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By now we all heard about Nadya Suleman – 'Octomom'. Most will agree that what she did was irresponsible to say the least.  

After Nadya's dad asked Oprah for her help to have his daughter professionally evaluated, there has been many discussions on this topic, without any outcome.

In your opinion do you think 'Octomom' should be allowed to take her kids home prior to undergoing psychological evaluation?



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      UK Girl wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • This is very tough ... I’m still at a loss to see why and how she was allowed to have some many children with all the other children she has and the fact she has no income or partner and she has almost dropped all the care on her parents.

      It’s just a tragic story.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Oh boy.
      So many questions, each of them very serious where it pertains to Miss Suleman. The obvious- WHY did she have 6 to begin with, then have 8 embryos transferred (she claims to have only wanted one more) when she has no job, no home of her own, no partner/husband, no...anything. If that isn’t an OMG/WTF, I’m not sure anything is.
      I feel very sorry for Nadya’s Mother. She’s had ALOT dumped in her lap & she has a very, very disrespectful daughter. Have you seen the way Nadya speaks to her? OMG!
      My personal belief is, Nadya’s got some sort of a wierd addiction to having kids or being pregnant-something. And I don’t see how she could possibly be in touch with reality.
      She should absolutely be evaluated, however, she has shown she knows what to say to get people ‘out of her face.’
      I also noticed she says the most bizarra things, such as, “We don’t use those terms as counselors in psychology” She’s not a counselor. Whoa.
      I feel sorry for all of those children. There isn’t enough Mommy to go around, and what IS there has major issues. Wanting to love them isn’t enough to keep a roof over their heads, food in their mouths and clothes on all of their backs. Sadly they could all end up separated as well which is also tragic.
      Sorry to ramble. Yes, she should be thoroughly evaluated. More than once.



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      Feathermaye wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • No, I don’t think she should be allowed to take those babies home until her head has been thoroughly examined.

      I’m already sick of hearing about her, but at the same time I remain tuned-in, because the way this situation gets handled could determine how fertility and parenting issues in the future are addressed.



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      Daphne wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Admittedly, i haven’t researched everything there is to know about this woman but from where i sit, her behaviors have been a desperate cry for attention.

      They call her “octo-mom” when in fact, she is a “deca-quadramom“.  There are FOURTEEN children...not 8.  If i’m not mistaken, more than one of her first 6 children have special needs.  It is estimated that more than one of the octuplets will also have special needs.  They live in a 3 bedroom house...16 people in a 3BR house!

      I am disgusted that Oprah, Dr. Phil and others have used their position to rally funds for this woman and her digustingly irresponsible behavior.  The simple fact that she put the future of her 6 children at risk by spending the money and running the risk of adding so many more children to an already bursting-at-the-seams family speaks VOLUMES about her mental capacity.  This woman is NOT about her children.  She is consumed with HER needs, she is interested in HER wants.

      There is no right answer that will serve the best needs of all involved.  Yes, it isn’t fair that those 14 children “pay” for the irresponsibility of their mother but is it the responsibility of the welfare system?  Is it the responsibility of the general public?  If it takes a village to raise a child, maybe it should take that same village to help in the decision-making process of bringing so many lives into the life of an ill-prepared woman.

      I hope the doctor who implanted those embryos never practices medicine again...perhaps HE should shoulder some of the financial responsibility for those 8 babies!  I hope that Natalie Suleman undergoes rigorous evaluation before she takes those 8 babies home and i hope that Nadya Suleman is required to undergo regular mental health checks until those children are able to care for themselves.  I hope that Social Services frequently shows up unannounced at Nadya Suleman’s house.  I hope that Nadya’s mother is in outstanding health.

      I don’t believe for one second that Nadya Suleman made the decisions to have all those children without expecting help from the general public...and i resent someone sticking their hand into MY pocket without my permission.

      Aren’t you glad you asked?  LOL



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • I’d still like to know even if by slim chance she makes it through an eval, where the sam hell is she going to PUT them all?



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      Feathermaye wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • I found it interesting that when her mother asked her how she intended to care for all these children, Nadya was very dismissive and said something like “I have to let go of my control issues and start accepting the help I will be offered.”

      Not only does she trust that there are kind souls who will help her for the sake of her babies, but she knows that there are commercial entities who will capitalize on her situation for their own publicity and gains.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Personally, I feel for these children, but I will keep my thoughts to myself on this one.
      However, my Grandmother had 13 children, raised them all by herself, in a 2 bedroom home.
      Things were different back then. I can remember her ironing clothes for people after she worked a 9 hour shift at a knitting mill, in order to feed them.



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      Smiley1962 wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • I don’t understand why anyone would want to do this.  I feel she should be evaluated to make sure she is capable of taking care of all of these children.  My dad came from a family of 8 and his dad left when they were very young, and my grandmother had to take care of all of them.  It was very hard for my dad and my aunts and uncles.  So I feel that it is the children that will suffer and they should be taken care of the best possible way (however way that may be) to give each and every one of them a chance.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Nope.  She should be evaluated, thoroughly examined and make sure all her ducks are in order.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • I think this woman is two sandwiches short of a picnic. There’s something very disturbing about her. But, even with all the evaluations and with social services involved, California is California and I don’t believe there is a judge in that state who will take those children away from her. I think that somewhere down the line she’ll do some kind of reality show or continue to get herself publicity until it renders a paycheck.



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      3sa wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Regardless of how stupid her decision was, they are still her babies, who is to say she doesn’t really love them.  So in this country I thought we were innocent until proven guilty. There has been no investigation or harm done to the children she already has, so why would you not be allowed to take YOUR children home.  If they want to evaluate her them do it but until proven she is a crazy woman or unfit mother, I don’t think the authorities should just have the power to decide who leaves the hospital with their children or not, what are we starting?  What can of worms are we opening.

      I am not saying she is not mentally ill or not an unfit mother, but it has not been proven.  If a messy house is the only proof then I guilty too at times of being unfit.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • She is totally out there in her own zone.  She is such a selfish person and in my opinion has gotten just what she set out to get.....publicity!!  Unfortunately at the cost of human lives.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Looking at all sides, and basing the rest on what she has shown everyone, and stated, Nadya clearly has no way of properly caring for 14 children. It’s been made clear that there isn’t a proper place for them to live, enough money to support, feed, clothe, house/sleep. I don’t think it’s a matter of the hospital and/or authorities taking her rights away. Someone has to look out for the best interest of all of those babies. She may love them more than life itself, in fact, I’m sure she does. But that does not mean she is stable or capable of caring for them. She does not seem to have the ability to make good, sound decisions. Maybe she does, but it certainly is questionable. In all fairness, I’m sure the cameras aren’t showing most of the time how scared this woman is. She’s GOT to be.
      I’m sure she will get plenty of help. American people have a very giving nature 90 percent of the time. I guess it doesn’t really matter what her decisions were at this point that made the situation happen. What matters now is the quality of life provided for 14 kids. As for the MD, shame on him. I’m not sure what the hell he was thinking or where his ethics were.



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Her head should have been examined before this point.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • It’s extremely sad that she used her kids to get publicity and attention. I agree with Cynthia, there will be a reality TV show about her, the sick part is that millions of people will be glued to their TV watching it, talking about it and blogging about it.

      I only saw one of her interviews, she looks like she has so much botox injected in her that she has no facial expressions; my question is Who is paying for those injections?

      She is obviously not well, and the thought that she is getting Masters in psychology, is scary. She could potentially be out there working as a therapist and counseling people.

      If it was up to me who is responsible for paying the bills and taking care of the kids, I would place most of the responsibility on the doctor, his malpractice insurance, and his own estate. I would question not only doctors ethics, but his sanity as well.



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      3sa wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • What I hate is that they take the children away and put them in 5 or more foster homes, separating all the children up.  And we all know that not all foster homes are great, in fact sometimes worst.  Once the children are in that system then they are forever.  The kids might end up getting adopted out all separate which would be a shame.  If people are really concerned for the children then the best interest would be with their mother and they should concenstrate on making that happen instead of just removing them from her.  on a lighter side, she really should donate her uterus to science because that thing is amazing!!!!!!



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • 3sa, you are not kidding. Scientists really could study it and find out how one woman can carry so many at once, while other women can’t get any IVF to work.  

      I blame the doctor more than anyone. He went against all recommended guidelines and basically used this lady as a guinea pig to raise his standing in the infertility world.



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      Rystmom wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • I feel she needs psych eval before bring babies home.
      But I also feel that these IVF patients that have 5 or more babies need to have some type of counseling. Just to help them with a plan. I brought home 1 baby each time and had to adjust. I can’t imagine bringing home 5 or more.



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      Cooljewel wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • Seeing the picture of those babies is heartbreaking.  I wonder what kind of life they will have and what kind of adults they will grow up to be with that woman as their mother.  

      I think she lacks the mental capacity to make rational decisions and has a variation of Munchausen Syndrome where Nadya feels the need to have children in a controversial way to command attention, obtain lenience, act out anger, gain financially, and control others.  

      I’ve named this new condition Nadya Syndrome. (One can only hope that this is an isolated case.)

      But if this is the case once the 8 babies are no longer meeting her needs, what then...more babies?  If she can’t have any more children, the scarier scenario would be that she would harm one of the babies in order to again gain the attention she needs.



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Mar 8, 2009
    • cooljewel...I think you hit the nail on the proverbial head..she does fit the classic description of Munchausen Syndrome...and the fact that this woman KNOWS that she will be getting help from caring, generous people, has to make one wonder WHY she did all of this in the first place..I mean, I absolutely love children, but I know goodness well it takes more than love to care for and nurture 1 child, much less 14...Like cindylou said...she should have been evaluated before this even came to light...not saying it’s too late, but really...what will they find out that people don’t already know?

      And..I’ve never had to take care of special needs children, but I’m sure it’s hard work...None of my children have special needs and I’m ready to pull my hair out by the end of the day...Psych eval????...She’s gonna need more than that after a while....



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Mar 11, 2009
    • I think, she needs professional help.  She is not well... What kind of person in her right mind would do what she did?  What good came out of it?  She got 8 more kids who are going to suffer from their mother mistake.
      I feel sorry for her kids and for her parents. I do feel sorry for her too. The whole world is watching...
      She obviously wanted some publicity, she got plenty.



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