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If you were my close friend, you would know that I'm not exactly flexible. In fact, I tend to be very opinionated, judgmental and sarcastic. (Having put this down on paper, I suddenly find myself wondering how I'm so fortunate to have so many friends.)
Recently, one of my dear girlfriends met a man that she really likes. However, she wasn't sure how our immediate group of friends would react to the fact that her beau is 10 years her junior. Fortunately, she confided in me before getting all stressed out about the relationship. My reaction to her situation even surprised me.
At age 20, I would have been shocked. At 30, I might have felt a bit apprehensive. But at 41, I think it's phenomenal!
In the previous century (also known as the dating Dark Ages), a 10-year difference would have constituted a serious hurdle for those in the relationship. It would also have stirred up plenty of disapproval from those outside it. But come on, people, this is the 21st century! Why should a 10-year age gap be a big deal?
I think it's wonderful when a man is attracted to a woman for all the right reasons. If a 30-year old successful, educated male is interested in a 40-year old woman who is beautiful, versatile, funny, sharp and successful, what's wrong with that?
Why is it that all of us have to live by the rules? Why do we need to explain our actions or defend ourselves when we are in love or in lust? Why do we have to be just like everyone else? Why do we have to constantly conform to what society expects of us?
Who cares what our neighbors think? Or what our ex-mother in law gossips about? And the women at the gym need something to salivate about, don't they? You're both adults, and as long as the relationship is based on love, respect and trust, it doesn't matter how big the age gap might be.
The truth is, this is your life, and it's your responsibility to live it and enjoy the heck out of it. So the next time you start to get stressed out about a situation that doesn't fall into the typical "norm," forget about analyzing it and trying to accommodate everyone around you. Instead, do what feels right for you and "go for the gusto!"
After all, if you don't make yourself happy, who will?
All the best,
Exactly - well said! My husband is only 5 years younger than me, but when I met him that was the biggest obstacle (at least in my mind!)
However, pretty soon I discovered that his warmth, sincerity, maturity etc had nothing to do with his birthdate. Judge the person based on their personality and what’s happening in their heart and soul, where it truly counts!
Well said that woman! If a man were to date a woman ten years his junior he would do nothing but smile from ear to ear and be congratulated by his male friends, why shouldn’t women react in the same way.
I recently heard this quote from Billy Connolly and I think that it sort of fits here:
“You pass this way but once. There’s no such thing as normal. There’s you and there’s the rest, there’s now and there’s forever. Do as you damn well pleasy, or you’ll end up a boring pot-bellied old fart.”
Mwah
Nix
**__My Boyfriend is 11 years my junior. I am 40, he is 29. Ten years ago I would have thought that was an awful thing to do, but today I see nothing wrong with it. I do not notice the age difference unless I ask him what he was doing in the mid 80’s ;)
Hi All!
I too see no “taboo” in a relationship with a man of your dreams—no matter what his age! After all, ” Love knows no barriers, it is the divenest thing of the human heart.”
Well anyways, I’m deeply in love with my husband who is four years my senior. But I would say, why not if you want to—why should you care what others say or think or talk about?
Besides, two of my sisters have married men 10 years younger too. And that was over 20 years ago!!
You are so right Yana—it all depends, but most importantly, if it’s all for the RIGHT REASONS, then no problem.
Gool
I would have absolutely no problem with dating a younger man! I happen to be married, so it won’t be happening any time soon, but really, what is the big deal in this day and age!: )
How wonderful to get your feed back and know that we all seem to agree on this topic.
(even when the top five posts, show everyone to be born in a different country, with different upbringing, values, and outlook)
Amazing how ten or fifteen years ago we would of also agreed that dating younger men was nuts.
What can I say? The power of girlfriends, no one understands us better than the other women who are recognizing and celebrating Fabulously40 Syndrome.
Yana
Hi Yans
I totally agree with this Article you just wrote cos age is just a number . If you have things in common with eachother then why not?
I think it is wonderful to find love really doesn’t matter about the age difference ... What counts the most is been Happy and enjoy Life !!
I am 54 yrs old,and I prefer to date younger men.. I donot feel my age,and I think younger men keeps me feeling younger.. And younger men that are attracted to older women donot seem to mind either.. :)
"": [Link Removed] for 25 years, and then single for 10 more, I dated men both younger and older than myself and learned that age does not always equal wisdom and experience does not necessarily result in expertise. Two years ago, I met my Perfect man when I wasn't dating at all. I'm 58 and he is 45. I'm a little country and he's a little rock and roll. There are differences and similarities that make us sole mates (yes, I spelled that correctly - we want to be only with each other). The differences make for interesting conversation and exciting times as do the similarities.Life has a funny way of making plans for us and we need to keep our minds and our hearts open if we are ever to enjoy its true pleasures.
PC McCullough www.pcmccullough.com
I am 40, my partner is 25. When we first met he wouldnt even tell me his age because he was afraid I would judge him. And, I’ll admit I was a bit concerned at first by the age difference.
We’ve been together 2 years now and its been the best 2 years of my life! This relationship is far more healthier than any of my previous ones. In the past I typically dated men who were older than me...this one is more mature than any of them!
OMG, you are so right! I have been dating my bf for 4 years now, he is 7 years younger and I have this hang up because of this huge age difference, but after reading this, I feel much better and will start enjoying my relationship for what it is and not worry so much what everyone else is thinking because after all he makes me happy.
Thank you for sharing, your story has inspired me =)
i totally agree with this article... but what if it’s him who has the problem with the age difference... ? i actually dated a guy who is 11 years younger than I. We dated for a year... and he constantly kept bringing the issue of the age difference. He loved me and i still do love, but his concern about the age just couldn’t let him be relaxed so he ended the relationship.
I don’t see anything wrong with the age difference... it’s only a number. What matters is the feelings and the love one feels for each other. I enjoyed and loved being with him. I wish he could’ve worked his issue to continue this exciting relationship.
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