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My friend and I went to the mall today. My first time out out in a while. Most of my shopping is done online. I needed to return some bras, so we went to the mall here in town.

We parked in handicapped so I had the blue line box on my cars right side for my ramp for my wheelchair to exit/enter the van.

We go in, return the bras, I did a lil shopping and then we went and had lunch.

We left the mall around 2 or so and it was around 100 degrees or so. Ewwww We get to the van and the person parked next to us was parked along the blue lined box area diagonally, the the rest in the parking spot. It was one of those “I am a small man” kind of trucks. If you get my meaning. tongue out

We tried to lower my ramp and it would not give me any room to get my chair up my ramp as this truck took up MY blue lined spot area. By now I am very hot, my energy draining and highly pissed off. So Courtney got in the van to move it over into the (luckily) vacant spot on the other side so I could get in.  

As she did this, I wrote a lil note for the truck.

“The next time you use disabled parking, park correctly. The blue area is for those truly disabled that need a ramp to exit and enter their vehicle. Remember this for future reference... ASS!!!!!!”

Now, maybe I did not need to use the last word, but it was better than keying or spitting on the truck.

I have now made up lil business like cards with this saying. Am I being rude, maybe. Am I being childish, I hope so. But most people do not know just how hard it is to go anywhere, the getting ready, the dressing, can take it all out of you.  

All I ask is a lil COMMON courtesy for the disabled.

First, if you really do not need to use a placard, don’t.
Second, do not borrow placards. RUDE!!!
Third, if you do use them and need to, be respectful and do not use the lined areas, they ARE there for a reason!

Awwwwwww I feel better already!!
xx

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      Mztracy wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • Thoughtless, much better word!!

      I know I sound harsh, but this ‘truck’ was taller than my chair top. If this person was disabled they would need a lot of help to get in. At least a lift crane, and there  were none in sight.

      This is the second time this has happened in 2 weeks. Happened at Sam’s Club with the hubby.

      Life is tough enough enough disabled, sucks when others make it even harder!  

      Hope they liked my note!! lol



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      Frannie1964 wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • I don’t get why people park crooked at all.
      I see that alot when I’m at work and when I use to go out and do cart runs, I would always see someone parked In the handicapped parking all sideways, not straight, but sideways like they did It on purpose for some reason.

      I don’t blame you for being pissed and using that word.estatic
      I like your business card Idea.



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      Marya1961 wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • Actually, I like “Ass” better, MzTracy..some people have no conception of what others go through.  Their thinking is me, myself and I...you do have constraint, because I would have hocked up a big one and made a mess out of his windshield.tongue out



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      Mztracy wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • ty Fran.... I made the cards and am all ready for the next one!!tongue out
      I need to find my joy somehow and the lil things make me smile! lol



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      Mztracy wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • TY mayra! It took lots of constraint not to key his vehicle. lol I tried to maneuver my chair but got caught on my ramp.

      I was so embarrassed as people were looking at us. But, they were probably thinking what an ass to the truck as well!! tongue out



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      Kandykahne 5 wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • I don’t blame you for being upset! People just don’t think sometimes! I do like the card idea!happy



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • That is really one of my biggest peeves. They think they are above the rules, and it pisses me off!



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      Termite wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • Way to go Mz!! What makes people think they can do that and no one is going to give them any grief? Ugh...!!!

      I love the card idea! That just might be a good fund raiser! Just a thought!



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • Just today I was talking to a friend that maybe I’ll go be a cripple advocate. From experience I knew there was no wheelchair access at the front of the school, today was textbook/registration for my youngest. I called the school, which is not too far from my house to see about how I would be getting into the building, normally they only open the main door. Well they gave me directions, I drive there and of course parking was not close by, I haven’t got handicapped parking...anywho, we park, my son gets my chair out, then we have to go in a big circle to get to the ramp then find the door they told me to use locked. So he has to leave me there and go in the buildings main entrance and find someone to unlock the door. Hello, I know I am not the only one in a wheelchair, and I would think by law they would have to have access for anyone chair bound...it was extremely hot, I was melting, after I bothered putting my face on....finally I’m in, my son is directed to go ahead of me and then I set out to meet him, find a door that I can’t open, then when somebody comes up to open it I find that I can’t use my arms to wheel myself in, the doorway is to narrow. I guess maybe because it is a middle school smaller chairs, I don’t know, along the way I’m trying to rationalize everything and getting pissy....not just the narrow doorways, heavy doors, but cracked sidewalks where I could have tilted over....sorry this is long....like your idea on the cards, after going through everything you have to go through just to get out and do what you need to do, you deserve a free pass on ass...



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 19, 2009
    • Wilma, those are great ideas...I run into the illegal parking so often. What I have found is the idiots that park too close to me, making it hard for me to get back in my vehicle...consequently I end up parking further away as I know most people are too lazy to park far away from the entrance. I may just take pics and raise a little bit of hell. I am seriously considering advocacy as either a career move or on a volunteer basis...of course once I’m able to actually get around better.



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      UK Girl wrote Aug 20, 2009
    • In the UK if you park in a disabled parking spot and you're not you get clamped or better still towed – plus a hefty fine. I love seeing their face as they walk very round looking like it’s hidden it’s self - bit of a give away when your running round looking !!!!

      Plus the bays are very wide so people like you have no trouble........they also do this same for mother and baby so people with buggies etc;

      What pisses me off is because parking is at a premium in London you get people trapping you in so we have often come out and you can't move etc; so Miss Alice has her own cards which have a similar sentiment – last week guy was right up our back bumper but miles of space behind him so I just said nudge him back with your car – so his bumper was all scratched and dinted .... ass....



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 20, 2009
    • I hope the jerkwater gets some bad Karma!



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      Angelcart wrote Aug 20, 2009
    • Tracy, actually I thought you were too nice on your card!  I’m not disabled but when my child was in a stroller, I had a hatchback and this idiot parked on my actual bumper to I couldn’t get the stroller in!  I left him/her a very nasty note!  Also, I see a lot of this too.  It irks me when I stop at the store and see people park in the handicap spot and get out walking fine.  So many times I want to say something to them but figure what good would it do?  I doubt they would move their car, it will come back on them.



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Aug 20, 2009
    • Tracy....I am so sorry this happened to you. People are so rude. I know people who have placards that ARE NOT disabled. Ya know what...if I have to park a mile away from the mall and walk...I consider it a blessing THAT I AM ABLE TO DO SO! I am not the most energetic person by any means but I am not rude or thoughtless either. I hope that guy felt like an a$$ from your note and that he thinks twice before he ever does that agin!



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      Mz. Queen wrote Aug 20, 2009
    • Justified. I hate that behavior as much as you do and I am able bodied.



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      Marybeth Pitner wrote Aug 20, 2009
    • WAY TO GO!!!!! Thumbs up on that one, not to many people would leave a note and say what they think.  I just hope that the next time they will think twice about where they are parking.happy



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      Mztracy wrote Aug 21, 2009
    • Well I made the cards and they are all ready! lol

      Now no one will ever do this again! tongue out

      I know about the ‘invisible’ diseases, I have one and once you could not tell. I had the placard, but never used it until it started getting bad.

      I am very careful and make sure before I roar! lol But honestly, this truck idiot, I would not have cared what the problem was as they were just plain inconsiderate. And most likely NOT disabled or they would have know better.

      I am also going to get a sticker for the ramp side window made at the mall that says....

      This van has a ramp for a wheelchair.
      If you value your car park properly!

      or something like that! lol



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      Robin Clark wrote Aug 21, 2009
    • It is a shame when people misuse the handicap parking.  My husband has had 4 back surgeries and 1 neck surgery.  There is days when he can hardly walk because his pain is so bad.  He got a handicap tag to put up in the  window so that he can park closer to to door and I am sure people frown on him and myself because they think he is healthy and able to walk and should not be allowed to park there. I wish they could live with the pain that I see him live with every day.  I don’t like it when I see people pull up in front of a building just so they don’t have to park in a parking place.  I wish the police would do their job and give out tickets to people who park in fire parking area in front of buildings. Good luck with the cards. Hope your future parking experience gets better.



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      Tammy Slater-Kendrick wrote Aug 21, 2009
    • Tracy, I think you were a LOT kinder to the “ass” than I would have been! I probably would have done everything in my power to ensure that the ramp marred the hell out of his precious vehicle.  

      My mom has a handicap placard because she has serious heart issues (along with several other health issues). She can’t walk far without a great deal of pain. Whenever I take her anywhere, she always volunteers to let me use the placard. Instead, I drop her right at the door, then park as usual - telling her that I like to get a little extra exercise in wherever I can. But, mostly, it’s because I feel guilty taking up a handicapped spot when I don’t absolutely have to.  

      My heart goes out to those of you who are constantly faced with the challenges presented by those who just don’t think about the limitations you have.



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      Tammy Slater-Kendrick wrote Aug 21, 2009
    • Just had a thought for you, Tracy - why not get some bumper stickers printed that read ‘this is where my wheelchair ramp would have ruined your paint job if I hadn’t been a nicer person than you‘. Then, stick them on the side of the vehicles that park where they shouldn’t. If they remove them promptly, it won’t hurt their paint, but it should make them freak out a little. (yes, I have a vindictive side).



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      Angell Villafañe wrote Aug 21, 2009
    • Splendid idea on the cards mztracy! What an idiot...some people think they are above the law and very inconsiderate of the physically challenged. I hope your cards make a difference and wake people up. You handled the situation way better than I would...good for you! happy



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      Debbie McGinn wrote Aug 31, 2009
    • Great idea making the cards!  People certainly do not use their brains these days, and whatever happened to common courtesy!!



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      Faye43 wrote Sep 3, 2009
    • You are sure correct. He was the rude one. He is probably like a friend of mine in college. She hung her handicapped sticker in her car and than we walked around campus. I could not keep up with her, she walked so fast. Ok. I was tired because I had worked the night before and I had a job where I stood for long periods at a time working on a machine, but I am still trying to figure out what part of her was disabled.



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