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I’m trying to decide whether or not to help my son pay for the laptop he wants (cost is about $900).  I know he is hoping we consider helping him buy this laptop for his 15th birthday coming up.  

He is the youngest of my 3 kids and the only kid left at home now. He has saved up a little over $500 so far to get a MacBook laptop (which is the one they use in school).  He’s a very responsible and mature soon-to-be 15 year old and straight A student.  And he’s been extremely helpful to me in starting up our family business, like setting up the office desks, telephones, computers, fax, printers, etc.

I feel he is very deserving and would like to help him buy it, especially with his birthday coming up. But, as a parent I’m wondering if its too indulgent to spend so much money?  We would have to pitch in around $400. We have the money, its just that I don’t usually spend that kind of money for a “wishlist” gift.  But then again, a laptop is a computer and practical for school and everything else. And he’s been working so hard!

Should I or shouldn’t I is where I am.  

What might you do?

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      Mztracy wrote May 7, 2010
    • If you can afford it, I would! A mac is a gr8 investment!



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      Rose Nino wrote May 7, 2010
    • I agree with Tracy and it is an investment. AND it sounds like he is a responsible, hard working, son.  

      estaticheart



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 7, 2010
    • If you feel uncomfortable purchasing it straight out you can always help him buy it with the intention of him working it off. Consider things you need/want done and how much you would pay to have it done or consider how much one hour of his time is and pay him by the hour for his time.

      It’s a win win!



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      Cristina Corral wrote May 7, 2010
    • I would definitely do it.  It is an investment and he will be using for homework etc.  Absolutely, I say do it!

      Get a mac like Tracy suggests.  I have had nothing but problems with PC’s.



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      KRIS JULIN wrote May 7, 2010
    • Absolutely get it for him.  It is not as though you are paying for the whole thing. We have always provided our son with the things he needs for school.  His education is the most important thing. With his grades and birthday, I think he would deserve it. Now if he was not doing well, then that is a different situation. Just my opinion.



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      Denise Critcher wrote May 7, 2010
    • If he has to put money down towards it and he’s been helping you around the house. I say get it for him. It will help him in school and in life.  

      I’ve had my Mac for about two years and it is the best thing I’ve ever got.  

      And maybe make a point that we as a family don’t usually spend this kind of money on gifts but since you have been a great son and done so well in school we both think that you deserve this. But don’t expect this every year.  LOLestatic



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      Kyah wrote May 7, 2010
    • I don’t have kids, but was one long ago. Whenever I wanted something pricey, if I was able to scratch up half, my parents provided the rest with no question. I think it had a lot to do with sacrificing what I needed to in order to get what I wanted.



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      Kyah wrote May 7, 2010
    • Sorry I didn’t see the part about him setting up your office. I think he earned it. Get him the computer! Let him use his money for software (especially the LoJack for laptops and service for a couple of years) and whatever else he wants.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 7, 2010
    • Rose I agree that you should get it. You are such a great mom - look at your oldest and how you raised her! You‘re already sending him messages of responsibility and I suspect he really gets it. So, this may be partly a reward for all he’s done for the set up of your business and a responsibility to use it well for his school work, etc...estatic



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      Yana Berlin wrote May 7, 2010
    • I think it’s a great idea, after all this is for school and he is responsible boy.

      Go for it, make him happy estatic



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      Mindy Wilson wrote May 7, 2010
    • We did the very same thing, our daughter who was 12 at the time worked all summer and didn’t spend a total of 10.00 of her own money and saved every cent she could because she wanted a laptop! I absolutely admired her because she stuck to her goal, I thought she was too young to have it. She saw several of her friends being given laptops, phones and jet skis at the time and she had to work so hard for her laptop. In an instant world she’s learned a lot. That was almost three years ago and she has been ultra responsible with it. I’m glad we did it. She had saved over half of the purchase, I was amazed.

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      Trudy S wrote May 7, 2010
    • I would get it for him...with some monetary contribution from him too.  In my experience, kids (people in generally really) value things more if they have had to invest in it themselves.  Doesn’t have to be a lot...just enough so that he won’t want to ‘waste’ his own money.

      Time and again I have seen it that when people get something for nothing that is exactly how they treat it...like nothing.

      Just my two cents!



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      Lita wrote May 7, 2010
    • I say “go ahead” and help him out.  Perhaps you could give him $200 and loan him $200 and allow him to work off or pay back the loaned amount.  It may be a teaching moment for him.  He gets the gift and a life lesson:) How about it??



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      Hbrose wrote May 8, 2010
    • Ladies, I can’t thank you enough for your opinions, advice, comments. I appreciate each and everyone of you and your comments, it truly helps when you‘re stuck on the whole “should I or shouldn’t I?” thing. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

      And so I will help my son purchase his MacBook!  Though, it won’t be considered a birthday gift (that will be the laptop case) ..LOL!  

      Instead he can continue to work it off - he’s already worked so hard to earn probably half the cost of the Mac.  We’ll get it for him now and he can continue to work off the other half (which isn’t even an issue with him, because he’s such a good kid anyway and will work at helping us out any way he can anyway). I just never want my kids to think things will be “handed” to them in life. But I don’t think he will ever feel that way.  Thank you ladies for helping me see the light on this one! happyheart



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      Kandykahne 5 wrote May 8, 2010
    • He sounds like a great Son and you have taught him well! He’s already saved some of the money and that shows he is responsible. If it were me I would get it.happy



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      Mzd3 wrote May 8, 2010
    • Sounds like you have done a wonderful job raising such a great kid! Good for you !!estatic



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      Mztracy wrote May 8, 2010
    • heartheart



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      Tina Sickinger wrote May 8, 2010
    • Sounds like he’s a good kid and deserves a special treat now and then. I’d buy it.



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      Lisa Brown wrote May 9, 2010
    • I agree with the others, sounds like you have done a great job, he sounds very responsible.  Heck, $500 is alot for ME to save up...LOL



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