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Should I let my husband read my blog about how I feel about how angry I’m getting about his daughter?



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      Darla5 wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I share most of my post with my husband.

      He is your partner, best friend, lover... It might help him to see... it is a big deal to you.

      Good luck girl!



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Maybe it will give him a swift kick in the a**!



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      Mztracy wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • it may be good so he can see it how it is really affecting you. and maybe take heed of some of the suggestions!



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      Darla5 wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • That too.... haha



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I say yes, too. I agree that seeing the feedback might actually help him to put it in perspective.  

      I’m sure this is hard for him, but nothing and no one should put y‘all at odds... even the kids.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • vigirl..my hubby reads along with me..gives me suggestions..etc..lol..I don’t hide or hold back anything from him..He gets tickled from some responses...and feels my emotions when I read something that bothers me..So sure, if you are comfortable, share with your hubby...What’s the harm?



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I feel I best express myself in writing rather than verbally. If this is true for you, too, maybe the written word will be helpful for him to really understand what you‘re going through. It also gives him time to read and re-read, form his thoughts and discuss it without feeling put on the spot for a quick discussion.



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      Inakika wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Personally, I would not. Some things my husband does not need to know.



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Any reasons why, greeneyedlady?

      chocolatier-I do also express myself better when I write things down.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • The Reason I said heck no is because, my mother said it best to me long ago.  Women should have things that are exclusively thier own.

      I think that your cry for help to women did not extend to him, and it was addressed to only other women.

      We as women have given you all our opinions and Id never let my husband read over my shoulder any of my blogs or responses, unless it was something funny I may forward to him.  There is also an element of trust he must give you and have.

      I think if you want to write your feelings to him in an email or on paper and give it to him to read its fine, but not an email showing him you first came to fab40 to get opinions of other women first before addressing your husband, I dont think he will appriciate that.

      Its almost like saying, honey, this is what and want and see, all these women agree.  It wont sit well with him and he will feel ganged up on, most likely.

      If you cant write down what you want, just tell him, this is what Id like to see happen with your daughter, my step daughter, whom I love like my own.

      I say a big Texas Heck NO !  I think it will backfire on you.

      Just approach him directly from you.. to him.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • greeneyedlady...let me clarify...my husband does not look over my shoulder and read everything verbatum...how could he?...he has a job and better things to do than monitor what i am doing...i simply use that as an example to the question that i do not feel the need to hide from him...i may say...baby come read this...or baby can you read this and tell me if it’s too harsh...etc!



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Makes sense-greeneyedlady. I think you have a good point



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • ‘I think if you want to write your feelings to him in an email or on paper and give it to him to read its fine, but not an email showing him you first came to fab40 to get opinions of other women first before addressing your husband, I dont think he will appriciate that‘...Now that I do agree with you on greeneyedlady..that’s a perspective I didn’t think about...Might not be so cool after all vigirl



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I typically read aloud to Scott most everything I write before I click “publish” (not necessarily comments, but definitely blogs). He’s my critic, my sounding board, my political and religious advisor, lol.

      He’s quick to tell me if I’m on the wrong track, if I’ve lost sight of my point, or if I have no business saying what I’m about to say. I don’t always listen to him, but I respect his opinions.



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Believe me, I’ve addressed him many times on the subject. We’ve agreed that she’s lazy and needs to move out by the end of the year. He totally lacks follow through of any kind. He hasn’t told her that she needs to move out yet! It’s Nov 4th! I keep telling him that the more he puts it off the harder it will be for her to get her act together to find a place, get a better job, etc. by the end of the year. Every time I mention this he just says, “I know, I know.“. AArgh!!



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • My point too feathermaye...To each his own vigirl...I’m sure you didn’t mean all of your blog entries right?..Maybe just what you wrote that you can’t find the right words to verbally express?



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Hey Soulful and ladies.. what you do with your husbands is your business.  And Im fine with your life choices.  Vigirl had a question and I told her my opinion that is all.

      I just think she should keep her blogging to her ladies and her husband MONO E MONO.



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Yes, Soulful-I was just asking about letting my husband see this ONE blog about how I feel about his lazy ass daughter.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • lol...can you write to him instead vigirl?..I think you sound very agitated and frustrated right now at this minute and he might just take it sooooo not in the way you intended..just a suggestion too!



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I just re-read my last post to this blog. Whew, I did sound frustrated. I hope none of you ladies felt I was frustrated with you!!??



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Hang in Vigirl, we are here if you need us.  It will be ok.  

      Sisterhood



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Vigirl

      If this method works for you in this trying time, go for it.  I personally, have to agree with Greeneyelady...a BIG TEXAS HECK NO, and I live in Texas, so I know that’s a big NO...lol

      They said middle children are more private...I agree totally, I am a middle child and love my privacy.  I share with him, and get his opinion on issues and that’s the extent of his involvement with my blogs.

      I share what is important, on all family matters.  We each have our own laptops so no need for invasion into each other privacy.  I love my girlfriend time and most of all my “ME” time.

      Vigirl, I hope your situation gets better soon.  Stay focus and patient.



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