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I live outside of a very large city as some may or may not know.  We moved from this large city six years ago with the hope of living in a single modest home, having a yard to garden in, meeting new neighbors and just enjoying the suburban life.  Our area is fairly safe, with the police department working as hard as they can to keep it that way.  

There have been many changes in our little neighborhood over the past six years.  Neighbors move, pass away..streets and businesses get make-overs, kids continue to grow, good things happen and bad things happen.  I was not prepared for what happened last week in OUR sweet, yet busy township.

There is a wonderful restaurant that we frequent and the waitresses are sweethearts.  It is clean, well run and quite savvy.  The name of it is The Kitchen Bar.  The food is always delicious and it is located on a very busy road.

About a week and a half ago, a young waitress was leaving for the night after her shift, and a convicted felon, just released from prison had been in the restaurant earlier, eye-balling her.  Apparently, he had been waiting by his car watching her..she proceeded to enter her car and he grabbed her and threw her in his car and fled to Philadelphia, whereupon his intent was to rape and kill her.  It was not her time to die, this young girl fought and fought this man and was able to flee. He was apprehended and brought back to our township and now will be under OUR jurisdiction.

I have not been able to shake this feeling.  I have very little trust in most men anymore.  A man that lives around the corner from me was literally pissed off at me for not noticing him one day as I was busy doing my gardening.  What is happening in this world?  Why so much anger and hatred directed towards women, and for that matter children and animals?  Is it because we are the “weaker” of the species and many men are starting to question their place in this world?  The anger, resentment and hostility that I witness in the world pains me and makes me want to withdraw deeper into the quiet and serenity of my own home.  As I know that it is not healthy to be a hermit, it is also not healthy to be on guard all the time.

As I close with this, what is your feeling about the turmoil in society?  Do you see this within your community? Are you a person that is guarded or more carefree because of your surroundings?  Why must we live this way?  Lots of questions, but where can we find the answers?

Peace and Love!

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      Marya1961 wrote Aug 5, 2010
    • Thanks Annie for your thoughts!estatic..this girl somehow mustered up the courage to fight her attacker and won..now, another question comes to my mind..the girl was young, what if it had been an older, frail woman or someone less forceful?..that woman would have been a statistic as there are many..personally, I don’t feel safe in or around a huge city, it is only a matter of not being a target.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 5, 2010
    • Mary I can understand your feelings. I’ve had a very guarded view of men throughout my life. In today’s world I’m very disturbed by the texting of racy photos, the idea of “hooking up“, and “friends with benefits” that I see young people engaging in. I believe that there’s a decrease in the respect that women receive from men right now. Just my opinion but it’s how I see it. I commend that young woman for standing up for herself and not allowing this animal to violate her. It goes to show that we still need to be aware of our surroundings and trust our instincts.



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      Suzann wrote Aug 6, 2010
    • Marya, I battle with the same thoughts. But Annie’s right - statistically, things are indeed better than they have been in the past.  

      I think we need to be discerning about men, and certainly aware of our surroundings, do what we can for the women, children, and animals in our paths, and the rest we can only pray about. I say that because I have a tendency to think catastrophically and if I don’t catch myself, I get very negative, and soon I’m in bed sobbing. I’ve been doing that all my life, and I’ve finally decided I’m not helping anyone by taking on all this sadness in the world and (if I let it), fear of men.

      Not that I’m doing anything “right,” mind you, I’m on anti-depressants so I’m no role model. But I’m trying to pray a lot, and then just ... give money to my animal causes when I can, get pets only from the shelter, and be there for my family if they need me for big or little things.  

      I know how you feel, I’ve often had those same thoughts -in fact I could have written your blog!!!!  

      Keep your chin up, sweetie, I won’t say everything will be okay, but remember you can only do your best - you can’t do anything more.



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      Marya1961 wrote Aug 10, 2010
    • Thanks Cynthia and Suzann..there are reasons behind my feelings towards men, but with the help of the Lord and those that care about me, it makes things a bit easier.heart



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