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Did you know that it's possible to get your self-esteem back with a pair of jeans?  

It's true!

If you're a woman suffering from a Fabulously40 syndrome, your groove can be fully restored simply by obtaining the right pair of jeans. And if you have a loving and devoted daughter, you don't even have to go shopping for them.

Before I tell you how I came to this conclusion, I have a confession to make – I don't like to shop. With my Type A personality, I have absolutely no patience for schlepping from one store to the next, trying on clothes and hoping to make them all match and look good. It's fun for the first 15 minutes, then I get frustrated and bored. Shopping for a size four, six or even eight, might be different. But shopping for my size (10 - 12) poses challenges that I just don't care to deal with.

By now, many of you have heard that I had shoulder surgery, a relatively minor operation that came with a "bitch of a recovery." Not being able to take pain medication, I was incoherent half of the time.  As a result, I made the dumb decision to step onto the scale two days after surgery. Thank goodness my daughter was standing next to me. Otherwise I would have fallen off the scale and broken every rib in my body on the hard tile floor.

I couldn't believe my eyes!    

Twelve freaking pounds up? Where did they come from in such a short amount of time?  Is that even possible? I understand I had surgery. I know about fluid retention. And I even understand the delicacy of my age and the Fabulously40 syndrome. But come on, people. Twelve pounds???

I'm not exactly a twig to begin with. So even if it was just water retention, 12 additional pounds made me look like a close relative of Shamu. So in addition to my physical pain from the surgery, I now had this emotional upset around my new "weight issue."

Of course, my husband and children assured me that everything would turn out okay and that I would return to normal in a few days. Nevertheless, I felt teary and sad, and even called my mom to complain. She thought I was insane for getting on the scale and proceeded to tell me so. (Mom, I'm looking for solution here, not a lecture...)

Transformation

It used to be that my daughter shopped for clothes in my closet.  But lately, our roles have reversed. She doesn't hesitate to get "upfront and personal" about what clothes I should buy, and she often brings me outfits from her closet that she thinks I need to wear.

So the day after my trauma on the scale, my daughter marched into my room, dumped a stack of jeans on my bed, and insisted I try them on.  My arm wasn't working and I couldn't squeeze into a pair of jeans for the life of me, so she agreed to let me wait a day.

The following day rolled around and I gathered my courage to face the pile jeans. Slowly I began packing myself into the jeans, and as I did, an amazing thing happened. One by one, each pair looked better than the one before. Shocked, surprised and very pleased, I wondered, "Had I somehow shed the extra poundage as quickly as it latched on to me?" I jumped back on the scale and discovered that not only had I lost the 12 pounds put on after the surgery, I had somehow managed to lose three more.

Now ladies, I don't care if it's surgery, water retention or whatever—15 pounds in four days is a lot. But as I stood in front of the mirror, it quickly became irrelevant because I looked great in those jeans! In no time at all, my smile returned, my self-esteem shot sky high, and I felt so good that I just had to write about it.

I mean, who knew that so much self-esteem could be found in the jeans that reside in your daughter's closet. Heck, I may even take up shopping. Either way, it brings a whole new meaning to being Fabulous at 40 and beyond.

All the best,

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      Carole Reynolds wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • No surgery in my case, but feeling a little blue about the extra cushion I seem to have developed across the midline, my daughter said I was hiding in my muumuus and that I should try something else. I received a gift card from the Gap for Christmas (I know)__ so off I went, and found a great pair of jeans in a size much smaller that I though I was:) I love the new system (lol). The salesperson said those would look good with some wedge heels, so I got those too next door, yes I wore them home, feeling awesome.
      The funny part of this story, this was the first pair of jeans I had bought in 6 years (who knew jeans can do that to your self esteem) Now I am looking for another pair, this time I am getting some boots to go with it(lol).
      Warmly Carole



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      Jane Woods wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • Yana, you‘re just a gorgeous babe whatever your size! If jeans do it for you then go for them. You too, Carole! Personally I haven’t worn jeans for years but the article has set me thinking.....

      But our confidence in our appearance is so much in our heads. I know some days I just feel great and another not so fabby, and I am still the same size in both cases!!

      Plumptious women look great I think which is why I just loved the work of Beryl Cook. Look her up!
      Regards all!
      Jane
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      Carole Reynolds wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • Aloha Jane, I know it is all in my head:) you see it took me 6 years to get a pair, I use to think they were just to much trouble to wear, I have to press everything (lol).
      But I do love who I am and what I look like, some days you just need that boost!!.
      Well check out Ms cook.
      Warmly Carole



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      Jane Woods wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • Do, she was at one point the most popular living artist in Britain. She died last week at age 81 but she didn’t actually start exhibiting until well past her 40s. The art world were very snobby about her but her work just makes me smile. I have several limited edition prints on my walls.

      So agree about the boost. For me, it’s my hair. A bad hair day means I have to work extra hard on that self esteem!
      Warmest wishes to you,
      Jane
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      Yana Berlin wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • Carole, that’s fantastic, I have yet to be so brave as to get my butt to the store to actually try a new pair in public, but I will.  I just started Weight Watchers and this time I’m determined to get rid of that third boob that appeared out of no where and is felt every time I lay on my side.

      Jane, same size as you were always? YOU GO GIRL....that’s is fantastic, I had a visit to gyno yesterday, and complained that I was retaining water, and gaining weight. I  wanted to be tested for thyroid.

      Doctor looked through my chart smiled and said “We tested you for thyroid every year for the last three years“, so I took a deep breath and said: “Ok, so I’m retaining ice cream, but can you still take the test just in case“?

      She looked over the chart and said that in the last 3 years I gained 14lbs., 10 of them were gained 2005? She wanted to know why,
      “WHY? I asked? Don’t you know? I turned 40, I’m suffering from Fabulously40 Syndrome, that’s why“.

      All the best,
      Y



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      Carole Reynolds wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • Hey Jane,and I love to draw myself. Yes I understand the hair thing, I realize that I get grumpy when I am having a bad hair day too.
      What part of London you are from?
      I am from Croydon, still have some family there.
      Carole



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      Carole Reynolds wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • Oh that is funny, we wer just talking about the third boob , for our ladies night out at the cheescake factory last weekend (lol)
      I love the ““retaining ice-cream“” line, that is what I will use, I have coldstone at least once a week,even if I just go by to sample:).

      That must be the magic number , my Dr. told me I also gained 14 lbs in the last 4 years, since we have been here. you know I celebrated turning 40 and fabulous here, so I must have the same tihing.

      All the best to you too
      Have a Great night ladies
      Carole



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      Camie Dunbar wrote Jun 11, 2008
    • I love this story Yana - hate that you had surgery, but I agree that a good pair of jeans can make you look and feel great!!!  I think this could be a great way to start a story about the The sisterhood of the travelling jeans.  Part II is coming out soon you know.  Thanks for the inspiration - I am off to try on some jeans!



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      Nikki W wrote Jun 16, 2008
    • I couldn’t live without my jeans, but I do get bored having to try on a dozen or more pairs until I find some that have the right fit and are therefore flattering (praise be to the inventor of lycra!)

      We all tend to get stuck in a fashion rut and lose sight of what clothes actually suit our changing body shapes. A couple of years ago I visited a personal shopper in a big London store. It was a revelation. He was able to make suggestions on colours, jacket lengths, skirt shapes...the whole ensemble. I tried on and purchased outfits that I wouldn’t even have picked up if I had been on my own. Since then I have always referenced his advice when shopping and I believe my clothing is now fashionable, flattering and fabulous!

      Best wishes and happy shopping,

      Nikki



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