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Infidelity and Divorce
Wow, I am second time looser when it comes to husbands.
I married my first husband right out of high school. The best looking boy in school. I can not say I truly loved him them, I was a kid. As the years past my love and respect for him grew and grew. I was so excited for the kids to leave home and for us to alone together. Starting the third phase of life held promise and dreams.
He just forgot to tell me he longer loved me and “shopping” his word not mine for a new wife.
He started a INTERNET affair with the neighbors daughter in law. They married as soon as the divorce was final.
I met my second husband the next year. He was the funniest kindest man I had ever met. And oh my the sex was mind blowing. For the first time in my life I was in love as a grown woman. This man treated me like a precious piece of art. All the little things that I did and do he loved. I have been loved like this before.
My fear and insecurities from my first marriage kept tearing us apart. Yet some how we would always find our way back to each other. After 4 years of dating we moved in together married 2 years after that. Health issues, money problems, his INTERNET time and chatting, as well as my insecurities have had their toll. Last year we almost split up again we found our way back to one another. At least I thought we had. I was with him falling in love more everyday more than ever.
He just forgot to tell me he was not. That he did not love me and in ways hated me as well as the fact I made him miserable.
Soon he started chatting with his college sweet heart Susan.
I could see where this was going. I confronted him and of course he said I was crazy and did not know what I was talking about. He also told me he was not going to live like this any more and wanted out.
And that is where we are.
The man I was going to grow old with. The man whose teeth I was going clean and hearing aids I was going to put batteries in has kicked me to the curb for his collage sweetheart. Still denying that he is doing anything wrong.
The crazy thing is I love him and want to work things out. I forgave for the infidelity the moment I knew what he was doing. The lieing, the deceit, the name calling, the finger pointing is going to take some time but we are worth it.
How do you get a man to try when he already has someone new???



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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Mz. Queen wrote Dec 6, 2009
    • How do you get a man to try when he already has someone new?

      Come on now baby girl, you‘re worth more than that. You can’t make him change, he has to want to. Forgiving him is wonderful release for you but why would you want to stay in the mud. I can say these things because I have been divorced once and filed the second time Dec 1, 2009.  

      It’s not your fault or mine if the men we choose are “stupid”



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      Janet Wooley wrote Dec 6, 2009
    • You can only change you, no matter how bad you may want it or how hard you may try if he does not want to change guess what? It aint happening. Now if he does want to change then you may have a chance. But we can only change ourselves no one else.



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      Lazylola wrote Dec 7, 2009
    • I’m sorry you are going through this, perhaps it’s time to start on another chapter, we are here to offer support.



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