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Another sleepless night.  

Stressing about my son-to-be 18 year old son, Ryan. A senior in high school who will graduate in June.  

He wants to join the Army. It’s something he’s talked about doing over the last few years, to be an Army-Ranger. We’ve discussed him going to college or training to be a firefighter and other things he’s interested in, but in the end he is set on the Army. In fact, he leaves July 21st for basic training. In desparation to talk him out of it or even just postpone, I tried to bribe him with an offer to send him and his bestfriend to Europe for the summer, all expenses paid. But to no avail. His mind is made up. The Army it is.

I’m absolutely devastated, its hard for me to keep positive with this one (I’m trying though). Its just that deep down inside I know it’s inevitable, once he completes basic training, he’ll be sent to Afganhastan or Irag. But that doesn’t seem to phase him, he says he’s ready to do his duty.  

So I have no other choice, but to accept his decision. I’ll stand by him and love him as I always have ~ and now leave it in Gods hands, who I trust.  

Your prayers will be greatly appreciated.



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      UK Girl wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Tell him I have a beautiful 22 year old daughter see profile pictures and she will show him London if he doesn’t sign and he can stay with us ..........

      Sorry honey if that helped your more than willing to send him - don’t know what else to say I know we have a number of Fab40 members who have posted almost identical stories - speak to http://fabulously40.com/fabulously/lipsdiva she is ex army and very good with advice .....


      Ukgirl, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • Rose I know this is a very hard thing for a mother to deal with. But I do have another way to look at it.

      My nephew went into the army when he really had no direction in his life. It’s been very good for him. He went through basic then went on to South Korea for a year. He’s now at Fort Bragg in North Carolina waiting to see what the Army has next for him. He may or not go to the middle east, it depends on the rotation of the troops and what this current president decides to do with the service people.

      The Army has been a good thing for him. He’s developing a stronger sense of self and he will be better prepared for the world and for work when he gets out.

      Now, he was full of bravado before he went in - told everyone he would train for special forces. Honestly, that is a very small and select group of people who can do that kind of training. Your son may or may not fit that qualification but the army will recognize that very quickly. One thing to keep in mind as he’s looking into the different schools to apply for - make it something that can be transfered to a real life job when he gets out. My nephew wouldn’t listen to anyone. He was determined to do the most macho job in the Army they would let him do. He drives a truck. He’ll make a dandy delivery person after all these years in the Armed Forces.

      I know this is hard for you. It’s agonizing for a mother to watch her child go off to the service. I assure you the Army will take care of him, build his confidence, teach him leadership and discipline. And the time will fly by. If you ever need a shoulder or an ear during this time,I’m available.



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      Encee wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • My goodness.  I can only imagine how  you must feel.  On one hand proud of him and on the other worried sick!  

      The only thing I can say is that I have a brother and lots of uncles who have all served in the military and it was a very positive experience for them.  They learned things about life, seen parts of the world they never knew about, and even learned how to stay in shape!  I know my brother still has quite a few friends he knew from when he was in the Air Force in the 60s.  

      I hope that whatever you son decides that he’s happy with his decision and goes to lead and a long, very healthy life!  

      Hugs!



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      Holly Beck wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • It is so hard to let children go, isn’t it? I have a 15 year old son, and I am positive I would be just as worried as you are if he was planning to join the Army - I just love him so much! I want to protect him, but I know that I have to let him live his life.  

      My thoughts are with you - may you find peace!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • I can’t imagine how you feel so my thoughts are with you. But just so you know I am so very thankful for all the young men and women who choose to help, protect and defend us.
      So thank you for raising a wonderful son!



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      Hbrose wrote Apr 23, 2009
    • It’s always hard letting our kids go and letting them make their own decisions, in the end we can only do the best we can and hope they make wise choices for themselves.  

      You all are so wonderful, your words and encouragement mean so much to me.  

      Thank you,
      Rose



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      Dianne Alesi wrote May 7, 2009
    • This story sounds identical to what I went through with my son.  He graduated at 17 and not only told me he “for sure” wanted to join the Army, he wanted me to sign off so he could at that moment.  I died inside and tho I refused to sign at that time...I knew I had to start coming to the realization that this was what he wanted and was going to do.
      Just like you, my worst nightmare was that he would end up in Iraq or worse Afghanistan. As a matter of fact, he IS now in Baghdad and has about 9 more months to go.
      We have to trust our kids and hope we have pointed them in the right direction. My son and I had many talks before and after he joined just so I knew he had thought everything through, and he did. I am sure your son has also.
      The hardest thing is to let them go; but we will always be there when they need us!

      I will pray for you both along with everyone else spending time over there instead of with their families.



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