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Hey All,

 Just wondering if anything like this has happened to you too..
Last week while going through everything with my beloved dog Rocky dying I got caught up in vet calls, caring for him etc and I forgot to meet my son at the kindergarten bus!  Ughhhh I felt so horrible.  He didnt seem to care as he got a ride home from my neighbor/friend in her convertible.  I balled my eyes out though.  I have been told by friends that it happens to everyone.  Does it?  Have you had any lapse of memory at a crucial time?  I think I had just a little too much going on and I flat lined.  No mother of the year award for me!!



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      Cheryl Guy wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • It happens to the best of us! My 9 year old usually rides his  bike to school but one day last year I drove him because it was raining in the morning. I completely forgot & lost track of time & hadn’t noticed that he was not home yet when he should have been. I got my wake-up call from the school!



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      Andreab wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Thanks.  Not that I want other kids to experience being “stranded“, or “left” but I am glad to know I wasnt the only one who didnt pick up their child. A non mother would say “how can you forget to pick up your kid?”  But it happens,  even to good Moms (and Dads).  Enjoy the weekend,A



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • With five kids to keep track of at all times...you better believe that there has been times when I have forgotten when the bus arrives or my kids are left tapping their foot at the school door step.  I gave up earning “The Mother of the Year” award a long time ago and not because I wasn’t at the bus stop on time.

      My last faux pas that took me out of the running was last school year:

      My youngest wanted me to play more of a role in her classroom last year, so I offered to come one Freedom Friday and teach the kids how to do Vision Boards.  I wrote and printed out directions that were sent home to the kid's parents so they could spend the two weeks prior cutting out pictures, words and phrases that they could creatively create a collage of the hopes, dreams and desires.  I even attached the note to a white brochure size envelope with colored staples inscribed in calligraphy with each child’s name on it...Martha Stewart would have been proud.  The teacher was very impressed....my daughter was building me up on a daily basis...telling them that I was a writer and that what they were going to do was exactly what I had my clients do in my business...she told them that it was an exercise to help you focus on your future.  As the day grew closer and closer, I kept on putting off getting the other supplies for the day, due to other fires that I was putting out for other children in my home.  The night before my husband raced out to the Wal-Mart and purchased glue sticks and massive amounts of poster board, cut them down to child size, loaded up bags with handles with magazines, just in case some children hadn’t cut enough pictures and words. My husband also took the time to mat and frame all four of my Vision Boards that I had created over the past ten years...I had to look professional you know.  

      On the day of Freedom Friday, my youngest came to me before she got on the bus with the biggest smile telling me that she would see me later in the day.  Now, when I spoke to the teacher last she had made a point of telling me that time was important and that I had only an hour because of lunch.  On the day of my making my daughter the number one kid in the class, I was confident that I had remembered that I was to arrive after lunch, promptly at 1:00PM, after lunch....this is what the teacher had said.  I took a long shower, dressed in an outfit befitting of a writer and internet entrepreneur, speaker and coach, loaded up my car with all the Vision Board gear and took off for the school with almost thirty minutes to spare...I thought.  As I lugged all the bags and Vision Board in to the school and up to the classroom door, I saw the room light was on and I heard the children’s voices....Hmmmmm??? I thought the kids would be at lunch still...no matter...they must have returned early, I thought.  But as I appeared in the door, all the kids looked from their desks, while the teacher who had been reading a book aloud stopped reading.  With all eyes on me, I said: “I’m sorry; I’ll just set everything up over here, while you finish reading.”  One vocal young lady who felt it was her duty to tell, quickly volunteered that the class had already finished the Vision Boards and had moved on to listening to their teacher reading.  My heart sank.  The teacher quickly jumped off the stool she was sitting on and came over to me, leading me out of the class. She said, “I’m sorry Mrs. Harden, but the children have finished the project...you were supposed to be here at 11:00 AM before the lunch period to do Freedom Friday!”  I quickly looked past the teacher in to the room to where my daughter was sitting.  Her little face was tear stained and she was working on a new round...the teacher called her over, as I profusely apologized for getting the time wrong.  The look on my child’s face was like...well, there are no words for the look. Other than that I had embarrassed her beyond explanation, disappointed her beyond repair...I was NOT going to receive any Mother of the Year awards from this child...or even a nomination...I could probably forget about Mother’s Day for the next few years too.
      The teacher allowed me to talk to her in the hall for a few minutes.  I apologized up and down, promising her that I would never let it happen again AND I would take her to Dairy Queen for ice cream right after school to make up for it.  She willing accepted the apology through sniffles and drying of tears and bravely re-entered her classroom taking her seat.  That day I met her at the bus and took her directly to the ice cream store...she had a double scoop and I had water (my penance for making the mistake).  As she vigorously licked away the melting ice cream, she began to tell me about her day, excluding the fact that I had not shown up on time for her Freedom Friday.  I finally asked her if she was mad at me for letting her down.  “Well, Mommy, it wasn’t the best thing to happen me, but it didn’t kill me either...there will be other days to do Vision boards...or I would rather do one just with you any ways.”  We went straight home, pulled out all the poster board, glue sticks and magazines...cut out pictures and words and made one big Vision Board about the two of us.  As we stood back and looked at what we had done...she exclaimed: “Now that’s better than any Vision Board I would have made at school today...that has real Vision in it...it has my favorite parts of you and the Mommy I want to be some day!”  

      I love this kid...she has always been my sunshine!

      PS I now put all school obligations on my calendar on my wall, on my computer, in my Blackberry and on my iPOd...with reminder alarms...I will never let this happen again. I’m still not expecting a Mom of the Year Award...don’t really need one...I have the Vision Board the two of us created together...it is framed and hanging in her bedroom.



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      Cheryl Guy wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Shepherdess-
      Wow, no offense but you make me feel better that all I did was forget to pick my kid up! ha! Love your story!



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • luvin40:  Exactly the reason why I told the story, so you wouldn’t feel so bad about not picking up your kid...and I don’t take any offense.  The truth be told, I still feel awful about that day, yet, the moral to this story is: Even at 50 I am still living and learning...just working with a few less brain cells that’s all.



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      Andreab wrote Sep 13, 2008
    • Oh Boy!  I can just feel that feeling when you walked in the room , like you want to go backwards and get there earlier.   Ughhh.
      What a wonderful girl you have, she sounds amazing. Sometimes they say things that really grab you by the heart.
      Thanks for sharing.  I will google Vision Boards.



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • andreab:
      I have written about them here at Fab40. Go to:
      http://fabulously40.com/blog/id/708/

      I have used Vision Boards for years to get focus...get the junk out of my mind...find direction.

      John Assarf of “The Secret” fame has a wonderful story about Vision Boards.  He also has a downloadable Vision Board software at his web site.  I like this program...but there is nothing like cutting out the pictures, words and phrases and pasting them down in a collage to release the them in to reality to see.  It helps with stress, gives focus...it is creative.  I could go on and on about these.  I have used them with children, in women’s retreats and with seniors. With seniors we do gratitude or Life Legacy Vision Boards...when they are done they step back and see how grand of a life they have led...it gives them peace.  And their faces when they talk through them in front of the group...it is a blessing just to be an observer.  

      Send me an e-mail here if you have questions about doing them.  I think you can see one of my vision board at my article here.  I would love to see your Vision Board when you are finished.

      Shepherdess


      Shepherdess5, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • Here is my most recent Vision Board.  I am in the process of getting ready to do a new one.  Things are changing...so it is time.  It is amzing to me to look at all of them that I have done...I can actually see my growth in to maturity...the path that God has placed me on...It is a wonderful tool...especially for those who are having trouble remaining focused or no longer have a direction in life.

      If you do a vision board...take a picture of it and up load it to Fab40 for all of us to see!



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