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How do you communicate with others?  Are you assertive?  Aggressive?  Passive?  Do you press your point?  Refuse to be wrong?  Never stand your ground?  We are all a little different in how we communicate and handle our relationships.  No matter how we do handle ourselves, one thing is sure.  None of us are perfect.

I am pretty assertive.  And I love a debate.  This is good most of the time.  But sometimes I wish I could just keep my mouth shut and let someone else say more.  When I think of myself and communicating in a different way, I think of holding my tongue and just listening.  

My challenge today is to ask, what is one way you can be different in how you interact with others?  What would you change if you could change one thing about how you relate to others?

It can be amazing how one small change can create a big shift.  Take a look at your relationships today and think of one thing you could try, one thing you would like to change about yourself.  

Here 10 ways to create change in your interactions.

Be the first to apologize.

Tell someone you are angry instead of holding it in.

Let someone else go first.

Hold your tongue when you want to say something sarcastic.

Ask for what you really want.

Just say no without making an excuse.

Stand up for yourself.

Use "I" statements instead of saying, "you" when you are confronting someone.

Give someone a compliment.

Buy yourself time by saying, "I'll get back to you" instead of just saying "yes."

Just try it today.  Try and present yourself in a different way. See what happens when you do one thing different in your interactions with others.

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 16, 2009
    • Maria this comes at a very good time for me in particular. I’ve been mulling over my issues with communication. Sometimes I’m assertive,sometimes I’m very quiet and withdrawn, sometimes I bite my lip and put up with bad treatment and sometimes I just blast my thoughts out there like a bazooka.

      It depends on who I’m dealing with. I had a long discussion with my mom about this yesterday who is somewhere between assertive and bazooka-like in her delivery with people. So, I’m working on balance.

      These are good suggestions. Thank  you!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 16, 2009
    • If I have the opportunity I will not hold in my anger but let them know......



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      UK Girl wrote Apr 16, 2009
    • At 47 I’ve decided you either love or hate me - so folk have to accept it.



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 16, 2009
    • Be the first to apologize. WHY?

      Tell someone you are angry instead of holding it in. I do

      Let someone else go first. Always

      Hold your tongue when you want to say something sarcastic. Nope sarcasm is one more service i offer

      Ask for what you really want. i do

      Just say no without making an excuse. i do

      Stand up for yourself. i so do

      Use "I" statements instead of saying, "you" when you are confronting someone. Always do

      Give someone a compliment. I do

      Buy yourself time by saying, "I'll get back to you" instead of just saying "yes."  Never just say yes, most questions can be answered straight away.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 16, 2009
    • I studied these concepts ages ago. I have no problem apologizing when it’s due. I don’t hold things in- it isn’t healthy. There IS however, an art to knowing when TO and when NOT to keep our mouths closed. The only way to getting what you want if it requires assistance from outside of yourself is to be clear with that. The worst thing that can happen is you might be told “no.” So what? Next task. =)
      Saying no without excuse: no problem.
      “I statements” I do.
      Stand up for myself- comes easily.
      I compliment people all the time, including strangers.
      Buy myself time... this comes easily too. May I have more, please? lol
      Oh I missed a few on the list- letting someone else go first. Easily. Who needs to be in such a hurry that it’s not an option? Not me.
      Sarcasm- LOL! I know when and when not to. lolol



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