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Someone asked me recently how to get past the deep sense of failure we ADHD women feel when we contemplate trying again to — fill in the blank with whatever you like. We have “failed” so many times that the subject doesn’t really matter.

What does matter is my answer: it was all about my husband, Victor. When I faltered in my attempts to start the ADDiva Network, it was Victor that gently, but honestly, reminded me that this was the work I was born to do.

He stood by me, reassuring me over and over (I need a big dose of encouragement) and eventually, I began to believe him. And eventually I began to succeed.

The news may seem dismal, if you‘re not in a steady relationship with someone you love, or worse, if your relationship isn’t supportive of you and your ADHD. But it doesn’t require a fabulous husband or partner to gain that confidence in yourself. It requires someone on the outside reflecting back to you just how miraculous you truly are.

You are, you know.

A miracle, that is.

The fact that you cared enough about YOURSELF to read this post (not to mention finding the ADDiva Network in the vast ocean of the internet) means that you haven’t given up hope. And when you have hope, there is a tiny pinprick of light that you can hear, and eventually believe, the good news about YOU. Yes, you.

ADHD isn’t a life sentence (although a lot of people will tell you so), it just is. And your past does NOT predict your future. Will you be linear and color inside the lines if you have someone supportive in your life? Nope. But you’ll feel a lot better about coloring without any lines at ALL.

Victor is a miracle, too. He’s survived cystic fibrosis for nearly 59 years. The doctors told his parents he wouldn’t see 19, let alone 59. So I take my turn in supporting him (even though he doesn’t need a lot of support; he’s pretty self assured these days).

It take someone outside our ADHD bodies to see the goodness that lies within. It takes a husband or a friend or a mom or a cousin or a coach or a therapist. It takes someone who won’t get tired of reminding you again and again that you are worthwhile until ... until ... you know it’s true.




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