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Turning 50...Let me start by saying this blog is not about vanity..I have never been hung up on hiding my age...This is an inner conflict about acting your age, dressing for your age...ect ...Having to fulfill some anal self-styled obligation that society has deemed I should be.  I am not or never have been able to conform to anything. I have never been a slave to what's in style, or having to have "Name Brand" items..I have always just acted and dressed as I liked. Having said that..Since I turned 50 I have had this nagging voice in the back of my head, is it time? I am 5'4" and weigh 110 and I workout. I wear everything from very Short skirts to long flowing ones I wear very short shorts to caprices...all of my pants with the exception of my leggings are very low on my hips..I wear everything from belly shirts to dressy blouses..I am not ashamed of my body and I dress to please my eyes..But...This nagging question..Is it time? I sat for a while the other day and tried to imagine me wearing more mature clothes. Most people that I meet think I am about 35 or 40..I don't act my age either..Inside I feel like I am 25 yrs old.. So my question is why I or anyone should give up who they are to succumb to a life style that is clearly not you...because it's the right thing to do for someone my age... I am afraid that if I did...I would cease to exist...I would just give up..Has anyone else gone through this?



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      Mztracy wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • first off, never conform!!
      You look great, so flaunt it!!

      I know that even when you wear the ‘shorties’ you make it look good.  

      So pffft to everyone who is hatin‘. lol  

      Now when gravity finally does hit, then add an inch or so!! tongue out



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      Rena Bennefield wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • Thanks Mztracy...This has been a real struggle for me..I live in a very small Southern town and I get strange looks and a lot of eye rolling..But I just keep bopping along and smiling...



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      Rena Bennefield wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • Thanks Kpgray....I just wouldn't know where to begin to change..I am happy with Me..I am happy most of the time and I am always smiling..



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      Mztracy wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • geez, if i had your bod...i’d be living in my bikini!!! tongue out



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      Rena Bennefield wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • Hell Yeah...Go Ladies Go!!!!!WahWhoooo! Make sure you post pics when you get where you want to be...I have put on about 10 lbs this winter not able to be as active because of my disc being messed up in my back..But..I am devising a exercise routine that will get things back in order and strengthen the muscle around the disc..It’s a process..



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      3sa wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • Who cares what they think and how they look at you as long as you don’t care or feel bad when they look or say things!

      I wish I did have that body ...shoot.  I haven’t changed my fashion much, except for swimsuits....and I’m not going to.  I did try once because my sister was trying to make me feel like a bad mother by dressing like she says “20” and having a tat between my breast.  WHATEVER, I started feeling like an old woman and their clothes are not fashionable enough for me.  The hell wit it! Do your thing...cover up if you want and don’t if you don’t want too.



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      Rena Bennefield wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • See that's what they are saying to me..It's like "What kind of example are you setting for the young girls around here "I am like excuse ME"!!! Yeah I bought the "Older" woman's style clothes..I felt so out of my realm..It's just not me...not yet or maybe never..Hell I have tattoos all over me I have a whole back piece that's being developed..I just refuse to hide myself.. I think like this you are only as old as you feel..From what I can see of you ladies your all beautiful and you all look younger than your age...Some of these women in question are anywhere from a few years to 5 or 8 yrs younger than I am and they look like they are already 50+.. So as you all said the hell with them.. =)



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      Coachmombabe wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • You do look great! I guess if you are comfortable in what you wear, it shouldn’t be an issue. I’d be uncomfortable showing much skin. I’ve always been that way, even in my youth while wearing bikinis!

      I do think that for myself some more youthful attire would be inappropriate. But to each her own!estatic

      Blessings,
      Coachmombabe
      http://www.shilohhomeofhope.org

      "Treat others as if they are who they ought to be and you help them to become who they are capable of becoming." Goethe



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      3sa wrote Jan 29, 2009
    • This is what they say but I’ve broke most of these rules!

      Whilst there are exceptions to every rule, here are some suggestions on what to styles to ditch in your 40s:

      Slogan T-shirts — one of the hottest hits of 2008 but unless you really have something to say, leave these to your daughters.

      Culottes –these can make you look short , old and dumpy. Only the young and thin can carry these off well.

      Too-tight Trousers — whilst teens and 20-somethings may be able to get away with it, avoid any trousers which give you an overspill or are too tight around the crotch.
      Ironically, buying a larger size actually serves to make you look thinner, rather than squeezing into pants that are too tight.

      Short Hemlines — unless you are wearing a dress with full coverage up-top (to balance out the proportions), mini skirt hemlines are best avoided as they can make you look like mutton-dressed-as-lamb. An on-the-knee or just- above length is far more flattering and less aging than a calf length. Mini dresses can be worn as tunic tops instead, over leggings of narrow-leg pants.

      Sleeveless Dresses/Tops — whilst not a complete no-no be aware that a short or 3/4 sleeve is more age-apropriate for daywear, and is also more slimming. If wearing a sleeveless dress then make sure your hemline reacher your knee or below, to balance out your silhouette and provide some style sophistication.

      Cropped Tops — unless you layer these over other outfits, (or you have 6-pack abs) avoid showing off your midriff.
      Sarongs — whilst these are practical cover-ups, if you want to be a peach-on-the-beach, then these can be unflatteringly tent-like if you don't have either the age or the figure. A caftan tunic is kinder, giving you more coverage and is much more stylish.

      Bold Prints — these can spell danger as you get older. There are exceptions, depending on the nature of the print and the colors but, according to Twiggy, it's safer and more flattering to go for subtle prints and block colors. Vertical stripes can be flattering, and so, according to new research, can some horizontal stripes.

      Big Knickers – give you visible panty lines, and thongs can look undignified if you neither have age nor figure in your favor. It pays to have a number of styles for comfort and fit, which you can interchange depending on your outfit. Boy-shorts can be very comfortable and flattering as they don't leave a VPL nor cut into the tops of your legs. There's no longer a stigma attached to control pants – even 20-somethings wear them now, simply because they work!

      Baby Doll Pink — if you don’t want to appear to girly, go for a strong fuchsia shade or feminine but stylish purple-hue. Leave pink candy stripes and baby-doll pink for those who are the right side of 22!



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      Rena Bennefield wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I did read through all the comments thanks ladies for the support  =) Your encouragement has has made me remember I decide what happens in my life ..I refuse to wear a style of clothing that is completely out of my taste..As for the 20 ish styles..I love them and when the day comes that my body starts to catch up with my age  =( I will adjust accordingly...The only people who roll their eyes and scoff at my wardrobe have been women who even in their best years couldn't pull it off..So I say "Oh Well" to them..Jerry my b/f loves to see me in pinks and all shades of light blue ... We have a tanning bed in our workout room.. Which affords me a year round tan, so light colors look great on me..I don't wear many dark colors... but when I do it is mostly darker greens and deep purples. I also have a lot of Goth outfits to wear when I get in a Gothic kind of mood...Because I work at home and have my own business from here, I get up in the morning and dress in whatever mood I am in that morning...I used to try to dress and live my life to the beat of others drummers so I would be accepted..But I just can't be a phony..So my "One Rule" I will not make any exceptions is" If you don't like me the way I am"..Then I haven't lost out on anything...I understand others having to dress for success or maybe religion plays a role in a person's wardrobe..Whatever the reason for their style selection may be..I don't judge or scoff at them..I respect their choices for whatever reason they have for their choices..I am just looking to get that same respect.."Express Yourself" is my motto   =) Thanks Ladies (((HUG)))



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      Sandra Chaplin wrote Feb 5, 2009
    • Yes Rena!
      I’ve ask myself this very same question (not ready to give up) before I did a blog about make me over, I’ll be fifty this year and I don’t feel nor do look fifty and I’m proud of that, I, like you love to dress for me, I’m not a fashion buff, but if I think something will look good on me, I’ll wear it.
      I’ve had to make changes in my life to accommodate my fashion and it’s working for me and I’m accepting me and my change. The time will come for me to slow down, but until then I’m just living and enjoying it and me.



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