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OFFICAL bitch DAY

Okay, this is big.  We’ve told every woman we know.  If we could afford it, we would have full page ads in every newspaper in the country.

If there was ever a day in the recent history of the United States...heck...if there was ever a day in the LAST WEEK, woman need a day to bitch more than ever.  Heck, men do to and they are welcome here on October lst as well...as long as they are ready to let it all out...and as long as it has nothing to do with us!

So, come to http://www.fabulously40.com/ on OCTOBER 1st.

Here’s some of our suggestions on how to approach this history making day.

Think no holds barred.

Think no subject sacred.  

Think verbal vomit.

Think catty cleanse.

Think bitch slap.

Think bitch fest.

Think Bitch for a Day.

Think Complainiac.

Think Whiner Wagon.

Think Vent, Voice and Verbally Vomit.

Think Communication Cleanse.

Below is the blog that started it all...if you missed it, you can catch up now.

If you don’t feel the need to bitch, then you don’t watch the news, have a spouse, have children or have a life.  I don’t care if you‘re a Buddhist Monk....you’ve got something to complain about...

Can’t wait to see you all on Wednesday....

Lorraine and Mary

MARY‘S TAKE:

I was raised a good Catholic girl. I grew up, got married, went through the mandatory Catholic repression therapy, had children, got divorced, became a family therapist and mediator. I've shed a lot of crap, but what I've never learned well is to be a good bitch.

I felt bitchy yesterday and wanted to express my bitchiness, but I’m just too well trained to use my words carefully, to use “non-violent” communication, to couch my language in ways that make it easier for people to hear me.

This is all well and good for the majority of my life. But I also realized, can I please be a bitch once in awhile and let everyone else deal with it? Let them tip toe around me just once, just one insy bitsy little time and not give a damn?

I got up this morning and my goal for the day: Be a First Rate Bitch. Maybe for the first time in my life. (We're not counting all the bitch days extending into the hundreds due to hormones and too much Chardonnay.)

I want to be a Buddhist Conscious Mindful Bitch, just once.

The question becomes: Who can I be a bitch to?

—Not my 14-year-old step-daughter. She’s going through enough starting high school without her mom the (her mom is in the hospital for a year).

—Not my visiting-from-college 20-year-old daughter, even though she woke me up in the middle of the night, drunk, in a fight with her boyfriend and just HAD to talk.

—Not my husband who as I’m writing this is passing by my office window, stopping to give me a big smile and putting his hands on his heart.

—Not my clients—that reason is obvious enough.

—Not a stranger—that’s the cruelest thing to do, to ruin someone’s day I don't even know.

—Not my dog, never my dog.

—Not my friends who love and support me.

So hence the dilemma. I want to be a bitch and there’s no one to be a bitch to.
I feel this innate need to just let someone have it with a bullet full of words.

Maybe I could try to call in to Rush Limbaugh’s show, or Dr. Laura. Does Ann Coulter take calls? I could definitely be a bitch to her.

My normally sweet Southern friend Susie has a daughter who makes the word bitch seem like a compliment. This daughter is a diva, entitled young woman living off her parents who accuses her mother of being a “kept woman“.

Slap her face!

They were at Chipoltes yesterday. The final straw for Susie—said spoiled daughter grabbing the change from the 8 burritos Susie had bought for her and her friends saying that she "deserved it".

Susie, in a loud Southern voice, said, “Why you little bitch! I’ve had it with you. You need to move out of the house and move out now and never come back again. I just don’t like the person you’ve become. You are going to be alone and miserable and no one will ever want to be around you. Ever."

Entitled Daughter stared back in disbelief. They haven’t talked since and Susie is feeling lighter and has had fits of uncontrollable giggling.

I'm jealous of Susie.

Any Buddhist Bitch advice is strongly encouraged.

Mary

LORRAINE‘S TAKE:

I believe ALL women can relate to wanting to go verbally ballistic at many times of their lives....and whether we are Catholic, Jewish, Mormon, Episcopalian or any other denomination we have been brought up with unspoken rules, regs and manners.

  

Good for Susie that her verbal volley spoken towards her daughter was not only totally justified, but probably was the best VENT she has had for years.  Even us women who practice verbal diplomacy can hit a wall with another person and want to YELL, SHOUT, SCREAM and basically BLAST that person out of the water.   Once in a while, we let loose with our lips, but for the most part we sit back, take it and then vent to the only ones that want to listen and actually hear.........our girlfriends.

So we can want to be bitchy........but reality dictates that we cannot actually act on that impulse without serious consequences.  Thank goodness for any type of telephone........if our girlfriends weren't at the other end to listen to our plights, we would actually be living up to the stereotype of women being BITCHES!!

Lorraine


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      Amethyst wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Thank you for posting this. I would like to bitch about a co-worker who drives me insane. I’ve bitched to my poor husband, a friend, a family member....I don’t want to subject anyone else to my bitching session.

      Can’t wait until tomorrow!!



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      Susan Haley wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Mary and Lorraine

      Your column is spectacular! I absolutely love the to hear truth woven through humor. I’ll be on an airplane tomorrow so will miss ‘bitch’ day. I will love reading all the responses, tho!

      For many years, I played the female role well, also trying to follow the rules and regs . . . especially on jobs and with very intimidating parents. I was lucky, though, my dear, passed-on husband was a great shoulder and helped me a lot. Since being alone, and growing a ‘spine‘, I now speak up to anyone and everyone. Including mama. I attempt to remain civil but the fuse is a lot shorter than it used to be. At home and driving, I often find myself engulfed in ‘blue’ air. One advantage to living alone. :)) The language can get quite colorful. God, it feels good!

      I’m sending the girlfriend, Susie, all kinds of kudos! Good for her!! The entitled daughter will be coming around very soon.  She’ll recovers from her long over due shock as soon as she wants something. Tell Susie to stand firm!

      Have at it, girls!!

      Susan Haley



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Awesome....what a day it will be!



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      Inakika wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • For me, this day will have even more meaning. Oct. 1st is my 25th anniversary! So, I get 2 for the price of 1! Bring it oonnn! :)



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      Almostfive0 wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Happy Anniversary!....I Think? happy



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      Carole Reynolds wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • (lol) I am with almostfiveo...... ,
      At 40 I decided that I was going to say whatever needed to be said, whenever it needed to be said,  I did learn  to “Always” say it with  true christian love.  

      So in case I miss it, tommorrow is a full day for me and being in a different time zone I cannot promise to be here. I am shocked I have been able to be here two days in a row.:)
      You ladies take care



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      Ritzimiranda wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Absolutely thank you for posting this.. LOVED it!



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      Trudy S wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • 10/1/08  4:55am  PST

      Yeah...I’ve been awake since 2am and have a full day at work and starting at my first meeting at 8am.  Then a M.A. class until 10pm tonight.  Wait for few more hours...then you’ll really get to experience BITCH.

      happy

      Trudy
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      Almostfive0 wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • .....And I heard her exclaim while trying to zip her jeans that were too tight....HAPPY BITCH DAY TO ALL AND TO ALL A BITCH NIGHT!!!!

      HAPPY BIOTCHDAY LADIES!



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I want to bitch that we only get one frigin day to bitch. I could so bitch all week long. smile.

      Love the day. Just wish it were on my birthday.

      J



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      Amethyst wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Happy Bitch Day!

      A co-worker who is the world’s biggest pain in the posterior is back at work today and I have to listen to her all day. Calgon take me away please!!!!



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • My husband “cracks” me up.  He’s lecturing me about not being negative...being negative the whole time.  Can we say the word “hypocrite“.

      He should be a politician.



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Is he bitchin at you to not bitch? smile



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      Kim White wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I started Happy Bitch Day great....5 phone calls waking me up before 9am! I am so not a morning person! Now it is time to plow through 30 assignments for school. Yeah for me!



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • 46mph:  Exactly!!!!

      I’m about to take a brief bitch break.  Hoping on my bike to go hear Michelle Obama speak at the University of Colorado.  Nobody better bitch about her and there will be hell to pay!



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      Rene' Grandon wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Hey Girls,

      I have many bitches in life. My biggest is people at my job not working. See I am an Assistant Apartment manger. In this industry Managers have a true diva complex. They think and do whatever thay like. Mine come in at 10:30 am - 4:30pm Mon -Fri. She puts in time sheet  8am-5pm. bullshite
      more often than not she comes in later and leaves earlier. On top of all that she looks at craiglist all day, and when he reports are due or what ever little crap she is expected to do she starts bitching. I told her this is only business that manager don’t have to do there job.
      Then on top that the other lady that works in office is older 60s and worked for company over 10 years. She does whatever she wants to, sits on back porch smoking and talking to another lady who lives her,and that she calls to come over. Then she bitches about us when we make her come in and do work.
      See she is the leasing person,and it her job to be recepitionist, show apartments,file,run leases,and other duties. But she sits all day reading the dam paper and outside smoking while phone rings off the wall.
      I am so pissed I could just spit!!
      Yesterday the old woman ( no disrespect to older people) she was yacking and smoking,phone ringing, and my dum ahole Manager actually apologized to the two of them for distrubing them,so she could do her job!!! she doesn’t even have to work on Monday. the other leasing ladies for my sisiter properties only take the week for 2 days on their weekend to work, but because she is set in her ways ,per the Manager when I gripped about Barb, she is off every monday. Such BS!!
      What a freaking crock!!! I don’t mean to offend you ladies but I am truly upset, This job, these idiots I work with are making me crazy and making me ill.
      i hope that this was ok,because this is what I call bitching!!! Thanks I even feel a little better. any Help out there fire away, because between this BS and my little depression i am in i think i am going to go talk to someone!!!

      Thanks Ya’ll are The best,
      Bella



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      Rhonda Blevins wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Day started off great! No problems!  Get to work...they’ve been promising me a new office.  All cleaned out and ready to move in to.  NOW, “they’ve” (1 person) decided to consolidate the 2 secretaries to 1 desk, 1 computer, 1 office!  Sharing- how quaint!  AAAGGGHHHH!!!!!  Talking about possibly having to downsize with the economy looking so bad.  I understand that but...DECIDE what you are doing 1st, don’t make promises you aren’t going to follow through on!!



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Is this televised? I would love to see it.



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      Mksactown wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Oooops....sorry....look in CAREER bitching page for my comment...



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      Rene' Grandon wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Yana

      Oops so sorry!

      Ciao,
      Bella



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • All that bitchin for nothing.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • My biggest complaint at the moment is that I started my buisness as a single mother with only $ 50.00 in 1993.  Ive always been my own bank, Im in a disaster zone right now (IKE HURRICANE) and have fortunately been able to make four weeks of payroll and keep over 150 employees employed.  

      I guess my complaint is why cant wall street fat cats, bail themselves out ?  I dont have any help ?  I never have and being a woman in a mans world, its even more difficult and if you have a pretty face, its harder to be taken serious.  

      Ive been called in books the tough PI with the voice of a twelve year old, by men of course.  I guess you have to look and act like a man, to be tough.. HA... I am tough and I like my designer shoes, couture, nails, shopping, makeup, hair and little girl voice.  

      You dont have to be macho to be tough.  So wall street fat cats, get some balls, really if a woman with all her girly things can do it.. surely they can too.

      Otherwise, no complaints.. Fall is comming and the air feels terrific and we are rebuilding from IKE.



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      Rene' Grandon wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • 46mph,

      Not for nothing I went to right place and reposted!!

      Ciao,
      Bella



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • There are so many choices tho as to where to deposit my post. Which did you use?



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      Rene' Grandon wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • 46mph,

      I used the career one because my bitch is about co-workers. More like nonworkers!!!

      Ciao,
      Bella



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Hey, Yana says you can bitch wherever you want. Here is as good a place as ever.  Your bitching is not going to waste believe me.

      This is such a fun day.



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      Almostfive0 wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • How cool...multiple bitchin venues.



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I love to combine all our bitchin in one place. I don’t want to miss a thing.  

      ladies...



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • If my husband pats me on the ass one more time, I’m going to scream! He can’t walk past me without poking at it.



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      Mksactown wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Choco - my husband does that to my boobs. I’m a 40DD and he can’t walk past me without grabbing or poking them. He’s totally obsessed with them. We’ll be watching TV and his eyes don’t even leave the TV and he reaches over and sqeezes one. One night after he did that, I slapped his hand and said “QUIT. That bugs the shit out of me” and then I grabbed his nipple and asked “how do you like that?” After he winced in pain, squirming to get away from me, I said “bugs you, doesn’t it?” Still hasn’t stopped him, but I continue to slap his hand.



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      Event wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • First “bitch” of the day......making pumpkin pies and pumpkin bread for my restaurant only to find out that even “tweaked” baking recipes at high high altitude DON‘T WORK........the pies are fine the breads...a disaster. AAAHHHHHHHH........there, that feels better..now back to more mathematical equations inclusive of flour and oil and hope that the next batch turns out.  I am glad that my husband will eat anything, and the fact that the pumpkin bread did not rise will not stop him from putting vanilla ice cream all over it and digging in!! Not so much for my patrons though.



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Hey thanks Azdana...we are in and out all day.  It’s been a wonderfully cathartic day and welcome back.

      Chocalatier:  I can so relate to the grabbing by thing. At the end of the day, when this happens, I want to slap my husband in the face.  I want to scream at the top of my lungs, STOPPPP ITT ASS!!!!!!  I’ve tried to talk gently to him about this.  He doesn’t get it.  My sister who has a husband who doesn’t want sex is jealous of me.  I’m grateful my husband finds me attractive, but enough is enough!



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      Inakika wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Oh Chocolatier and Mksactown,
      I am with you two! Or why does he have to ask if he can “See one“?? They are the same brown boobs they were 2 days ago! DAMN! I just don’t get it!



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      Almostfive0 wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • No!....I wanna know why the slap on the ass when you‘re really in the moment.
      I have gotten so mad at my husband in the past for doing it that I just stopped one time in the middle of sex and got up and left.
      The next time we were together I waited until he was really into and I hauled off and slapped the crap outta his a@#! Scared the hell out of him.
      He never did it again.  It was hillarious...he said, “Okay I get it!”  HAHA.



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I gotta say.  This is so wonderful to hear other women who are sick and tired of being grabbed.  Now, just to come up with a solution...you know these guys and their fragile egos.  Hmmmpf.



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Almostfive0:  You are awesome!  I’m going to try that with my husband.  Just grab him and yank him...all with a big smile on my face!



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      Mksactown wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Okay...this chick just walked into my office and I found out that she is the mother of 6 kids ranging from 5 to 16 and I swear she doesn’t look a day over 30!! AND....she’s skinny as hell!! NOT FAIR!!!!



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      Inakika wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • She probably has hammer toe or some other ailment! How dare she! LOL! :)



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      Rene' Grandon wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Ok guys I know this will seems very DUH! but where do you you get this rabbit?



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      Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Do you have an “adult store” in your town.  I’ve ordered things through Good Vibrations, but for the life of me can’t find their website.

      Oprah should know.  I wonder if there’s something on her website.

      Azdana:  I’m pretty sure she hsa the rabbitt poor thing!

      greeneyedlady:  I just turned on the news.  This bail out package sounds worse than the first!  Holy cow....



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      Janna Whitley wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Also Eve’s Garden!!! Google them, they have all kinds of sweet things that don’t poke, slap or grab. smile



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      Jen Owens wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • OMG - that is so funny! I have tears in my eyes from laughing...



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      Jen Owens wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I feel for ya mksactown - I am the same and it is very frustrating when they keep it up. Do they think it’s cute? Flirty? What? I have lived with my boyfriend for almost three years and he used to do crap like that. Now we do nothing - not sure which is worse. hmmmmm



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      Jen Owens wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Fingerhut sells the Rabbit (and yes, I mean the vibrator) - I kid you not!!



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