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I am 41 and have noticed an interesting social dynamic over the past couple of years.  My perception is that people are treating me differently than they did when I was in my 20’s and 30’s.  I feel I am generally treated with less respect - people don’t really want to get to know me.  It seems that since I’ve reached the ‘40’ that people might think that now that I am older, my feelings are in some way immune to being hurt.

I am not speaking of family or friends in particular, but of a general societal perception.

Has anyone else experienced this?


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      Talkytina wrote Sep 5, 2008
    • I won’t say that I have experienced that exactly but I certainly know that in the Corporate environment, letting your age be known once you hit 40 is not a good idea.  Yes there are laws, etc... about age discrimination but they do it anyway.

      The new generations of the 20s and 30s have lived in a time when all they ever heard was “this and that over 40” and so we have become a classified group.  This is another reason why I appreciate Yana’s efforts so much.  She created this forum for us to have our voices heard and think she’s going to be very successful.

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      Csepp wrote Sep 11, 2008
    • No, I haven’t found that at all, but maybe because I live in the Washington, DC, area. There are many fabulous “older” women here (35+). If anything, I feel I get a little more respect because I am considered a “Maam” so servers and sales people tend to be more polite. Although I CANNOT get used to being called “Maam”—what bothers me is that women have different appellations for different times in their life: Miss when unmarried; Mrs. when married; and Ms. when divorced!

      Why don’t men have these markers of social status? But no: all their lives they are “Mr.”

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