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For me the whole deal in this divorce was taking action. Get a Good attorney, be careful with money to keep the attorney, and recognize the source of my emotions.  

Does this sound good or not?  

I’ve ended up making myself accountable for my every action (pro divorce) and all of my
emotions. I want a “clean” divorce while fully aware that his willingness to part with “his” money (reason #3 of 1,734 reasons) needs to be approached and handled carefully. I’m
stupid if I don’t think how he will react, I think.    

So things seem to be going well for me and some stupid man driving like an idiot happens to kill himself ... and his dog.... on the hwy just a short distance from my driveway. The X just happens to be on the property down at his shop/landing and rushed up to save stupid man, but there wasn’t any saving him, his truck was wrapped around 2 trees. (General opion is he was reckless and stupid.)  

Well, of course with my spirituality I’m feeling the emotional pain of the man and his dog dying, I don’t like the nonchalant attitude that the man was stupid even if he was. What do we know about who was left behind and grieves for him?  

And OMG... what if something like this happened to my X? I watched him climb up on the man’s truck on its side and plumes of smoke billowing from it. I’m watching in my yard, I want to hollar to my X to get back incase it catches fire, while I know he’s going to try to save the man’s life because that’s who he is and reason #917 I loved him.  

And he’s not “mine” anymore. I don’t know if he ever was and I just thought he was? At
any rate, it is kind of ‘piss poor’ that what I love about him is tangled up with this fatal accident and my emotions that come from it.  

It hasn’t stopped me from scheduling an appointment with my attorney with a plan for a resolution.  

Yours truly,  


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