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Sometimes I feel so alone with my feelings and I want to hear from others out there who can give me some feedback. I grew up in the bible belt where talking about sex was taboo. I have been married for 28 years and it hasn’t been until this past year that that I finally got brave enough to tell my husband that the Wham, bam thank you ma’m type of sex we have had all these years just wasn’t getting it for me. I feel like I am more sexually alive now then I have ever been and while he has been receptive to the changes I have made in the bedroom (ie: vibrators, books, cock rings and more discussion) he still thinks that one time is all he can do. I have had friends tell me that they have experienced several orgasms during a love making session. How can I convince my hubby that he is capable of more? He has made improvements, now with the help of a vibrator I am able to orgasm every time but I want to experience everything and I am really curious about multiple orgasms. Is it really possible? How do I convince my hubby of that? I also had a friend tell me that if you have clitoral orgasm first you can have a g-spot orgasm as well later or at the same time. This really intrigues me. Has anyone ever really experienced both at the same time??? I have only had 4 partners in my 48 years so I guess you can say I am still new at this, but am at a stage in my life where nothing is taboo anymore and I have decided I am worth it! Any info from you great ladies would be so much appreciated!!!!

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      Leadinladytracy wrote Jan 19, 2009
    • My experience has been after an orgasm from oral sex, then I am able to have a g-spot orgasm.

      So it is possible.



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      Linni wrote Jan 19, 2009
    • well, i can not give you any comments or anything, as its been 10 years since i have had sex! lol



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      Maria Louise Van Deuson wrote Jan 19, 2009
    • ..."he still thinks that one time is all he can do."  He may need 30 minutes to recuperate so he can go again. IF he's not interested in intercourse more than once at a time, of course HE can take care of YOU in other ways.

      Men are sensitive about their performance in the bedroom, so this is a VERY touchy subject for them.

      The issue is that women are like ovens, it takes a while to warm up but once we do...we are HOT for a looooonnnng time. Men (unfortunately) are like microwaves. They heat up quickly and are (often) done in a flash.

      "I am really curious about multiple orgasms. Is it really possible? How do I convince my hubby of that?"  

      Of course, you know the multiple orgasms that these women are talking about are just from penetration. Delicately find a way to tell your husband that you want to try for a multiple orgasm. (If you‘re not sore after the first one).  

      A great resource is a married couple who are sex therapists and have a HUGE YouTube following. Dan and Jennifer. I subscribe to them and I’m going to make my husband watch some of these with me. They answer viewers questions too, so you can learn about a number of topics.

      Check them out at [Link Removed] 


      48goingon10, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Teresa wrote Jan 19, 2009
    • Thanks so much for the comments!!! I have decided to take control of my sexuality after all these years and now I can’t get enough, sex and info that is!! LOL...You are so right in your comparisons to the oven and microwave...for a long time I thought I was the one with the problem because is does take me longer to reach an orgasm so for many years I just went without. Then one day I turned 45 and decided it was time for my enjoyment as well! The learning has been fun! My hubby is quite shy but I know he enjoys it when I take charge, I just have to be gentle with him! LOL...anyhow the practice goes on...



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      Teresa wrote Jan 19, 2009
    • that is what others have told me, my only problem is getting my hubby to last long enough for me to have another one...but we are working on it...



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      Onevision wrote Jan 31, 2009
    • Definitely have as much sex as you can before menopause. My husband and I had three great years of sex (we have been married 5 years), then menopause hit. It really sucks because the body changes and you get all dried up down there and it hurts. I’m working with my doctor to try to get things back to being more normal, but I miss all that hot, moist, sex! You can have multiply orgasms, just practice like what you are doing. Just do it, A LOT!!! Blessings,
      Onevision



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      Blueeyedona wrote May 12, 2009
    • I never had an “O” till I was 26, I know sad, but once I realized that I was a multiple I have made up for the lost years.  You just need to find out where you are the most stimulated at and help your hubby with finding and showing him how much pleasure it brings to you.  In the end it may just turn him on again and he may find out he is not just a “one time guy“.  

      I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and we are constantly finding out new things about each other sexually.  We are “active” daily and still manage to find new spots of pleasure and combinations of positions to make our sex life less than HoHum.  I took him to the board room table at his job before I left for Alaska and I encouraged him the use his thumb on my clit while I aroused myself and had an intense  “O“.  He was so turned on by the whole thing that he didn’t get two strokes in and he was done.  He can’t wait for me to come back now so we can do that again!!!



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