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Hello all!  I’m new to this, so bare with me if i start to ramble.  I have a situation and i need advice.  I am 41 and this situation took place starting after my divorce.

After my divorce 3 years ago, i moved back in with my parents.  I was of course heartbroken because i thought the world revolved around my Ex.  Mom and dad thought that they would help me so they bought me a Yorkie puppy, Gizzmo.  He is the sweetest dog on earth.  He is totally spoiled now.  Anyway, after about 6 months of living with mom and dad, i met my husband Chris.  We dated for a few months then became engaged.  We got married in Sept. 2006.  We went to Branson, MO with our parents and of course Gizzmo.  Dad and Gizzmo walked me down the isle.  It was a Beautiful wedding, but then the trouble started.  My mom and dad have severe seperation anxiety from Gizzmo.  Chris and I live about 25 minutes from mom and dad.  For a while i was working just a couple of minutes away from mom and dad’s house. They got on a kick where they wanted me to bring Gizzmo to their house before work and pick him up after work. Just like if i was taking a child to a babysitter.  Then it got to the point where i was taking him to them on Sunday night and picking him up for the weekend on either Thursday night of Friday.  They don’t think he should have to be at home alone when mom is always home. So he just stays with them.  I get him now on either thursday night or Friday and keep him until Sunday.  Then back to mom and dad’s he goes.  I have tried keeping him longer, but they seriouly get upset when they don’t think they are going to get him.  I have also mentioned to them that i was just going to let Gizzy stay there and i would come see him.  They have a fit because they say that i would be abandoning him.  I started such a mess and now i don’t know how to get out of it.
How in the world can i ever get MY dog back.  Or should i just listen to my husband and let him just stay with mom and dad and get a new puppy.  Hubby wants to get us a dog that is ours.



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      Nani2l wrote Sep 22, 2008
    • If it were me (and I talk a good game believe me, but read my post today and you’ll see I’m still scared of my mother-lol) I would insist that they just keep Gizz and you will get another.  Try to soften it a little by telling them that you and Chris want a dog that is the both of yours.  It may be hard for you, knowing how much you love him, but it’ll get better in time.  I’m sure of it.  Boy I sound confident (lol).



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      Inakika wrote Sep 22, 2008
    • Or, get another small dog that can keep Gizzmo company and insist that mom and dad come over to your house to visit. Tell them that your new dog would get lonely without Gizzmo around.  

      When my mother in law was sick, I would take my 2 small shorkie pups (Yorkie/Shih Tzu mix) over to her house to cheer her up. My sister in law got it in her head that I should just drop them off over to the house so that mom could play with them when she wanted to. As much as I love mom, I had to say no, my dogs needed to get use to one house only: mine.
      It wasn’t easy to say no, but over the years I have had to learn the hard way to put my foot down when necessary.



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