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Is there any job tougher than being a super mom? I think not.

Those of us who have been single with children can attest to the fears, anxieties and stress this “job” entails. We know how hard it is to go through the heartache of divorce and struggle to make ends meet while keeping a smile on our face for our children.

It takes courage, fortitude and love for our children to stand tall and never declare defeat. For those who have remained single parents and are still standing on your own two feet, our hats are off to you.

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Fabulously40 member and a single mother Barbara Beck confirms what every single mom knows:

Being a single mom is a 24/7challenge. It’s up to us to balance the checkbook, drive the kids to school and soccer practice, feed the dog, clean the house, cook the meals, etc., because there is no one else to do it.

Being a single mom means limited resources, limited time, and limited support. I have been on my own for what feels like forever, and until recently had no idea where my ex-husband was.

Being a single mom means making plans on your own. It gets old having to always be the one to pull it all together, but what else can you do? Whoever invented the saying ‘Necessity is the mother of invention’ was probably a single mother. I can’t tell you how many times I have had to ‘wing it’ on a Sunday night when one of my kids forgot something for school at the last minute.”


For most, being a single mom also means struggling to live on a very tight budget.

According to Barbara: “Many of us live on the edge of middle class. I have a good education, and I’m slowly finishing a second Master’s degree. But as a teacher I live on a shoestring, and finances this year have been tougher than usual. I had to sell some of my jewelry in order to pay for my son’s uniforms for the private school he attends. Yes, he goes to a private school, but it took a big scholarship to get him there.


“I’m not looking for sympathy, but when I see my married friends with two incomes enjoy a night out on the town, I can’t help feeling a bit jealous. I would be happy if my ex decided to accept his financial responsibility and just pay the child support on time.”

Supermoms Rock!

Most single women struggle to balance their family and their career. Many face financial hurdles that often seem impossible to overcome. Many go to bed every night not knowing what the next day will bring.

Yet, some women also find pride in their ability to get through the day-to-day grind on their own. As Barbara says:


“Being a single mom is hard, but I am proud of the fact that I can stand on my own two feet and shoulder a great deal of responsibility. I know how to change a tire, and I’ve learned how to do some basic repairs around the house.

“Somehow I find a way to pay for most of the important things that my kids need. And every once in a while I have enough money left over to take them to the movies.

“I’m not ‘supermom,’ but I have learned the truth of that famous Eleanor Roosevelt quote: “A woman is like a teabag. You never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water.””

At Fabulously40 we disagree. We think that Barbara, and every single mother like her, is a supermom.

Too often, single mothers get the short end of the stick. Yet, instead of complaining and bemoaning their lot, they figure out a way to make ends meet while raising their kids with love and affection. In our book, they are the supermoms and superwomen who rock this world!

Even supermoms can use some help, so we have gathered several resources dedicated to the single mothers of the world:


Budget Mom

Empowered Single Moms

Living On A Budget

Moms Refuge


Moms Space


Mommy Savers


Single Mothers


Single Mothers Articles


Single Moms Financial Support


Single Mother Resources


Single Rose


Single Spouse


These sites contain a wealth of ideas, resources and information that can make the task of single parenting less daunting. Hopefully, they can make your life as a single mom a little bit easier.


All the best,



P.S. -- If you have a story to share or a resource that will be valuable to our members please email us at: info@fabulously40.com.



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      Mara wrote Aug 22, 2008
    • My son is 21 and I am a single Mom and I raised him alone with no support from his Father - I never complained I never let my son go without and I struggled just as these women do with my shoestring budget.  I think single Mom’s are superwomen and we do have the hardest job in the world being Mom and Father to our children.  Nice post thanks for supporting the Single Mom.

      Mara
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      Joncodiva wrote Aug 22, 2008
    • Single moms are superwoman, we have to do it all; I don’t complain, I love my children, teenagers now, it is rough right now at this age; working full time, it is overwhelming and exhausting; nobody knows how it is unless you really live it; I do get child support, however, there still the other side of everything mom & dad do, when I have to be absent from work, or leave unexpectedly because I got a call from school, etc...kudos to all moms but specially single moms everywhere. There should be more resources and easier to find.  joncodiva



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      Yana Berlin wrote Aug 22, 2008
    • Yes, single moms are superwoman.

      I think the most toughest aspect of being a single mom, is not having a husband who supports your decision when you say “NO” to kids. Not to mention that doing everything yourself requires strength, determination and the love for our children.

      My hat is off to you ladies.

      Sending you lots of hugs, just know that you are not alone, all of us a rooting for you.

      Yana



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      Margo Sokol wrote Aug 23, 2008
    • I am a single mom raising 3 daughters....all teenagers.  Although I do receive financial support every month, my lifestyle has changed dramatically.  It has not been easy, but I wouldn’t change a thing because I’ve become a stronger, more confident woman and hopefully a good role model for my daughters.I think the most difficult thing for single moms is the emotional strength it takes to deal with everything.  The drama, the emotions, the financial burden, the responsibility of just handling all of the important stuff.  While tolerating the antics of my kids’ Disneyland Dad! It’s easy to always be the fun and carefree parent.  But it’s a lot of work to be the supporter, educator, caregiver, disciplinarian, guidance counselor...the list goes on.I pray that God will continue to give strength to single moms all across the country and open doors of opportunity to meet all of the needs that we have.!http://images.fabulously40.com/uploadedimage/522/thumbx320/scan0005.jpg!


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      Talkytina wrote Aug 26, 2008
    • I too am a single mom and it is by far the hardest job on earth.  But not to sound too cliche, it can also be so wonderful and so rewarding.  Whether you‘re there by choice, by circumstances or by fate, coming to terms with it and embracing it is the best thing to do for no other reason then for the children.  

      Children are much more sensitive and intuitive then we think and if you don’t make it your business to create the best environment for them without burdening them too much with the everyday financial issues and frustrating issues and sometimes loneliness issues, it may present a serious problem in their daily lives.  

      Here’s to all the single moms in the world, I raise a virtual glass of champagne and say just “keep on keeping on”



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Aug 28, 2008
    • I am a single Mom of 5. I have been divorced for over 7 years and I know the challenges and victories of being a single Mom. It’s a great accomplishment to say I’ve done it alone—two daughters successful in college (one out, one almost done!) and three children at home who will each carve their path in life in a GOOD way...and always respecting their MOM :) :)



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      Missfireweena wrote Sep 3, 2008
    • Hello taklytina
      YOU SAID THAT RYTE!!!!!
      I AM ALSO A SINGLE MOM
      AN I AGREE IT HAS
      REWARDSPhysically
      AN THE BEST REWARDS
      ARE...
      EMOTIONALANSPIRITUAL!!!!!

      MissFireWeena

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