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I can’t believe i did it again..actually several times today.  I’m beginning to seriously consider that i might suffer from early dementia.  I have the worst time remembering stuff...especially when it has to do with money!

I had a massage scheduled for this afternoon but had to call and cancel yesterday because i realized that Patrick had an orthodontist appointment at the same time.  All day long i knew i was taking him at 3:45.  I picked Kelly and Patrick up after school (3:00) and came home.  I got to doing things around the house and then my BFF called.  The next thing i know, Patrick is standing in front of me.  I ask my BFF to hold on and Patrick says, “We didn’t go to my ortho appointment.”  I look at the clock...it’s 4:20.  Crap!  In my line of work, a missed appointment means loss of money and i get annoyed when people simply do not show up!

I carried a $10 gift card to Target around for several months.  I’m a near-weekly visitor to this store and rarely get out of there for less than $50.  Did i ever use that gift card?  No.  It expired last Saturday.  I earned a $5 gift card to be used at a later date tonight...i wonder how long it will live in my wallet and if it will ever be used.  Anyone care to place bets?

I talked my husband into taking me shopping tonight and our first stop was Bed Bath and Beyond.  I rec’d the bath mat I’d ordered online and the color doesn’t match my new shower curtain.  Go figure...it’s the exact same pattern but the colors don’t match...but that’s another story.  Anyway, we drive the 20 miles or so to the store and as we‘re walking in, my husband says, “You have the receipt, don’t you?”  Crap!  I don’t recall shoving the receipt into the package before we left the house.  When we got inside, i took the mat out of the package and i got lucky!  The packing slip was stuck to the bottom of the packaging!  Whew...i dodged that one!

At Kohl’s on Black Friday, I earned $40 cash credit for spending $200.  The credit was valid from November 30th through December 6th.  So, after we finished at Target, it was time to use my credit at Kohl’s.  We hit the jackpot there when we found an electric blanket for $59.99 (originally $159.99), a really cute sweater for me for $18 (originally $44) and a couple of other items.  To the checkout we go.  As i’m standing in line, my son texts me to ask for a ride home from the skating rink.  By the time i get through the checkout, we need to make a mad dash to get him.  About 2 miles down the road, my husband and i are talking about what we bought and he said, “You used the store credit, didn’t you?”  I cannot repeat my response to that question.  Huz did a U-turn and back to Kohl’s we went.  

I’m “only” 46...is this normal?  It’s not like i’m over-burdened.  No one expects anything unreasonable from me.  I simply cannot remember things and i HATE this about me.



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      Feathermaye wrote Dec 5, 2008
    • Well, daph, if it’s any consolation, I’ve lost my tweezers again. I had them yesterday, and then I didn’t.

      I’ve looked everywhere! I found 2 missing puzzle pieces and one of my own receipts that had gone missing, but no tweezers.

      And, as distressed as I am by this, I went through 3 stores tonight that all stocked tweezers but FORGOT to buy them.

      I vote for NORMAL!



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      Karyn Olson wrote Dec 5, 2008
    • I think it’s pretty normal...I do the same thing...I go into a room to look for something and by the time I get there I am wondering why I am there...you wouldn’t believe how many times I have had to give my head a shake...as long as I don’t leave the house in my pj bottoms or slippers then I think I have nothing to worry about...or do I?  LOL



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      Mz. Queen wrote Dec 5, 2008
    • Maybe our short-term memory is too short. I would suggest just slow down a little, if you can’t do it mentally try it physically just a little bit.

      much love
      47



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 5, 2008
    • I feel the same
      I think my brain is jammed
      with so many years of memories
      All packed in my bowling ball head
      Just wish I have a control, alt, delete
      or a way to increase the gige and the rem.



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Whew Daphene.... you say you don’t feel your over burdened, but those little details take more time than you give yourself credit for. It sounds like you have a lot of details to remember. If I don’t keep daily notes of details of things I need to do I would surely be lost.

      Sometimes I have worried I may have early stages of dementia too! I swear it’s true!  My clients and I have concured that we feel that way sometimes. Just laugh at those moments and know you are NOT alone!!!  

      Especially during the holiday season I think our minds are
      a little distracted. Maybe keeping all of your receipts in your purse, or car would help. And using memo alert on your cell phone for appointments would aid you as well.
      I DO understand my friend. Not to worry... so many of us feel this way too!  We need all the help we can get and our daily list are our friends. lol

      Hugs!



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      Mary Clark wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Daphne...I have good news and bad news.  

      The good news first.  You don’t have dementia.  

      The bad news is...you have waaaaaayyy too much going on.  

      This is what I HAVE HAD TO DO....see your normal.

      In your purse...get yourself several smaller little bags to organize all your stuff in your purse.  Like a small make up bag size.

      One bag for any receipts...important small pieces of papers...notes.. gift cards.....etc.

      One bag for your lipstick..make up..etc.

      One bag for just odds and ends.

      One calender or daytimer.....USE IT!!

      Now...everything should be organized.  When you get a receipt...it always goes in the receipt bag.  Before you go into the store...look through the receipt bag and double check if you have any gift cards that can be used and/or if you are returning something make sure you have the receipt.  (You might want to do that before you leave from home.)
      You are going to have to establish a habit here.  Write yourself a post it note and stick it on your dashboard of your car saying:  “Did you get your receipt?”  LOL

      Now...my biggest thing that has helped me is programming every appointment, birthday, event...or whatever into my cell phone/blackberry and putting an alarm on the event.  THAT HAS HELPED MORE THAN EVER.  

      I use to teach with a girl that had a watch that she would have programmed to alert her when it was time to do certain things throughout the day.  

      Programmed watches have been used in helping alzheimers patients in remembering tasks.  Now don’t think you have alzheimers....you are just very busy...and that would be for most of us.  We live in a fast paced busy world....and we are all doing way too much.  It is what it is......

      Now go get organized...and program that phone and watch...LOL



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      Raysa Santana wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Daphne, I’m sure you are familiar with the saying “Misery loves company“.  Well, I’m so glad I’m not the only one.  There have been times when I’ve thought maybe I’m suffering from alzheimers or worse yet, maybe I have a brain tumor.  It seems I went from being the one person in the family that remembered everything, to not being able to remember a damn thing.  I too have to rely on my cellphone to remind me of things throughout the day.  I also have a gmail account and I use the calendar the provide to remind me of appointments/events/things to do.  Lets not forget the good ol’ post-it notes.  I have to write everything down.  

      I’ve read up everything I can find on memory loss and it all seems to say the same thing...it’s part of the aging process.  As long as you do not forget things like, where you live, your name, where you are, etc., it’s all NORMAL.  My husband teases me and says I don’t have a problem with memory loss because I don’t forget to research memory loss.  

      To top everything off, it seems that memory loss is also another symptom of menopause.  

      It’s tough getting old.



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Daphne, I can’t get into my home page.

      I will be away from the computer for a little while if my laptop doesn’t work. Please let everyone know that I’m okay if anyone wonders where I am. Would you please??????

      This is the only way I have to let everyone know.

      Big Hugs and Have A Super Day!!!!



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      Jenni0811 wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • I also alarm events in my blackberry...major events of the day sound off at 6AM...so I know why I have to out of bed today!  Then I am big on lists, lists and more lists...the more lists I have, the more I can cross reference, the more I can concur with my blackberry.....you get the idea....

      The verdict is clear ~ we all either have dementia....or we all don’t!  

      Great minds think (or don’t think) alike :)



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      Mztracy wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • you have what i like to call ‘Sometimers’

      sometimes you remember, sometimes you forget!!

      welcome to my world!! estatic



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      Daphne wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Take heart, ladies...i’ve accepted that i can’t and don’t remember stuff.  I’m not fretting about it, i’m just admitting the truth!

      I FORGOT  (shocker, i know) to tell you all about the fact that I went into BBB without the coupons i'd been accumulating.  You all know the ones...the 20% off any item and the $10 off any item that we all get in the mail.  Yep...huz had to go back to the car for me to get them.

      My purse is clean, and I’m going to start using my cell phone for appointments and tasks.  Post it notes are all over my house, as are notepads and notebooks filled with good intentions.  We all know where the road to good intentions leads, though...don’t we?



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      Mary Clark wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Daph...you can do it!!!  We have full confidence in you!!estatic



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 6, 2008
    • Hey Daphne, yeah, you are normal with a lot going on..

      Karyno, I left one morning in my slippers for work.  I got outside, locked everything up and then realized, just as I was about to jump in the car, purse/bag in hand.  I put my foot in and realized OMG, what the hell...



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