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A new "friend" from one of my favorite social sites jokingly wrote me that "I have to tell you... anytime you send me something from the OC Register... the thought runs through my mind... wonder if Carine knows any of the REAL Housewives of Orange County! LOL. That show is SOMETHING else! Living in Oklahoma, I have to say that we hard working blue collar people watch the Real Housewives series, no matter if in CA, NJ, or GA, and think... these women have entirely TOO much time on their hands! happy But it is entertaining. And makes us believe that money certainly isn’t everything... or even something I want if it makes you behave like that!"

I replied, "Believe me; I have never even been in the realm of these women! And yes, they have way too much time on their hands. Instead of doing what they do and behaving that way-they should use that time and money and help out a shelter, neglected kids, abused animals and shelters there, find a disease to work on behalf of-anything but what they do. Most of us, we‘re so busy trying to make ends meet-we don’t even know when it’s on! I know it’s on Bravo and that my friend in Las Vegas (who’s a writer from OC as well), loves to watch it."

I'm not sure if I've ever written about reality shows, but I have to say-unless they have something to do with either the world of dance or food-I find them so UNREAL.

Really and seriously-I don't want to sound like a snob, but there is just nothing real about many of these people. I haven't watched the Bachelor or the Bachelorette, but my husband has-made him DVR it and watch it when I went to bed. I asked him, "Why do you watch these things?"

His answer, pretty much the same as my new found cvber-friend in the great state of Oklahoma, "because it's entertaining."

Entertaining to watch either women or men vying for "real love" amongst a couple of dozen others for a person they haven't met? Or watching full grown and overly pampered women behave like snippy high schoolers?

My daughter once explained her attraction to these shows like this: "Mom, these people act in ways that are so make-believe that it makes whatever any real person goes through seem not so bad!"

Okay, entertaining and it makes you feel better about your merely dysfunctional life-I suppose I get it. But I do tend to feel rather embarrassed for these folks who deliberately hold themselves up to public humiliation ON PURPOSE!

On a magazine forum I moderate there was a question from a contributor who asked "does anyone know the real you?"  

Several people answered the typical: my husband, my sister, my mom, etc...

I wrote-"Everyone knows the real me-what you read, what you see, it's all what I am."

There will always be someone out there who disagrees with my analysis, but my reasoning for laying it all out there is this-I don't have to remember what I said to whom about what. It is what it is and nothing more.

So yes, I get it-the Real Housewives of OC, NJ or NYC like the attention and those watching them enjoy the entertainment value. But they aren't the REAL housewives.  

Me-I think I'll stick to dancing and who Gordon Ramsey will yell at this week and leave it at that.

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Love it Carine. I was a housewife and I lived in OC and I was nothing like those women. I wish the media would stop painting a picture of Orange County as if it’s filled with nothing but spoiled, wealthy, stupid, useless and downright mean people. It’s simply not true. I’m an OC girl through and through, I love orange County. It’s a beautiful place with a lot of great people.

      Good post, Carine!

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      Carine Nadel wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Thanks Cynthia.  That’s why I wrote this post-I have a lot of contacts in other states from my articles and many of them want to know if I actually meet these women “during the course of my daily life”

      LOL, yes-while I’m sitting here writing my 3rd $50 article of the week and my 4th pro bono column, I definitely go to my local spa for my daily pedi and massage.  LOLOLO

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      Janet Wooley wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Those women are so fake it is not funny, I hate that show and do not watch it. I am from OC also and hear that all the time. I just roll my eyes and laugh.And BTW there are women like that in every city in the world, they just THINK they are better than everyone else.

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      Carine Nadel wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • I’ve always wondered-how do they come to pick some of these areas?  I mean I can see NYC, LA, Chicago-but NJ, Atlanta and OC?

      I’m overstepping my bounds here, b/c I’ve never taken the time to watch them-the commercials alone kind of “bug” me.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I haven’t watched any of the shows but I thought this column was amusing along with the comments.

      I wonder why they haven’t picked Memphis or Detroit for a show....hmmmm...... may be too much realityhappy

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