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My 18 year old left today. He enlisted in the Army and is off to basic training. While I’ve known this day was coming for months now, it still didn’t prepare me for the emotions that surface when you‘re actually faced with the reality of letting go of yet another child. No, I guess he’s not a child anymore, at 18 he’s an adult now.

For the first time, as I’m getting ready to turn in, I’m locking up the house and turning off all the lights knowing he’s not coming home this evening. No, I don’t need to leave a light on, and I guess I don’t need to stay half awake either to make sure he gets home ok, and I don’t need to leave a latenight snack out for him that he loved coming home to.

This is the second one for me and for some reason this one’s even harder—to let go. No, guess I’m not quite ready to let this one go yet. For now, I may have to leave a light on.

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      UK Girl wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • Rose this must be very hard for you I know it’s been agonising ....

      Your in my thoughts and prayers



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      Lazylola wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • Rose, my oldest has come and gone a time or two, it’s always hard to see him go. If my son was going off to basic, I’m sure all the feelings would be compounded. Go ahead and leave the light on until you are ready to turn it off. Take care you will both be in my thoughts, I wish him safety and I wish you peace.



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      Owlmaria wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • It is hard letting go, but you raised him to be a strong, independent & obviously capable young man. Still they are our children & we will always feel the need to leave a light on, leave out that snack, listen for them to come in late & sometimes complain about little messes they make.Sometimes we even wish they’d come by just to make that mess but not complain, just smile & remember how they used to need us. He still needs you, to know that you’ll be there when they call, just to say “Hi Mom” or just to hear your voice!
      My prayers are with you during this difficult time of adjustment!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • Rose,
      It is hard to let go. He is doing a wonderful thing by enlisting. The gratitude and appreciation I have for all the men and women who protect us is beyond imagination.

      I will keep him in my prayers.



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • This is hard and very emotional, Just about the time you are ready to turn the light out he will be home again, that is how it is at my house. I still find myself worring about them and I guess I always will. Just enjoy the times you do have the letters are impotant to him. Don’t be surprised if he keeps them his whole adult life. And I do definately agree the baby is the hardest BUT he/she too returns...I prefer to think of it as an adjustment for the time being. Adjust to them being gone and then adjust to them being back.



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      Angelcart wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • Rose my prayers are with you and your son.  My son is 19 and when he was younger he always told me he was going to enlist in the Marines and I went nuts!  He never enlisted but he’s grown and gone as well.  It’s still hard BUT, we have numerous friends who have served and their children as well.  We ride with a group of Marines and they all say that serving is the proudest thing they have done in their lives.  At times I wish my son would have enlisted as he never listens to me and everyone I know that is serving and has served said it has taught them so much discipline, strength, etc.  I know it’s extremely hard for you but it’s a great thing he’s doing for himself and our country.  God bless!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • Oh Rose, we understand you perfectly. And yes if you feel you have to leave a light on do so lol. I felt the very same way when my oldest daughter moved out and into her own place it nearly killed me knowing she had her own independence and didn’t need me any more. I was os crushed when she came to tell me she was moving out, I cried like someone had stolen something precious from me. But trust and believe he will be just fine, remember God only gave them to us for a time, to love and nurture them and then to set them free into the world to become good honest citizens of the world. So he will do just fine and you ahould be proud you got him all the way to whwre he is today. My prayers are with you and the family as you allow the little light to flicker until he returns home. Be blessed.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • You‘re in my prayers, Rose. I know this is a very hard thing for a mom.



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      Termite wrote Jul 21, 2009
    • Rose,
      As a Mom I cannot imagine how you feel. I have seen my nephew leave for the military as well as my brother. I just cannot imagine being a mother and seeing your child go off to the Military. Saying goodbye had to aweful!

       I wish you and your son only the best. I thank him and you for what he is doing to serve this beautiful country of ours. You both are in my prayers! Keep a smile on your face, I am sure you are sooo proud of him!! You have every right to feel this way.  xoxo



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      Hbrose wrote Jul 22, 2009
    • Ladies, all I can say is thank you, you‘re all so wonderful. Your thoughts, prayers and comments mean the world to me. God bless each and every one of you.

      Rose



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