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First off I wish to thank the other ladies in this category who have posted their stories to help those of us who are just beginning the process to understand what is happening to us and what we might expect as we go through it.

I’m 42 years old and over the last month have noticed several strange things happening to me, but never did I connect the “symptoms” together to identify the problem.  I started getting the hot flashes in the middle of my work day, now for me at first I didn’t even realize they were hot flashes, as I’m always complaining I’m hot (I call it being very hot blooded... I use to even leave a window open in the dead of winter because I can’t stand trying to sleep when I am hot).  Then I started having trouble sleeping (only getting 3 maybe 4 hours a night) that of course led to being tired at work and unable to focus or concentrate... being depressed and moody and not wanting to even be at work... again I never connected any of these things and I certainly never realized they were all common symptoms of perimenopause or menopause...

Then after missing my period for about 4 months or so, I finally got it and OMG!  I have been one of those few lucky woman who have never had to experience PMS before, I never got a single cramp, never got bitchy (actually I use to get really silly or giddy during that time) I did have the bloating but barely noticeable since I’m already a big woman... but this last period I finally experienced what many woman go through normally with every period... (about to get a bit graphic here) but the cramps were so bad, I couldn’t stand it (thank you, thank you to the inventor of Pamprin!) that was the only thing that would help with the cramps.  And the bleeding was so bad, I have never, ever seen it that bad for me at least.  So that is when I began to worry.  

I went online and check out the symptoms of Menopause and to my complete amazement I had just about every single symptom, including the heart palpitations.  That is when I made my doctor’s appointment.  She of course did a few blood tests making sure it wasn’t anything else like a miscarriage or something like that, including checking my Thyroid and such.  Well all those tests came back normal.  So the general consensus was that I was beginning the process of perimenopause... Oh Joy!

Now, here is where my...ummm, anger or confusion begins.  I have three older sisters and none of them have even started that trek down insanity hill... WHAT THE HELL!  Why do I have to go through it first... we are of the same jeans, same blood, same family... I don’t think if fair, and it’s definitely not right, they are suppose to go through it first and as my big sisters they are suppose to help me understand and deal with it....

Now I have to seek outside help from you guys, on what to expect, how you all got through it or are getting through it and most importantly, when I start acting not like my usual self (I’m usually very mild mannered, I don’t usually fight back, I have sort of a submissive personality) But I have been noticing that I am getting more short tempered, and snapping more than I use to and far more moody than I use to be.  I know by reading some of your blogs out here that this is all part of the norm with this thing and I have started taking Black Cohosh to try to help with some of the symptoms but I’m really scared about the forgetting stuff and miss placing things, as my job a lot of times requires me to be on my guard...  

Can anyone tell me how often or how long each of these forgetful bouts last.  Is it constant or does it come and go, and has anyone had a sort process?  Cause I was told it could take anywhere from 2 to 8 years to get through.

And those of you who have tried the Bio-Identical products, what have your experiences been.  What side effects if any have you experienced and can you get those through your regular doctor or do you have to find someone in the “natural” or “alternative medicine” field?

Thanks for any and all help you can give.


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      Lazylola wrote Jul 15, 2009
    • Robin, It is with sad regret that I welcome you to the club...LOL

      I’ve been going through it for several years now, I just turned 41. It isn’t fair, but it is what it is. It is different for all of us. I’ve had the mood swings, night sweats, well I could go on and on, but everything on the list I’ve been through. I am not on anything at all and have no plans on taking or using anything anytime soon. The symptoms have lessened and I have heard that it can last up to 15 years....I hate that particular thought.  Do your research and talk to your doctor, and dress in layers. Good luck.

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      Joni Marie wrote Jul 16, 2009
    • Hi robin:

      I’m been perimenopausal forever, or it least it seems that way!  I’m 48 and I’m on year 5, but I know I was in perimenopause probably around 7 years ago.  Some of the symptoms are standard and explainable, like the hot flashes or the irregular periods, but some symptoms can really make you crazy.  For example, I’ve had horrible problems with anxiety and now my girls are misbehaving.  Due to extreme hormonal fluctions, One of girl is larger then the other.   Geesch, it’s always something!!!

      Just know that you not alone and we‘re all in this together.
      Have a blessed day.


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      Robin15728 wrote Jul 16, 2009
    • Thank you both for your information and comfort.  I’m so glad that I found this website, it has given me some really good information as well as enabled me to connect to other woman out there who can understand and sometimes even prepare and explain some of the certain issues that face woman.  

      Thank you to the creators of, and thank you to all the woman out there who are kind enough to reach out and help other woman deal with life’s challenges.  


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      Abby47 wrote Dec 4, 2009
    • Hi Robin. I’m just turn 48. I’ve been goin thru the same things. Except that i haven’t experience the hot flashes. But my mood swings, depression n anxiety r drivin me nuts. My gy-ob is workin w/me. Almost cost me my marriage cuz my husband didn’t understand. We still workin on it. But i think is very helpful that we talk about it. Good luck!

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      Deana Tankersley wrote Feb 8, 2010
    • I have been noticing the same thing..and i know this is not the answer but I personally am going to try natural herbal supplements..vitamins and herbal supplements have been linked to making some women feel better..not sure but u could always google the subj. I know I’m gonna try it myself..but hey everyone is diff. right..

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