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This was the weekend B and I were supposed to go to Nashville for a long weekend... stay in a B&B... just get away from everything and be together... Then he broke up with me - out of the blues... I’ve had my moments of intense grieving... and I’ve had my moments of moving forward... even went out to dinner with a guy friend... but I’m just not ready to “date” yet....
So things have been looking up and bright for me... potential job offer coming tomorrow... all good... even though I’ve been a little down this weekend because I had been looking forward to seeing B....
Then I get a call from his sister-in-law who tells me B showed up at their house Friday night absolutely furious at them - particularly at her (sister-in-law) and 12-year old niece... Sis-in-law left him an honest voice message saying she couldn’t talk to B right now because she’s still pretty angry about the way he ended things with me and how he told her... Niece sent a letter telling him how upset and sad she has been... B is now furious because he feels his family has ganged up on him - which they have not... Anyway - all the details are not important... except that he threw some ugly words at them all - and that’s not normal for B; not at all... I feel so sorry for his family because I think B is so distraught by his decisions that he is lashing out at those closest to him and he has caused so much hurt.
I’ve spent the entire afternoon and evening praying about this and I really believe if he were at peace with breaking up with me, it wouldn’t have been an issue to tell his family... and he would have handled their hurt so much better... The other thing that has been made crystal clear to me is that B and I need to meet face-to-face to air some things. I need closure... I’m just not sure how to approach it all...
I know there will be many (most) of you who will tell me to just suck it up and walk away. But it’s not that easy... and while many of you have had similar situations, and I honor that experience, this is MY journey (aka DRAMA!)... So, I guess I write just to see my words more clearly - and should probably not even publish - but also just to ask you pray for me to make the right choices... to listen to the right words...
Thanks for listening to my ramblings....
Good night all....
Sleep on it.. if you feel the same in the morning think about it more.. then sleep on it again... continue that process for a month.. if you still feel the same.. then think on it somemore.
I feel for you girl. I had a really intense breakup that tore me apart inside. I couldn’t eat and all I wanted to do was sleep and when I was awake-I would cry. I’m here for you to hold your hand...
i would never tell u to suck it up. Like the ole saying, walk a mile in my shoes! Saying that is when they have nothing helpful to say and usually said by unhappy people. lol
You know what went on between you and B, no one else.
We do learn from our mistakes, and it may take more than one time too. lol t did for me!
If you need the closure, then by all means talk to him. But, Be prepared as there is no telling the mood he may be in with all the family issues!
I wish you luck in whatever you chose to do!!
Greeneyed - I do plan on sleeping on it, for a few days... B’s gone dark on me for several days and I’m just laying low for a bit... and praying on it...
Vigirl - thanks for the hand, my friend!
Anne Marie,
I will pray for peace and clarity for you. And I am praying for that job offer tomorrow too!
Thank you Mztracy! I know I have to be prepared for his anger... and maybe he should be prepared for mine... LOL!
Thanks Dee Dee! I want to know more about your move to CO also! I’m praying for you house to sell quickly...
You are and will go through he grieving process. No different than death. I am praying that it will be a sustainable period for you. When you are done with grief and anger, look inward and try to discover your inner self and strength. You can do it and we are all here to support you and offer any and all help you need. I am sending you a gigantic cyber hug!
Me too! My poor husband doesn’t handle change well. Me, I here with so much to do that I am not thinking about lonely... yet. He on the other hand just arrived yesterday (after 3 days on the road) and is already complaining that he thinks he is getting sick and having nightmares about me finding another man. Sad but funny! What man in their right man would even LOOK at a woman with 9 kids under her roof?!
Hopefully after he starts work and settles in there it will be better. Right now he is at a hotel until he can find a little, cheap apt. I know he is wishing he hadn’t taken the job, but he was so excited about it a few months ago. I keep telling him “it’ll be fine.” :) Hopefully he’ll start believing it and build a bridge so he can get over it. He is making himself literally sick with nervousness.
Thanks for asking!
AnneMarie, our fabulous sister, I know what you mean and it’s good to put on paper. No matter how it turns out, your peace and happiness should be your prime focus and everything else, it does not matter! You will be in my prayers till you start dancing and singing in the middle of an arena.
You are so sweet, my friend Chinadoll... Dancing in an arena?? Hmmmm... 
Ok, change it to singing in an opera? or singing daily Hallelujah!
Works?
Well, Chinadoll, since I’ve already sung in an opera (and didn’t realy enjoy it) I think I’d rather sing daily Hallelujahs...
AnneMarie, I was once in your shoes and I did just that. I called him and told him that I wanted to talk to him. It was the least that I deserved. After our conversation, I was still broken hearted, but I felt that a big weight had been lifted off my shoulders because I was able to tell him everything I had to say. It all worked out in my situation, but everyone is different. You have to figure out what is best for you and live with the consequences of your decision.
Still pondering... still praying... still loving... This is a very tough place to be... still waiting....
Sometimes airing things out is the only way TO move on with your life. It sounds like you didn’t have much to say about the break-up and that isn’t fair. It takes along time for that ache to heal, but it will come. In the mean time, that’s what you have all of these wonderful women here for. There is a reason you came to be on this site ....
You are correct, Someday, I had NO say in what happened... He asked for one thing, I agreed, and then he did a 180 and changed his mind... So, I have a lot of things that I need to say to him...
You will forgive him one day whether he deserves it or not, and it will be a defining moment in your life. That is the day you can move forward. Trust me! It took me five years, and it ate me alive from the inside out. But forgiving him was the best feeling in the world. I felt as though I had finally risen above the hate and anger and I could breathe again. Someday...
I need to get over loving him first... LOL! You would think that since I’m so angry I would stop loving, but that’s just not the case...
Tell me where he lives. I’ll hold him down and you can knock his lights out!! Just know that I and all these other gals are here for you...
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