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My oldest son, 22 this month, announced this afternoon that he’s deploying (by choice, again) the end of August.  He’s in the Army National Guard and had the choice of staying home for another year before re-deploying if necessary.

Ryan was born a soldier or more likely gently molded into one.  My father was a Marine in the late 50’s and has always been extremely proud of that regardless of the fact he received a Dishonorable Discharge for being incapable of taking orders.  Perfect career choice, huh?  

That couple with the fact that the father he knew from birth to age 8 was also a Marine.  From the age of 2 my son has been a soldier.  

He chose Infantry when he signed up because he felt there he would do the most good.  It’s also what puts him in the most danger.  He’s already gotten caught in one explosion over there by an IED (Improvised Explosive Device) that nearly cost him his life (see my Videos).

He’s been home a year and is bored out of his mind, is working full-time but hates what he’s doing, is totally irresponsible when it comes to paying bills, charges up credit cards and cell phone bills until they turn him off and then he’s off somewhere else to do it again.  

His creditors are calling us on a daily basis trying to get him to pay up.  We’ve counseled and pleaded and explained until we‘re purple in the face.

Now he tells me he’s leaving again in less than two months and I’m almost relieved.  He’s a big boy now and it’s time to let him figure it out on his own but this is not the decision I was hoping for.  Damn kids.

Thanks for listening.


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      Yana Berlin wrote Jul 2, 2008
    • We as parents do all that we can for our children, up until a certain age, we take care of them, we make choices for them, then we ask them to take over. We are happy when they make their first steps, and are okay when they make their first mistakes. As they get older we hate to let go, so we hold on any which way we can. Sometimes by staying angry at them for doing the wrong things, making the wrong choices, sometimes we are right, sometimes we‘re not.

      They will always remain our little children at 2, 22, or 42, and will always be there for them.

      I was shocked to see my own mom scold me at 42, this is when I finally got it, that a mother's job is never done.

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