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I couldn’t decide If I wanted to be Anonymous about this subject because I am a little bit embarrassed about my situation and sort of ashamed. So please bare with me Friends.

I have been going thru these on going dentist appointments. I have diabetes and part of having diabetes Is gum problems If you don’t take care of yourself like your suppose to. For Instance “Me” I put off going to the dentist and I haven’t been doing well with keeping my sugar down to a normal level. I admit It’s my fault for not taking better care of myself. So down the road I have had some teeth pulled and had to have partials, Not something I have been proud of or enjoyed having.  

I found out about a couple months ago that I need to have an upper denture and a new lower partial. I didn’t cry In the dental office, I just pretended like I was fine with It, but when I got home, I cried my eyes out! I didn’t have anyone to blame but myself. I said to myself “Okay” Whats done Is done and I have to live with It and deal with It. I will try to be strong and not stress out about It too much. Until today. I made my last 2 dental appointments, One for a counseltation with the oral surgen and then the one where I get my teeth pulled and denture In. I then started to STRESS out again, I thought I was okay with It but now that It’s getting closer to that time, I lost It! I’m not strong anymore and I’m scared.  when I left the office, I called my hubby and cried, He told me It will be ok and for me not to worry. Hes been such a great person thru all this and still loves me even knowing I’m getting an upper denture. I’m 44 years old and already getting dentures. I feel absoulutly awful. I really needed to just vent and I knew my Fabulous women friends would understand me.  

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Hugzzzzzz
Frannie

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      Lazylola wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Frannie, I could tell you horror stories about me and dentists and oral health. My family on my moms side passed down some horrid bad oral gene, I swear most everyone in her family, brothers and sisters have horrible teeth, or no teeth. The two aunts that still have their teeth have them at a great cost ($$$). My brothers and I inherited the bad gene and we have also had our share of expensive dental issues. I’m lucky to still have teeth, but most of my teeth have been capped, I have a bridge, and have spent way too many thousands to keep myself from not looking like a toothless hillrat, no offense to any toothless hillrats. I have also found it embarrasing especially when back xrays show my head and you can see all the work done. It didn’t help that my mothers idea of taking care of a cavity was to immediately pull a tooth out instead of filling it...so needless to say I am missing some molars due to that. So my dear Frannie, I understand what you are going through, I hate going to the dentist but it is a necessary evil so I can preserve what I have paid dearly for, I also fear that one day I will end up with dentures..as if I need anything else to fall apart on me LOL....you are not alone, if I could be with you to hold your hand I would in a heartbeat. Just recently after many dentist visits where I kept asking to check a tooth for a cavity which they kept telling me there was nothing wrong with it, they finally found a cavity, well since it had gone on for such a long time by the time they “discovered” it, it was too late to save it. So when I was sitting there all numb and what not they come in and tell me that they have to pull it out. I LOST it. I was taken back to when I was a kid and had saveable teeth yanked out....you will be okay and you are lucky to have such an understanding and loving hubby. And you are still one beautiful woman, don’t ever forget that.



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Thank you Lola. Your right, I am lucky to have an understanding hubby. I thank god for that. Hes been really great thru this whole thing and hasn’t said anything bad about my mouth problems.worried Thank you for understanding and I hope you don’t have to end up getting dentures, at least not till many many many years from now, If not any at all.



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      Sandils1962 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Frannie,  I know where you are coming from.  I’ve had dentures since I was 40.  They aren’t that bad at all.  You will get used to them.



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      Marie66 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Frannie,
      Sweetheart you are not alone, I been having to go to the dentist myself and here recently I’ve been having to get some teetth pulled myself and like you I have no one to blame but myself. And I too fear that I might be needing some dentures one day too.. I really don’t want that day to come but I know that it will, so in the meantime my dentist will do what he can to safe the rest of my teeth that I do have.. I’ve only had about 3 pulled out but that to me was embrassing.. I have a tooth right in the front that is chipping off little bit at a time so when I smile, I smile with my mouth closed, they could safe the rest of my tooth and put a crown.. So I have 2 more appt already set up, so I will do what I can to take care the rest of my teeth..
      I too wish I could be there for you and hold your hand thru the whole process..You are lucky to have a caring and loving hubby.. My hubby is there for me and he says he loves me no matter what..And that means alot to me..
      So you are NOT ALONE, we are here for you..
      Love Ya!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Frannie I am so sorry that you feel this way..(((((Frannie)))))) for you.

      Thx for sharing this tho....



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      Cmrobert wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Frannie...Frannie....Frannie!!! I so understand what you are going through.  My story:  I have always been diligent in going to the dentist and followed all of the rules.  Even so, I learned in 2003 that I had aggressive periodontitis disease (my bones were deteriorating too fast) and that I needed to have all of my upper teeth pulled.  I was shocked, scared and mad. I delayed the pulling for 2 years and finally had them all pulled.  I too had immediate dentures put in but still felt less than everybody else.  I cried and cried and cried.  After a few days I felt somewhat better but it was traumatic for me personally.  I later decided to have implants put in (very, very expensive) and can tell you - they are perfect.  Honey, this too shall pass.  I want you to know and understand that what you are feeling is normal.  Trust me when I tell you, you are not alone.  Cry all you want to sister-girl.  If you’d like to talk feel free to reach out to me.

      Peace,
      Cheryl



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      Deb Darby wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • I love the support we all have here! I don’t have issues with my teeth (yet?), but my husband does, due to acid reflux, so make sure to get that checked out if you have any problems with it.
      I DO have an issue with my blood sugar, Frannie. My last check-up was a wake-up call and “lecture” from my doc. I am pushing type 2 diabetes which runs in my family and have the order for a 2nd blood test. Besides trying to follow the doctor’s diet changes, I joined SparkPeople, Frannie. It’s a really cool site www.sparkpeople.com which helps with diet, nutrition support and tracking. I’ve made a friend locally who’s now my walking buddy. I’m not doing as well as I like, but thank you for sharing your story, because it reminds me and motivates me again...something I need EVERY DAY!



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • My mother has a magnet on her refridge “Growing Old Is Not for Sissies” I laugh and say you got that right. You should not be embarrassed at all, but I do understand your feeling that way I deal w/thinking Diabetes is my fault. And it is for the most part. But I too have that wonderful geneology. Thanks folks! jk I’m over it. Honestly you can only take it one day at a time and some times monent by moment. Thanks Deb for the web info I will ck that out too. We ALL have issues, be it teeth, diet, weight whatever. Stay focused on why you are doing this don’t loose sight of this. My husband has an upper denture and lower partial and I do not love him any less. I don’t even think about it until someone says something like this or he has something stuck in his teeth. He’s way more consious of them than I am. It does not take away from his looks he’s still good looking.
      But I think I am getting older and that thought haunts me sometimes, when things happen I respond by crying and thinking “Its happening” Have a good cry and move forward, you are very fortunate to have the hubby you have sounds like he loves you uncomditionally. I have girlfriends who’s hubbies are big JERKS. Let’s just be glad we have who we have. I am here for you. (((((hugz))))))



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Thank you so much Ladies for commenting on my blog, you don’t how much this means to me having you here to talk to and letting you know whats going on with me. Thats why I love this Sight, I always have someone to talk to and I appriciate every moment here.

      I really thought I was the only one who was going thru the early denture stage, I felt alone but now I know others have gone thru the same thing or similer and I am not feeling alone anymore, Thank you for telling me your stories.happy

      Cmrobert....I was also thinking of Implants, but your right, they are really expensive and my dentist said to start out with dentues and see how I take with those and then maybe down the near future I can possibly get a few Implants just to keep the dentures In place better. Will see.

      Marie66...I haven’t smiled for a few years now, so I know what your saying. Not sure I will smile afterwards either, I am so use to smiling with my mouth closed now.

      Thank you ladies once again for making me feel better.
      ((((((( Hugz )))))))



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • My younger sister had full dentures at 35, she got the implants and they are beautiful she has the prettiest smile now. She is happy w/implants but also says they were expensive, her family gave up a vacation for them. She called me crying one day out of the blue and told me she was going in tomorrow to have the uppers pulled. I was shocked because I didn’t even know she was going to the dentist. I asked her what is making you cry? she thought and said I feel like an old lady. I said ok sister sue, if you are old that makes me old so shut your trap about that cuz I AM NOT OLD! Why does that bother us. I admit it does bother me.



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Yes, thank you Debj for the web Info, I will check that out.

      Janet... I am glad I have the hubby I have. He might be a pain In the butt sometimes, but he really Is there with me and my health problems. He ROCKS!happy



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Janet....your right, why does It bother us getting old. I use to always say I will grow old gracefully. NOT!  When I start getting pains, then minor arthritis and now this, I am not being so gracefull about It.ohhhh



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • I guess I should listen to my Quote..I need to start going left.happy



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Left it is... Let’s go sister.



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • estatic I’m right beside you



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      Termite wrote Jul 10, 2009
    • Fran,
      Don’t feel bad!! I am sure everyone feels this way when they find out they have to have dentures. I’m sure I will be looking at them down the road too!! My dentist is fighting like crazy to keep me out of them, but who knows if all his creativity will work. Look at it this way...at least we have todays technology!! The dentures today look sooo nice compared to just a few years ago!! I’m sure you will be happy with them once you get used to the idea of having them. estatic



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      L J wrote Jul 11, 2009
    • fran! u r not alone!
      i had a bad car wreck in 1999" the day before the flood here in NC, and my amigo slid and hit a light pole head on! well it is not fun kissing a steering wheel and i had to be taken to the hospital and they had to do surgery on my face and i have a full upper plate now!i know it is hard but i am 44 now and i was not but in my late 30's when it happened and it took a yr, for my mouth to get right, so it will be fine darlin, you will still look pretty as ever! happy



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      Tina Sickinger wrote Jul 11, 2009
    • OH Frannie, sweetie you are not alone!! If you have read my blog Life’s Journey Part I, you know that my childhood sucked and part of that was NEVER going to the dentist. My parents both got dentures in their 30’s and I guess they figured I could, too!!
      Sadly, it’s something I need to do as I have had to have some teeth pulled already, and like you, I smile with my mouth closed. I will be 48 next month, so I have put it off longer than I thought I could, but as soon as I can afford it, I HAVE to do it. I do not have dental insurance, and it is hard for me to come up with the money being on disability. I honestly would kill to be able to have dentures now, just to be able to smile again!!
      It’s not the end of the world sweetie. Things could be soooo much worse....just keep that in mind!
      Hugs,
      Twinkie



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      UK Girl wrote Jul 11, 2009
    • Frannie .....I’m so sorry but I’m sure you’ll be fine - we all worry about how we look but honestly who notices ..

      listen dentures are now very good not like our grandparents time.
      Think about inplants later - my friend has just gone through this and we are looking at inplants now for her.

      Keep strong honey xx



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 11, 2009
    • Thank you again Ladies, This really means alot to me that you are all with me on this. I am starting to feel better about It. I appriciate your comments. Your comments have all made me feel so much better then what I was feeling a couple days ago. I also cherish your Friendships very much.happy

      (((( Hugz ))))



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      Faye43 wrote Jan 4, 2010
    • My mother got dentures at the age of 26. I need them but cannot afford them so every time I smile it is like Halloween tongue out



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