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I can be from old school when it comes to Tattoo.  When it comes to my son wants tattoo, I puzzle.  

He said he wanted to go to Reserve and so he needed his tattoos done before that.  He turns 18 in June and I told him he could have it done then without my consent.  He said it would be too late for he would be shipped out and they would not allow new tattoos.

I was able to stall him from having his ears gauged or tattoos for a few years now.  Now he is bringing this up.

I asked where and what?  He said on each upper arm.  One said “to whose I love” the other side “to whose I hate“.. hmmmm, Mom does not like that.  Then he said how about on his back, “life is full of ups and downs” hmmmm

Then he said how about his Chinese last name on his wrist?  Hmmm...

I am puzzled.  Please tell me of your opinion, especially if you are a Christian, share with me the Christian standpoint please.  Thank you.



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      Daphne wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • I don’t know how Christian my response will be, but it is personal.

      Tattoos are permanent.  Young people change their minds about everything from college majors to boy/girl friends to jobs and on and on.  My angle in this has been to impress upon my children that they have not fully developed into the person they are destined to become.  Tattoos can interfere with the bigger picture.  Once a person is set on his life path, THEN is the time to make the decision to get or not get a PERMANENT mark on his/her body.  

      If it was me, i would stand firm on not signing for a tattoo.  If his 18th birthday is too late, he’ll have to wait until he’s out of the Reserves.  Life is full of disappointment and this is one from which he will not suffer.  IMO, stand your ground.

      BTW...i have nothing against tattoos.  I find them to be beautiful in most instances...most especially when they are well thought out, representative of something special, and the decision of a consenting adult .  I can't tell you how many stupid tattoos i have seen that were the result of an impetuous teen-ager's hasty decision.



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      Esther Bloom wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • CD,
      I think that tattoos are a personal preference. I don’t know how old your son is but I suggest wait until you are 18. I will soon have my dad tattooed on me as a memory of my hero. He is still in my heart always will be there is just something ,for me, that is very sentimental about it.estaticestatic



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      Feathermaye wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • I think Daphne said it just right. If you give in to him now, later you may both regret that he didn't wait until the decisions, and therefore the consequences, were fully his.

      I have two tattoos and don’t regret either one of them. I was 23 when I got the first one and 27 when I got the other. Some jobs have required that they be covered while working, but most don’t really care.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Thank you Daphne.  You speak my mind.  Like you, I do not have anything against it but I am concerned for it is permanent.  It is kind of fashion now but what if... Thanks for the encouragement.



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      Coachmombabe wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • CD, all of our children have tats, including our daughter who has one very large geisha angel on the calf of her right leg. Our son, Jesse (no surprise) got one before he reached 18, without our consent.  

      It takes these young people a long time to grow up sometimes. Your preventing him now may not have any impact, except to delay the inevitable. Right now you may have some influence as to what  he gets tattooed on him, since he has to rely on your approval.

      That said, we all make choices that we must live with the consequences of. In the grand scheme of things, tattoes may be a relatively minor issue compared to other things that could happen to teach cause and effect. I believe that the character of the person should ultimately be the focus.

      As the others have said, it’s such a personal thing, you must follow your own heart and conscience.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Thank you Feather and Fox.

      Should I give in a little, allow him a small one and only his name?



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      Polly W wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • I, as a Christian, have no belief against tattoos, piercings, etc.
      You can do much worse, and still get into heaven. There is nothing in the  bible remarking about tattoos. The markings they speak about are the “marks of the beast“. Those are not tattoos, sorry to say—God accepts, loves and the only thing needed to get into heaven is repent, and accept Jesus as your personal Savior. We will be surprised when we get there and see who actually got in!



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      Coachmombabe wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Actually, there are references in the old testament regarding tattoes (being forbidden to have them, Leviticus 19:28), but I believe this was because other cultures were honoring their dead this way. This is in the same text as not shaving. But don’t take my word for it, I’ve not formally researched this.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Thank you for all your comments.  It sure helps a lot.



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      Stella Gonzales Johnson wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • ChinaDoll, my daughters got tats when they were 16 but I explained to them that it is something permanent and they would have to live with it for the rest of their lives. The only reason why I consented to it was because I did not want them to go behind my back and get one of those homemade tats. My oldest twin has stars going up her tummy side and my youngest one has a girlie skull with Mommy, Daddy, and her sister’s name. These tats that they have are always covered up so no matter what profession they go into they will not be displayed. I know this is a hard decision and I am not saying go ahead a let him get one. Today’s generation is all tatted and pierced up and that is what is acceptable.   Best wishes CD, make the best decision for you and your son. Sincerely, Stellao



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      Deb Darby wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Hi, CD.

      He goes to the Reserve on his 18th birthday? I think this should be your #1 concern. Honor and bless him for his sacrifice for all of us. Pray for him to stay out of harm’s way. Whether or not to get a tattoo is beyond trivial in our dangerous world for our military. My two daughters have tattoos. They got them starting on their 18th birthdays, and they paid for them themselves. I don’t mean to be depressing, but reality for me is that I would GLADLY pay for just about anything my children would want if they were so brave as to enlist.estaticfrownestaticfrown



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Under 18?
      Absolutely NOT. (I’m not anti-tattoo, but no way at 18 or younger.)

      He’s too young & will change his mind about many things as the next few years pass. If he has a ‘fit’ about it, tough.
      Tattoos are permanent and having them removed is excruciatingly painful. Worse than the tatt itself. I’d make him wait until he’s older. Then if he still wants one~ go for it.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Christian standpoint~ I missed that part.

      I’m not sure.
      Probably something along the lines of “If God wanted us to have one, we’d have been born with it?” jk. I really don’t know.

      I’d not let him get any words put on. Chris did it at age 18 & he hates it less than a year later.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Tough Tough Tough.. All I can say.  He did have a Mongolian spot on his butt when he was born.  A big one, and every daycare asked if I abused my child.  He told me it was gone now.  Thank goodness otherwise I would call him blue butt.  

      I am taking all your suggestions into consideration.  

      BTW, my friend is driving me to Humane Society without my hubby knowing.  Pray for me.  

      Between animals, kids and hubby, that got my world spinning.

      On a good note, my rabbits are out in the garden and they did the bunnies happy hops.  C ya all later.  Thank you again....



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      Coachmombabe wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • CD, my little granddaughter has a spot like that on her lower back. People are always asking how she got that bruise!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • It is common for Asian and African descent.  Like the Strawberry patch on the Whites.  I know.  I have a MD note to give out to clarify. frown



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      Coachmombabe wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Hmmm, we may need to do that eventually. She’s only 11 mos. now. Can see that being an issue when she’s school age. Thanks for the advice.

      hey, I thought you were going somewhere? ;o)



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Ya ya... can’t get away from you all - you all get me hypnotize.  Ok, I am going.  C ya.



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      Dennie05 wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • This has worked so far in our household so far....
      Both of our children WANT to go to college and need our help(both are in either undergrad or grad school).  I have said....if you get a tatoo...the $$ stops. Plain and simple.  What they do with their body once they are off my “payroll” is up to them.  Hopefully this will buy the time needed so the “novality” will wear off.  If not...there are far worst things in life.  I have nothing against tatoos, I just want them to really think it through before placing such a permanent object on their bodies.  Just what has worked so far....call it a bribe if you want...but it is what it is...buying us time.



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Leviticus 19:28
      King James Version
      Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.

      New American Standard Bible
      You shall not make any cuts in your body for the dead nor make any tattoo marks on yourselves: I am the LORD.

      I have raised my son on the above principle and he has just turned 20, no tattoos and I continue to pray that he will always remember, what’s right and what is wrong and to know that with God, there is no such thing as a compromise.

      As long as he is under your roof, I say “no“, but that’s just my opinion.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • It’s a tough call CD. If you really dont want him to get one, stand your ground and he will have to wait until he’s out of the reserves.  Seems that him being in such a “rush” to get them and not really knowing for sure what he wants would be a mistake he will regret later.  IMHO

      xoxo



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • Good try Story Teller, I will approve him in the private part.  tongue out



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      Chrysoula Holtzhauer wrote Mar 21, 2009
    • How old is he? and Where is he getting it?  

      And what’s it going to look like?



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      Kelly Robertson wrote Mar 22, 2009
    • When he’s 18, he can do what he wants and HE is the one who has to live with it, not you.  Offer your advice now while you can, and let it go.  He has HIS LIFE to live.  Now, if he’s still living under your roof and is financially dependent on you, even if he is 18, I personally think he cannot do what he wants.

      Regarding the military, going into the USAF was the best thing I ever did in my life.  Support that - he’ll learn new skills, travel, make new friends and will succeed at things he’d never imagine.  

      love, kelly



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 26, 2009
    • He did it yesterday!  On hi s right arm - it was cursive saying “To those I love“.  It cost him $100 and 2.5 hours of pain and torture.  He likes it.  Oh well.  We will discuss the other part “To those I hate”   I told him the word “hate” is too strong.  However, in two months, I will have no say for he will be 18 then.  

      Perhaps as a revenge, I should tattoo on my body “Oh shxt, I hate my son’s tattoo of .....” just kidding, no way.estatic



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 26, 2009
    • get us a pic!!

      where i am you have to have id showing u r 18 or a parent signature.



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