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  • Reality vs Perception*  

'She's too fat, she's not fat enough, she's too fat, she's not fat enough'. My gosh it's exhausting. I think it's time to really get to the bottom of the 'too skinny, too fat debate'.  I am getting so confused by the continuous blended information system known as the 'media' which quite often delivers false headlines; especially when celebrities are concerned. Now is there any such thing as 'the perfect body‘...?

Of course, Elle McPherson, professionally dubbed 'the body' fits this criteria but I have never once seen a magazine article specialising in body imagery, portray one single woman with the perfect body. It's generally Jennifer Anistons' Hair do, Angelina Jolies' lips, Jessica Albas' butt, and so on and so forth.  

Girls (And Guys out there) ... NEWS FLASH – IT'S IMPOSSIBLE. Every single woman (and some men)  I have ever met is unhappy with her body in some way, shape or form, including myself. We all have body complexes, and who wouldn't with perception near engulfing reality. 99% of the women in ALL of these magazines are photo shopped so women need to stop comparing themselves to these false accolades.  

Don't get me wrong, I love photo shop, in fact I say bring it on!!  

I've had my photos taken professionally. I've even obliged being a part of a glamour shoot. The first time I saw it I was blown away. 'I'm a very average category kind of gal with "average" height...ok, so I'm just petite. I'd kill for a few more inches of height! I would love to look like one of those glamour model' and guess what?  Leave it to the pros to do some air-brushing and voila!  I am nearly unrecognizable and looked "taller" in the photos. But who cares?! I'm not comparing myself to this computer generated images, it's not harming me in any way so relax. Embrace it!  

Alongside the media, pressure from the opposite sex adds pressure to the body image debate. We women always want to 'look' our best, and these days, men too do take extra care of how they look but is still embarrass to admit it to their peers. Let me re-iterate what I am sure ...
most of us know deep down inside: It's not how you feel on the outside, but the inside.

The saying, you are what you eat is so true, and I love it! I'm a sucker for an apple crumble, but generally I'm a great eater. Why wouldn't I eat apple crumble at every meal?  Because I don't like the way it makes me feel after, not the way it makes me look! And the perception that we all have to be a size two is just crap. A recent little survey I did proved that everyone is different. It's not about a particular size that fits a glamorous image, it's about individuality.  

Be Healthy, Be proud and you will be Happy. Hollywood Schmollywood.  You are your own person; live your own life! Message me and tell me what's your guilty pleasure!  

Till then. STAY GORGEOUS! heartheartheart

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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 3, 2010
    • I love it!

       I’m not interested in being a size 2 and really the only thing I do like photo shop for chin! No matter how I pose or how thin I am my face always looks like I have a triple chin.......It’s not there in the mirror when I look but golly it shows up in just about every pic.Thank goodness I have good skin and don’t need that airbrushed!

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