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My son has been dating his girlfriend for about 8 months now.  She was fine at first then they had their first break up.  He was heartbroken and asked that I call her and talk to her.  I did and it backfired ON ME.  She sent me a text and told me to MIND MY OWN BUSINESS.  She is 21 years old dating my 19 year old son.  I was beside myself to say the least.  We didn’t speak for a while then things got a little better.  Then I was on my 17 year old son’s FB page and commented on how I was proud of him not losing his temper about a situation because had it been his brother all hell would have broke loose.  (That’s a none fact that he is a hot head).  She had the audicity to get on FB and write WHATEVER to me and called my son saying I was talking smack about him.  Now, my son is cussing me out every other day, she is staying in my house and leaving beer, food etc in my fridge and I am told to not take any beer, etc.  Well, I took a beer and now all hell has hit the roof. I asked him to move out and I want nothing to do with their relationship.  

Am I wrong for being upset?  I still haven’t gotten over the fact she told me to mind my own business.  As long as my son lives with me, he is my business.  Thoughts?




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      Tracy Lynn Brown wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • am still going thru stuff with my son, and honestly i just cant beleive our children are now saying those kinds of things to thier parents.. I wasnt raised like that.  And this kind of thing is so painful for a mother. I know. But you are in the right. Hugs.



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      Anne E wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • As my folks used to say “Shape up or ship out“!  Your son and his girlfriend’s behavior is outrageous! You have every right to be upset!



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jun 3, 2011
    • WOW! I have no children but I tell you if I did and one of their friends or s/o disrespected me in my own home, they would be out the door! You are not wrong at all. She obviously is disrespecting you, I wonder how she is with her own parents. Makes me think.frown

      You are so right. As long as your son was living under your roof, he is your business.heart



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      Msj wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • I have been there. The ex gf is now married to some else and we are very close! My mistake was to get involved in their arguments...

      My advice is to firmly say “I WILL NOT be disrespected in MY home” and say only that do not engage in arguments.

      I would take the beer adn throw it out and not even reply to her words.

      If necessary I would have her police escorted out of MY home.. oh this upsets me
      Im so sorry u are going through this!



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      Mztracy wrote Jun 4, 2011
    • Are you saying she is in your home and coming over?

      Hell to the no. Buh bye to her.



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      Cathie Beck wrote Jun 5, 2011
    • Hi Diggie,

      I don’t see anything wrong with asking your son to move out if he doesn’t respect you or your home. His girlfriend is his problem, not yours. While in your house they both need to respect you. Myself, I wouldn’t have made a comparison of my younger son to his brother for temperment on FB.  

      Cathie



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      Diggie wrote Jun 6, 2011
    • Thanks for all your comments.  They are getting an apartment and will be moving out soon.  This too shall pass.



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      Diggie wrote Jun 8, 2011
    • Alright ladies, on top of the disrespect with my son, now his Father is getting involved.  He thinks I am kicking him out to move in with my boyfriend.  Says he is cutting my youngest off with car insurance money.  Now, this being said, the so called Father of my children has never paid the full amount of child support as required by law, nor has he paid for medical insurance or 50% of the kids medical expenses.  The most he has paid is 1,100 towards braces.  So, I have decided to have the child support reviewed, to get more for my son and also to submit all the medical from about 2005 forward that he should have taken care of prior.  I have to make sure that my son doesn’t go without and at this rate, the Father doesn’t even want to 1/2 the price of a class ring and says that he won’t buy a vehicle for him either.. like he did for the eldest.  He always punishes the youngest when he dislikes my decisions.  So now I’m going to go for what the law allows and what I should have done years ago.



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      Cathie Beck wrote Jun 9, 2011
    • Good Luck, Diggie, I hope you get the support needed for your son.  

      Cathie



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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 12, 2011
    • Hope everything works in your favor and your younger son.



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