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As we draw near to the end of 2008, I question how many Fab40 members are inclined to make a list of New Year Resolutions?  It seems like the media thrives on everyone to make resolutions and here is my list of the most common New Year’s Resolutions:

1.  LOSE WEIGHT/GET INTO SHAPE
2. STOP SMOKING
3. GET OUT OF DEBT/START SAVING
4. GET A BETTER JOB
5. GET ORGANIZED (Hmmm.... No surprise!)
6. DRINK LESS ALCOHOL
7. REDUCE STRESS
8. GET A BETTER EDUCATION
9. SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY
10.  VOLUNTEER MORE/HELP OTHERS

Personally, I purposefully do NOT make New Year’s resolutions.  Instead, I write a list of goals that I would like to focus on for the year.  When the goal is achieved, I check it off and place the date next to it.  At the end of the year, it is really amazing to go back and read my list because usually I have accomplished several of my yearly goals.  

I think that being REALISTIC in our goals, expectations and New Years Resolutions is very important.  If there is something that we know that we need to accomplish, we should consider asking ourself a few questions.  First, are we able to accomplish the task alone or should we ask for help?  If we need help, are we willing to seek the necessary assistance?  Most importantly, what steps do we need to take to reach our goal in accomplishing this task and how much time will be needed to achieve this goal?  Possibly, by writing down on paper a list of realistic goals (or typing it!) and putting together a plan will help bring us one step closer to achieving our goals.  

Instead of having several different goals or resolutions, try to FOCUS on one goal at a time.  It will be easier to focus on one goal rather than several at a time.  This way, we are putting ourselves in a positive position that is less stressful, less distracting and more apt to succeed.  Actively take steps towards working on the one goal daily.  Make your plan as simple as possible.  If you get off track, do not beat yourself up over it.  

Attempt to refocus and continue working towards the goal.  If necessary, permit yourself to make a few changes along the way if it will help you in accomplishing your tasks.   Regardless of whether it takes several weeks, several months or an entire year to achieve your goal, give yourself a pat on the back for work well done once the goal is accomplished!



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      Mztracy wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I never make them as I know most times I do not keep them. lol

      But, this year I am going to do my best to get back on the right eating habits and lose some more weight.



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I’m going to take your lead and work on goals instead of resolutions. I think I’ll post a blog as soon as I get my thoughts together. I just read a book (recommended by Happy Momma) that has a really good section on goals. I’m going to give it a try.

      As a Life Coach, I help people set and reach goals. But I have become very lax at setting them for myself.



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Dana, thanks for posting.  I never made resolutions, but do set goals for myself.  I set them as I go along...as soon as I have accomplish, I then set a couple more and work on them.

      This is great...



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I am back with my goats - kind of Up High and Personal. happy



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Well, let us know when you reach them, chinadoll! estatic



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • bfly, I’m setting some time with God goals too. Nothing else I do has any real significance if I don’t have that time with HIm.



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I agree that goal setting works better than resolutions, although really it is just semantics. Focusing is so important. Writing them down and keeping them in sight can make all the difference in the world. It is a part of what I do when I am coaching people in weight management. Even pictures of your goals can have a huge impact. Sometimes goals aren’t tangible, but you can use a picture to symbolize what you are striving toward. Goal setting combined with action taking ALWAYS garners results. You may not achieve as much as you’d like, but you’ll get much closer with written or visual goal reminders than you’ll ever get without them. I have read lots of books, and attended seminars on how successful people achieve their goals. They ALL have written goals so it only makes sense if we want to be successful that we write it down. Putting it out there for everybody to see also raises the level of accountability. Cindy, what book are you reading? I am now reading Success Principles by Jack Canfield. It is slow going (a big book) but I am enjoying it. I am a big believer in training your brain too. Success doesn’t just ‘happen’ to people. There are common components, and I am intent on learning and applying them. estatic



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      Coachmombabe wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • Dee Dee, I’m just wrapping up Shad Helstetter’s Who Are You Really and What Do You Want? I’ve already starting working out my goals. I’ve changed a couple of the categories to fit my own life better.

      I have read Jack Canfield’s book before. I actually owned it. Then at a special event a man I met asked my why I got rid of my book. I said I didn’t remember doing that. Well, he bought it used at Hastings. Hmmmm.

      I asked my son about it several days later. Turns out he hocked it for cash to get smokes! ACK!!!!  I should make him buy me another one!



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • poor you - sounds like you need to make buy you another one AND make him read it. LOL
      Jack has a lot of good books. He is an expert at marketing, and I have come to the conclusion that effective marketing is the key to success whether you‘re selling yourself (via a coaching service) or a product (as in Hannah’s soaps, or Mannatech.)
      I agree too that God time is important. Without that relationship, not much else matters. Money can't buy joy, nor can it buy peace of mind, or faith. Without constantly nuturing my spirit, I am in a state of discontentment. When I have my eyes focused on God, I can be joyful regardless of my circumstances.



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      Pchilde1 wrote Dec 27, 2008
    • I think making goals is a great idea.  I do the same and even if I fall short on some, the changes I do make are always positive.  Good luck!



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      Dana Arcuri wrote Dec 28, 2008
    • Coachmombabe, bfly and happymomma made some very EXCELLENT points that spending quality time with God is vital in achieving inner harmony and peace.  Yes, I absolutely agree with all three of you and I thank you for bringing up this very important point.

      By placing God FIRST in our life, everything else will fall into place naturally.



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