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This blog is for anyone who has been looking for a  job. If you feel like crawling into a dark hole with a plate of  cookies and bottle of merlot until the economy improves, I don’t blame you! I have been looking off and on since last summer. Landed a contract that was supposed to last 6 months but it ended in 4.  

So what did I do this week to find a job? Baked cookies, checked email, and a little  volunteer work.  I also had to move out while my power was  out, so that day was a legitimate loss. Burnout claimed the other four.  Until today,  I felt guilty, but the guilt just  wasn’t enough to motivate me. The fear of going  broke didn’t even work.  So I finally let go. Maybe it’s rationalization but I think my brain needed a vacation. So that tops my list of ways to stay sane.

If you‘re struggling with burnout, give yourself permission to slack off without beating yourself up. Not every day of course but there will be times when you just can’t write another cover letter or look at another  ad. Bake, take pictures, go for a walk, go to a museum, volunteer at the local pet shelter.  

Whatever makes you happy or that you’ve been putting off that you don’t take time for when you work.  I am committed to reading the manual for my camera to finally learn how to really use it and to finishing another scrapbook. Both free or low cost breaks from searching.

Also, try creating a wish box for all the things  you‘re not buying right now - an ad for a car, new outfit, etc..  Throw in a brochure from the local salon.  They are not off limits forever - just waiting for the right time. On the same note, feeling constantly deprived will add to your funk so if a $4.99 bouquet of flowers or bottle of nail polish is in your budget, get them. I have found writing down my expenses to be helpful in doing this. If I am still below my target, thouse flowers are mine!  Of  course there are days I total it up & say, “Ouch! gotta slow down.”

Check out a book or buy one used to learn more about your industry or a skill that you need or want to develop more to be competitive.  Community college classes are great if you can afford them. Also check out ed2go, which offers alot of classes online.  

And be honest with yourself & others about what you can afford to do. There  is no shame at being unemployed. If your friends want to go a place too expensive for you, there’s  nothing wrong with saying “that’s out of my budget right now, can we go another time?  WOmen are more prone to guilt, esp with gift giving. Screw the guilt!  You have bills to pay.

I also recommend a book called “10 Things to do When Your Life Falls Apart” By Daphne Kingma and [Link Removed]  a website by Hillary Rettig, who published a free guide to overcoming procrastination and another to help job searchers.
Hang  in there. You‘re not alone!

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