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The women in my family are very tight-lipped so I had no idea of what to expect. Shortly after I turned 40 I had a terrifying health scare. It turned out to be a misdiagnosis but it changed my life forever. I wished I had my mom and my grandma around to ask questions and compare notes but....my mom left the family when I was 7 and my grandma passed away in 1991 so no luck there. I wonder now...if they had health scares of their own and if so, what they did to recover. I still to this day don’t feel as if I have recovered. Its as if someone punched a hole in the center of my body and forgot to put something back to fill the yawning void. My husband never understood of course. I always needed far more (to him) than he was ever able to give. He is closed off emotionally—just like his father. Eventually I grew very resentful of my husband never being there yet expecting me to always be there for him and I realized I had changed and grown up while he remained stuck in his pleasant fog. Now we have decided to divorce and I am trying to find my way back to me once and for all...with very little to my name. I have always been very resilient though so, while I am a bit afraid of the unknown at this time, I am doing everything in my power to re-create my entire life into one I will be proud to have forever.




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      Anne E wrote May 26, 2011
    • A lot of us on Fab40 have gone through the challenges of a divorce and we are here to support you.  You deserve a life with people you love supporting you and being there for you.



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 26, 2011
    • I know you may be scared right now with all that you have going on. The only thing I can say is to take each day one at a time. face it head on and don’t fight it. Your feelings are your feelings and you have a right to them....good bad and ugly.

      I know you are new here and may not be sure about us but we really support each other. Look around on here and you will see we all reach out in form or another.
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      Mzd3 wrote May 27, 2011
    • I also divorced, many years ago, and was terrified , but it all worked out for the better, and your life will too. Hang in there... we will be here to listen , and support you through this.



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      Cathie Beck wrote May 27, 2011
    • You certainly have the right attitude for bringing change to your life to live proud of your accomplishments. ;oD  I’m waiting to put my plans of life after the divorce into action and your X sounds very similar to mine. It was him that wanted a divorce, in our case. I was so devastated at first, but in just 3 weeks I totally changed my mind and decided it was really good for me. I live in a community property state so half of all this is mine in one form or another. ;oD  

      It takes awhile recovering from many years with a suppressed husband, but just picture a new freedom to be and live and love as you want to. The possibilities are endless and the reality is possible!  

      Wishing you all the best,

      Cathie



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      Mztracy wrote May 27, 2011
    • Cyber hugs coming your way. I’m sorry you have to go through all of this!



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      Marya1961 wrote May 31, 2011
    • Many big hugs to you on your new journey!estatic



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      Hunter69 wrote May 31, 2011
    • Thank you!!! :)



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