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Well, my husband was late to work today...he slept in and was too tired to get out of bed. I came in at about 6:30 am and told him he needs to get up and go to work, which he replied “I don’t feel good“....which means “I’m too tired to get out of bed“...trust me, I know him all too well.  

So I kind-of guilted him into getting up and going to work....you know, by saying “we can’t afford for you to stay home“, “you have no sick time left and/or vacation time left“, “you’ll stay home cuz you don’t want to get out of bed, but then you will feel guilty later for not going to work” (which he does say).....etc. etc.

So he finally got up and went to work......

I just got a call from him.........he got into a car accident! OMG!! He’s a little sore, but other than that, he’s okay, thank GOD!! But the car is totalled. The traffic came to a stop and he slammed on the brakes and the car wouldn’t stop...he slammed into someone and an SUV slammed into him (he drives a Ford Focus, small car)and it turned into a 6 car pile-up. OMG!!! I am soooooo glad he is okay!! Poor guy.....

Now I feel soooooooooo GUILTY for making him get out of bed!! I know it’s not my fault he got into an accident, but if I just let him stay home!!!! DANGGGGG ITTTTT!!!!! Why am I so worried about money? The economy...that’s why!! UGHHH I feel so bad now..I just want to cry!!!!

Please, ladies...help me feel better :(



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • That is coincidence pure and simple. No blame!!



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      Raysa Santana wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • No need to feel guilty.  When things are meant to happen, they will happen no matter what.



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      Linni wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • thats right.. i agree with cindylou.. i know you feel as though its your fault. its not. be happy he is safe and will be coming home to you, and lighten up on yourself.

      Blessings
      Linni



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      Almostfive0 wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • You should not feel guilty for something that was meant to happen. There are no coincidences.

      Like mrslorrid said...it could have been a lot worse.  

      You never know, his not so good luck may have been something totally different for someone else that was effected by it.

      Be thankful he’s okay and no one else was seriously injured.
      I’m sure I’d feel bad too though...it’ll pass.
      take care



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      Mksactown wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • thanks ladies...I know it’s not my fault, I just feel bad that that happened to him....and YES THANK THE LORD ABOVE that he’s okay and walked away from it...THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING!!! I’m not worried about the car at all, that’s just a material thing. I just feel bad for him..

      Thanks ladies for making me feel better.....Luv ya all.

      Have a WONDERFUL day!!!



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      Cheryl Guy wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • You did the right thing by motivating him to get out of bed. I agree with the rest of the ladies, the accident was just meant to be. I’m glad he is alright!



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      Daphne wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • For all you know, his tardiness could have prevented something far more tragic.  Go with the fact that he’s okay and be thankful for it...period.



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      Inakika wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • I’m so glad hubby is okay. That’s all that matters.
      Now, fix him his favorite dinner, draw a warm bubble bath for his aching muscles and make him feel like King for a day! He deserves it, poor thing.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. There is a reason, you may or may not ever know what the reason was, but he was meant to be right where he was this morning. I am so glad that he is ok, physically. The mental part, as I’m sure you can imagine is another story. I bet you he will be really sore tomorrow.
      I believe God stops us sometimes with situations because he’s knows there is something really bad ahead.
      Don’t feel guilty because you may have very well just saved his or someone else’s life.
      There is probably something wonderful on the tail end of this situation. Get ready girl, something good is coming your way.



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      Almostfive0 wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • lcmiddlesworth——That’s exactly how I feel!



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      Archele40 wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • I agree with these wise women, what’s most important is he’s safe and what’s replaceable will be replaced.  

      You were right to push him to go to work (as I’m sure you have many times before without regret).  focusing on the positive aspects of the situation will help everyone involved to cherish what matters.



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      Lauradagoddess wrote Dec 1, 2008
    • Yes Thank goodness he is alright.  However, I would take him for a checkup anyway, just to make sure.  I was rearended and thought I was ok too.  Two days after my accident I couldn’t even move and found out later that I had a really bad case of whiplash.  Now I have to be careful because I have a protruding disc in my neck because of it.  However, now you have an excuse to buy a new car for Christmas and hubby will be able to share in the festivities.  Remember our troops and have a safe and happy holiday season.  Oh yea retail therapy always helps.  [Link Removed]
      LDG “TUT”


      Lauradagoddess, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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