefully”, and the daily raids upon my closet have significantly decreased. The bad news is that I sometimes pay a price for it.

This morning my daughter had me wear pants so tight they almost cut off the circulation in my waist. The crotch was too short, and my behind felt like it’s trying to escape the confines of these designer jeans. With each step, I was reminded that my hips aren’t what they used to be.


However, I’m definitely hip, the kids are happy, and so in a way I’m killing two birds with the same stone, so when I’m old and gray, I can’t wait to see what fashions my daughters are forced to wear in order to stay hip for their kids!

Fashionably yours,



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