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For anyone who is in a loving relationship and feel that they have found their true love and soulmate...consider yourself blessed. There are still some of us out there that are still searching for that person, some of us are single, some in relationships, some of us are even married.
When I look back at the 20 years that I have been seriously dating and my relationships I recognize the various qualities and traits that attracted me to those men. For each one that I have been with I can look back fondly and remember what had drawn me to them, what I learned from the relationship. So what happened, why didn’t it last? After 2years to 5years I begin to feel restless with whatever routine that we fell in. The same conversations or lack of, the same sex or lack of, the attraction is gone and we are room mates rather than lovers; acquaintances rather than friends. I look at other couples who have been together for 10-20years and wonder how do they do it...how can they keep doing the same routine over and over. Is there something seriously wrong with ME?
And then I came across Elizabeth Gilbert’s book “Eat Pray and Love” where she states:  

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life...”  

“A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”  

“A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.”

So what does this mean for me? Am I destined to flutter from pillar to post searching for the next sense of enlightenment, or I have not yet found that man who can grab hold of my interest OR am I just one Picky and Restless Broad! For whatever happens I cannot give up on the idea of “a love that moves the sun and the other stars.”

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      Holly_golitely wrote Mar 18, 2011
    • Hi Ladies, Thank your for your comments.
      @Eddy,
      I will take a look at your recommendation...thanks!

      @Eva,
      Its reassuring to know that someone else can identify with what I am feeling when trying to make the best of things.
      Thank you!



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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 19, 2011
    • Hi Holly, just wanted to tell you I enjoyed this blog. I was in a long marriage that lacked too much to list here, and at my age I’m heading out on a new love adventure. I just want a boyfriend now, I don’t want to “do” marriage again for a 3rd time and your views on a soul mate sounds real to me. My 1st husband was a soul mate and it ran it’s course. The 2nd and I were compatible until life presented a challenge he couldn’t deal with. I don’t feel or believe the romance and love is finished and over with.  

      Thanks for sharing with us. ;oD

      Cathie



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 20, 2011
    • Great post!



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      Holly_golitely wrote Mar 22, 2011
    • Cathie,

      It sounds like your heading towards the place of Happy!estatic
      Good for you for finding the path that fits. I hope to find mine also.

      Cheers,
      Holly



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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 23, 2011
    • Morning Holly,  

      Well, wait a minute.... not sure I have found a path that fits as a sure thing. But I’m going to give it a try to see it does fit me. ;oD  While I only want a boyfriend, I want to love and be loved, but I don’t want the routines and ruts most couples fall into.  

      Cathie



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