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The past few days have been a little unsettling for this newbie member of fab40, i still havent found my way around the whole site, and havent even tried out the chat/ im thingy. Recently got involved in some hot topic blogs and tried to defuse it all with what i THOUGHT was humour..step away from the computer screen. Yet it was taken the wrong way and i offended some who thought they were being belittled. I do not have it in me to be offensive, and humour is how i handle things i dont like or am uncomfortable with. I got P Ms..personal messages in my inbox ( i think its funny that its PMS,..LOL ) and thought WOW how could something so minor be made into something so MAJOR. I comment on a few blogs daily, or questions..i am assuming that is why they get posted ...i do not understand why politics gets so out of hand, but it does. I never try to argue a point, to me there is no reason to, i wont change the other persons mind, so why bother...comment and leave it at that, we all differ on opinions, thats what makes us unique. I feel a tad sad that i now am nervous to comment , i was told if i dont like it, the arguing, to stay away from the topic...which i think is good advice . But how very sad , how sad is it that now this site isnt such a joy to come on..yesterday i wanted to leave..and not look back...then today decided NO i wont be chased off ,i didnt put up with bullies in school heck at 46 i wont put up with them now! So dig all you want...be mean all you want..but know I AM NOT BUDGING...humour is what makes the world go round..and i for one have had enough crud in my life that now i am happy am dang sure not gonna let complete strangers take that smile from me..its been years in the making...estatic



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      UK Girl wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • Honey I have been on the site nearly a year and yes I'm addicted – I have made some fantastic friends , I have come across some very genuine warm lovely ladies whose friendship I cherish & I have a huge telephone bill -  but I have also learnt during this year that some topics no matter how innocuous can cause great upset.
      This is very sad and upsetting and yes I have learnt not to comment or read blogs or questions which I now think my comments will fan the flame – but I will not tolerate bullying as this is the lowest form of communication in my book.
      I have seen in the past that actually the moderate voices on the site quell the more strident bullying voices ......
      I think taking an over view at this moment in time everyone is looking for answers to quite complex problems and this fiscal recession seems never ending so people are voicing their concerns – don't think just the US of A is suffering – we are in the UK and our Government has decided yesterday to say the recession is over ...... let's just say we the people know they are lying .........



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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • Lilwhitedaisy I like you! and YES humor does make the world go round... bleep em if they can’t take a joke,right?



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      Anonymous wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • UKgirl....when does the goverment NOT lie?  the thing is it is nearly impossible for anyone to keep their promises in goverment...there is more to it than just one person having the say, yet it is that one person that takes all the flack. Oh i dont want to get into another politics debate, it is just a merry go round of emotions and anger and opinions..stop the world i wanna get off. i sometimes wonder how intelligent people who run for office are..it seems us lower life forms are more intelligent than those who try to govern us...hand the country over to women we will have it sorted out in no time!estatic



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      Lilwhitedaisy wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • wow why did that come up as anon...weird..well its me lilwhitedaisy still..not anon!



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      Lilwhitedaisy wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • yes, that is what i decided..! this is a public forum and i am the public..( well one part of it at least!!). estatic



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      Vikki Hall wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • yes you are!



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      Termite wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • Stick around lilwhitedaisy, it will all blow over soon...I am sure!
      And if it doesnt...just bleep em! Just like Vikki said! I like that Vikki! estaticestaticestatic



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      Lilwhitedaisy wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • thank you to all of you...estatic



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      Marya1961 wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • totally agree with everyone..we can all come together in harmony, no matter what we believe in...we are all Fabulous Fabbers!estatic



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      Wittymom wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • LWD, I had to respond to your post. I’ve been a member since January, and I love this site, but lately every time I log in, i see so much combative attitudes that I leave without commenting and feeling drained.  I won’t leave the site though, I log in and read and smile at the folks who have always made me smile, and instead of slowly fading, I am slowly coming back.  Keep your humor, it’s you!



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      Mztracy wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • hey lil‘, glad you r not going.
      I’ve been here a year next month.
      I‘n not going anywhere!! mwaaahhhhh

      xx



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      Lilwhitedaisy wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • thank you wittymom for the encouraging words estatic and thank you to all the ladies who responded with optimisim (sp?). Lifes to short to waste on negative stuff..laugh and the world laughs with you...or in my case at me!! LOL estatic



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • I’ve been a member for a year now, and I have not been participating as much as usual because of the “hot-button” topics. But I will stay and I look daily to see if there is something I do want to participate in.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • Trust that the disagreements and difficult conversations do eventually calm down. The world is in an unsure and rocky state right now. So much going on and the news media really likes to stir it all up to get everyone’s emotions going. And since this community is made up of different people from different backgrounds with different opinions sometimes those opinions get “strong.” But all in all there is true respect and caring here. So many wonderful women to interract with.



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      Lazylola wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • Likewise, I have thought of leaving, but I still enjoy coming to read the blogs and questions, I comment here or there, but I can do without the unnecessary drama. Life is too short to go into battle over religion or politics in a venue such as this, I’d rather come here to encourage or be encouraged. Glad you are staying, I’ve enjoyed your humor and blogs. estatic



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • Ive been here a year come November.  When I first started logging in, I would just scour around and not say much.  Then I happened to happen upon a great group of ladies.  Unfortunately, quite a few of them left due to circumstances.  I’ll keep it that.  I do still keep up with them on another networking site.  There are still many here and a select few that I have a very close bond with.  I guess my point is, this site is NOTHING like it used to be.  All we did here was laugh and laugh and laugh.  Whatever happened to those days and nights?  Seems everyone is wrapped so tight on forcing their religious beliefs and political opinions on others and mercy if you dont agree with them.  It has become, for the most part, a political and religious networking site.   I just wish the newbies knew this site as it was way back then.  Do you think we could ever get back to that????  

      xoxo



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      Marilyn09 wrote Sep 10, 2009
    • I have grown sooo much since I started with this site. Even when I see a woman in the store, I think that maybe she could be one of my fab friends.  

       I hear you LWD. I too tried to diffuse things with humor and it so did not work the way I imagined.  

       I feel horrible about the whole thing. I feel like it was all my fault.

      Thanks for posting this blog.



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      Anonymous wrote Sep 11, 2009
    • i dont think so Marilyn, i even talked this over with my hubby, and he gets heated when its politics, i just am not that type of person, its not that it doesnt matter to me, because, IT DOES, but i am not going to get all bent out of shape over it, This person was voted in , now its his job until his voted out, or voted in again...i can differ with plenty, but i wont ever argue about it, as to me...its not worth losing a friendship over , i dont mind heated debate, but its out of control once we get into mob mentality and start calling each other names...and as women we hear plenty negative things without attacking each other in the process. As women we are passionate, caring and problem solvers, we fight for what we beleive is right, and i honestly think we could solve a lot of the worlds problems, so i say........wait til theres a woman in the white house THEN and ONLY then will we have come a long way! estatic



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      Lilwhitedaisy wrote Sep 11, 2009
    • ahhh it posted me as anon again...grrrrrr



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      Marilyn09 wrote Sep 11, 2009
    • thanks LWD estatic



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      Foxfire5822 wrote Sep 14, 2009
    • Hey LWD...I was on a site once that discussed TV shows I made a comment that I thought a particular scene involving a priest was funny and holy moley I was suddenly a religeous bigot! Some members were demanding that I be band from the site....I’ve had no problems here...love this group!..Love your humor!



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