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      Vikki Hall wrote May 3, 2009
    • Thx for sharing! Fortunately I don’t feel this way or have been treated this way yet!



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      Tuliplady wrote May 3, 2009
    • Interesting article.  

      Luckily, I don’t feel I’ve been treated this way.

        In fact we seem to have the opposite in our area.  My 21 yr old daughter has trouble getting book keeping jobs because she’s “too young” (even though she is incredibly responsible and has never called in sick a day in her life and has an associates degree that says she knows what she’s doing!).  I’m sure I could apply for the same job and get it simply because I’m older and supposedly more reliable.



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      Mztracy wrote May 3, 2009
    • Try being 45 and in a wheelchair! HA!

      At a starbucks once, right at the counter with my then 10 year old dd. A 20 something lil blonde literally walks right in front of us and places her order to the cashier. Sadly for her and the cashier I am not easily ‘pushed’ over even in a wheelchair. And my children do not accept me being treated this way either. By the time I was done with both of them, the lil blonde’s bf walked off bright red, she was almost in tears and the cashier gave me my coffee free.

      I was not mean or rude, just very matter of fact. I asked her how she could miss me sitting there and my dd who hands were on the counter. I asked her if we were, in fact, invisible. I also asked the cashier the same thing. I explained that when i worked in the retail industry I would have been fired straight away for allowing that to happen. She should have told the lil blonde she would be with her when she was done with us. They were both very apologetic, and i said well maybe next time they may think before they act.



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      Jane Woods wrote May 3, 2009
    • Good for you! I am sorry it happened but it is great that you were able to be so assertive! What a role model for your daughters!
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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 3, 2009
    • Thank you, Jane! I think what needs to happen is we women of a certain age need to vote with our pocketbooks. After all, we ARE the ones with the money, aren’t we? I bet we’d get treated a lot better if we made a point to spend where we are respected.



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • I can see this becoming an issue as I get older. Most people assume I’m about 10 years younger than I am, when they find out my age, some treat me differently. The comments are subtle, they are thrown in at the end of statements, like ‘well, you‘re older so you wouldn’t understand‘. Disregarding what I’ve said or excluding me from the conversation all together. I think there is hope though with the legislation in UK and with actresses still getting prime roles well into their Fab 40’s and beyond.



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • Good point Cynthia!!



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      UK Girl wrote May 3, 2009
    • Good point Cynthia - I think people pay lip service to our age - I’m having a big fight in the fashion industy at the moment in two weeks I’ve got a 2 page article in the fashion industry bible saying how we have the money but we are ignored - or they make clothes and put a 20 year old to model the clothes etc;

      We have a big chain in the UK called Marks and Spencers and they have done a range for over 40’s - OMG it’s awful - I have called the CEO and chewed his ear off and at the sharholders meeting let rip ...

      I’ve told them stop paying lipservice and make something for those who will spend and then don’t bleat when sales are bad because your chasing young girls on pocket money



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • Good for you MzTracy! to change the world, sometimes it takes just speaking up as things happen that are not right, I’m sure these girls will think before they do the same again.



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • Great point Vicki! And thank you for working to make changes! I get disgusted when I go clothes shopping and can’t find anything I would wear. In addition, we need models that are role models, and that represent real women.



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      Mztracy wrote May 3, 2009
    • ty mj.

      At sea world these parents let their kids walk right in front of me, obstructing my view. I calmy said, nice parenting...nice way to teach your children respect for others. Their one kid was literally almost on my lap. how hard they squeezed in front of me. lol



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      Jane Woods wrote May 3, 2009
    • Thanks for your comments. A few years back a young female reporter here (UK)was professionally made up to look about 30 years older. She went out onto the streets of London just doing her normal things.  

      But she was totally horrified at how she was treated. She said it was like the ‘cloak of invisibility’ had descended on her.

      I run training and coaching specifically for women and we talk about this a lot. Women in UK make about 80% of all major purchasing decisions so it is about time they (advertisers/governments) got their act together.  

      But we have to stop worshipping at the fount of the youth too and be proud to be older women! Yes, I want to look attractive but I don't want to erase the wisdom of my years. When people say I look younger than I am, I wonder why that is perceived as a compliment because it is saying it is wrong to look your age! Be Older, Gorgeous and Proud of it!
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      UK Girl wrote May 3, 2009
    • Tracy - I would be tempted to run them over - a while back I had to have a stick due to the effects of chemo on my hip muscles - Alice took it off me I used it like a sword when folk would barge into me etc; plus I would point at folk on the subway when wouldn’t give their seat up ...always younger fit men with their gym bag !

      Its shocking how we “see and treat” people with a disability - they are not daft ...



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      Jenz ~ wrote May 3, 2009
    • Tracy, you GO girl! I couldn’t picture you handling that any other way. You rock!

      And Vicki, if you ever need a 40-something model to model your fabulous clothes, call me! I’ll work that!! it always did bug me that a 20 something gets those positions. Not to say they can’t do it, but it seemed to take away the classic beauty of the pic. Does that make sense?

      As for being “dissed” I haven’t seen this yet in my own case. 40’s the new 25! haha I pity the fool who does decide to do this though. lol



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • LMOA Vicki!!



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • I have had two close friends that were in wheelchairs, one from my childhood and then another in my adult life, and I seen so much of that MzTracy. Both of my friends were fighters just like you and wouldn’t take the guff! You go girl!



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      Jane Woods wrote May 3, 2009
    • Yes, our attitudes towards disability are often shameful.

      One of the best things that happened to my daughter was having a very seriously disabled child in her class all through schol. He was also very naughty and as feisty as hell! The class very early on learned to treat him as they did everyone else (the only concession being sports day)or else get a clout! The net result being that my daughter has grown up with a very non judgemental attitude towards different appearances of any kind, size, colour, dress, etc.
      Although where her mother is concerned she can be a little harsh.....
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      UK Girl wrote May 3, 2009
    • At our age we should all start being more vocal we can blame it on the menopause - but why should we suffer in silence.

      I’m a great one for shaming folk in public - like men sitting down when older or pregnant women are stood on a crowded train or bus - I get quite “gobby” another Northern phrase .....



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      Jenz ~ wrote May 3, 2009
    • Vicki I love that self-value quote you have. SO TRUE!!



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      Jenz ~ wrote May 3, 2009
    • What else drives me INSANE is when people who do not need them, park in reserved spots for people with disabilities. Talk about wanting to reach out and slap someone..   (No I’m not violent. lol Just saying..)



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • I used to stare them down when I seen this (I used to travel to Chicago and Washington DC often), if I travel alot again, I think I will take a sword and be gobby!



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      Mztracy wrote May 3, 2009
    • lol vicki...my friends in the uk call me a gobby git!!! lol



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      Mztracy wrote May 3, 2009
    • oh jen do not get me started on those people!! lol



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      Jane Woods wrote May 3, 2009
    • Vicki, I CAN NOT WAIT TO MEET YOU!Whoops, didn’t mean to get over excited....



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • Jane - the experience the reporter had when dressed up to look older. That reminds me of the movie Shallow Hal. Gweneth Paltro said in an interview I read that she would go to lunch in her makeup and was treated the same way.



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      UK Girl wrote May 3, 2009
    • I know Jane - Thursday and I’m bring the camera ... show the Fabs our road trip ...



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      Laurie Zieber wrote May 3, 2009
    • I guess I haven’t experienced it- maybe find an older, fatter group to shop with!



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      UK Girl wrote May 3, 2009
    • Tracy - I’m known as a gobby Northern Bird - I’m loud and proud - so you can be an hon member of this club - only women over 40 please ...
      Oh yes people who park in disabled bays - another pet peeve of mine - I always say ” having a day off from the wheelchair or crutches so you can shop ....”



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      Laurie Zieber wrote May 3, 2009
    • oh but the wheel chair thing!  I would incited a riot.
      And you know i can....



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 3, 2009
    • Some things come without effort Laurie, it’s a gift!



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      Laurie Zieber wrote May 3, 2009
    • lol! Don’t I know it.



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      Faye43 wrote Sep 1, 2009
    • There are a lot of things for people over 55 and under 18. 19-54 forget it.



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      Faye43 wrote Sep 1, 2009
    • This site is the first thing that made me feel special for being 40. Thank you Yana happy



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