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In April, i moved back to TN. To give a little past history, a yr and half ago i moved down here to help my son and his wife, who were expecting their second son, My daughter in law has a family history of mental illness, her mother, her sisters and herself, seemed to suffer from bipolar disorder, with depression and aniexty.  So when she had the second child, within months she freaked out on on us. And literally threw me and my husband in the streets.  Finally we made peace with them, because he is my son, and they do have two of my grandchildren, who are now 3 and 2 yrs old.  So finally because im an idiot, they talked us into moving back down here, to look for work and to start a new life down here.   I have been here since April now, and OMG this is crazy house. Everything was good for awhile, but now the wife is losing it again, she is under doctor care, on meds.  When i got here they had a young man living with them, they claimed his was a friend and that they were just helping him out. They seemed to not know anything about him or his past. And him and my sons wife seemed awful close. Well now we find out after this boy moved out there is something going on between the two of them. She left one weekend, claimed she would be gone a couple of days, just needed some space, time to think.
And then last week left my son, told him she would be gone a month, and she just didnt know if she loved him anymore, and had feelings for this other guy. She was gone for 5 days and has came back again.  She has my son on an emotional rollercoaster. And in the middle of all this is my grandsons, who are to young to understand. She doesnt want my son to touch her, or to make love to her. She kinda wanders thru the house in a daze. The meds arnt helping her at all.  My son is very passive and would do anything for her, but she is doing him damage.  My son is just now to the poing that he is realising that his wife has severe problems and could be a danger to their sons.  And we are here in the middle, im trying to play devils adovocate with her. but honestly unless she gets helps, she is going to lose her children and her marrage. This guy who i think she might be having an affair with, doesnt act normal either. We fear for the children if she trys to take them.  We are here with our daughter, her hubby and my lil grandaughter, Lexie(she is a yr old) We all moved into a large house which is very nice, and i have like large room in the back of the house. But we so want to bail out of crazy house right now. Hubby just started a job, and my son in law has an interview this wk. Im still looking.  Any advice on this would be appreciated...

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 30, 2011
    • Tracy, I wondered what happened to you and I’m so very sorry life has taken this turn for your family.

      I know this must be one of the most difficult things you’ve ever had to deal with but, if it were not for you and your husband, who knows what would become of your son and his children.

      You may want to start talking with a lawyer about divorce laws in TN. Your son may have to take some action to save those kids from being hurt by their unstable mother. He must be very distraught about the situation but it sounds to me like that woman is so unstable you never know what she will do next.

      You’ll be in my prayers!



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      Anne E wrote May 30, 2011
    • Can you live in the same town, but not in your son’s house?  I think that your grandchildren need you right now.  If they have some place to go when their home gets too crazy, it could be really helpful.  I would also suggest that you keep a journal depicting exactly what your daughter-in-law does when she is out-of-control.  This could be helpful when/if your son applies for custody of the children.  If they divorce and the son gets custody, you can probably breath a lot easier, but it is hard for children to be raised by a single dad and he might need you close by.  Good luck and I admire you for making the big sacrifice and moving to help your family.



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      Tracy Lynn Brown wrote May 30, 2011
    • Im so glad to be back here, this is my favorite place onlineheart Ive missed everyone on here. Not to sure what our next plan of action is at this point, daughter in law is still going to see her male friend, and leaving grandsons at home with us and thier father. I feel for my son, and i can only hope he gets stronger and braver thru this. Thanks all for thoughts and prayers.. i really need the friends right now



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 30, 2011
    • Well Tracy if I can make it up to Nashville we will go have coffee and talk!

      In the meantime I’m so sorry for all that you are going thru heartbreak



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