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If you are not an online dating attemptee, you would certainly be surprised at how many people are!!
From one look at the hourly attendance, which can number in 6 digits, it would tend to make people think there are a whole lot of available people looking for someone.
And you might think, why is it so hard for people to find someone to date?
Having only been “shopping” at the woman looking for man sites, I can only say, it is real interesting reading for anyone that wants to be entertained!
Personally, I figured, how hard could this be? You make your own profile, add a very flattering,current photo and wa-la you are in the game.
Then it would be my job to sit back and see if anyone “hit” on my particuler profile. If they did, they would commanly leave you a message in the form of,“I read your profile, and would like to chat if you are interested“.
Little did I know or expect that it would be quite comman to recieve the vulgar comments, you know the ones, straight to the point of what they would like to do to you, and believe me, it didnt involve meeting for coffee!!!
So then it occurs to me that, do these guys know why they will wait a long,long time to find someone?? Their approach is all wrong and for some reason, I can magically hear them saying, ” I had no luck on the FIND LOVE EASY ,ETC...dating site. I just dont know why!”
And you know what your mama used to tell you, it if sounds too good to be true, it probably damn well is. if you take nothing else from this blog........BELIEVE THAT!!!
You can sign up for all types of relationships. They range from, friends, talk/email, long term,dating, and my personal favorite,ACTIVITY PARTNER. Some of the men have described this as someone to go to movies with, out to eat, but then that could come under the friends section as well. I dont know about you, but I am thinking some hanky panky is expected, since some of these charmers are MARRIED!!!’
I wont say that my entire experience has been negative, there have been a few guys I met that were gentleman, and will be my friends for a long time.
What I wish to share with you today is my experience on two separate occassions, that were nearly carbon copies of each other, and not in a good way.
As soon as initial contact was made, conversations started in the form of cell phone texting, calls, messaging online, emails. This is not uncomman. What is uncomman is the frequency of the contacts, and the tone of the calls.
The man would become super attatched immediately, and would tell you if you were his, he could do many wonderful things for you, make your life better, and in affect, be your knight in shining armor. This would intensify over the course of time. They would become upset with you if an email or text was not immediately responded to.
You must also realise, in each of these cases, I had never face to face met the guy. Always seemed to be a reason why we couldnt meet,such as time, job, etc...
In essence, it did not FEEL right. They were way to overpowering and controlling. At some point when one of the guys decided it wasnt going to work, he said he would not text me or call again, and I wished him well. Only to find out the texting continued because he wasnt done talking AT me. This resulted in my blocking him on my cell phone.
So anyone thinking about dating online, be aware that its not an easy thing to do.
Will I stop LOOKING online, probably not. But I am a whole lot smarter to the issues there. Good luck to all!

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      Mz. Queen wrote Jun 21, 2009
    • I have had interesting interaction some just like you mentioned but none where I had to block numbers, but I’ve been paying attention and watching for those red flags.

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      Jenni0811 wrote Jun 21, 2009
    • Buyer Beware!!

      But there are some diamonds amongst all the rocks.  After all, we are out there, aren’t we??



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      UK Girl wrote Jun 21, 2009
    • Honey – this is scary......
      Sadly there are more men than women out there so men can be lazy ass and disgusting so sadly they just carry on....
      You're brave women doing this but I'm sure you'll find a man .......keep up us updated with tales from the Internet dating front line .....
      I'm thinking of doing it myself and I'm almost sure men in the UK will be just as gross



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      UK Girl wrote Jun 21, 2009
    • Love your commment Jen - your both diamonds



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      Mztracy wrote Jun 21, 2009
    • I think in real life dating, these things happen as well.

      I’ve met men in person through friends, at a party that do and act the same way.

      In both worlds, it’s a matter of picking and choosing the right one! estatic



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      Mjmurphy wrote Jun 22, 2009
    • Thanks for sharing, this is something I was considering as well but was concerned about these type of situations. I’m glad to know there are also some good experiences out there. I am currently working retail in a store that 80% of customers are men so I’m like a kid in a candy store right now, lol.



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      Marta Goodman wrote Jul 13, 2012
    • Hi everybody..I am tired of the song of dance of POF.  I have met some guys but it does not go beyond the chatting, testing and the obvious...NO BODY WANTS TO PICK UP THE TELEPHONE AND CALL YOU.  I just wrote someone a note about my experience riding a bicycle and his comment was..“that sounds like sex“.  Is it me or all the online dating websites have given an window of opportunity to all the married men and perverts that to the rest of the world seem to be normal.  

      Love to hear from some of the ladies and their opinions.



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