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Are you involved in a relationship that isn’t as happy as you want? Do you sometimes feel frustrated or confused about how to get the love and respect you desire? If so... you might feel scared about what your future holds if you stay in your unhappy relationship. Read on to discover essential relationship advice that will guide you gently through the three steps that will create true happiness in your life and in all of your relationships.

Have you ever heard yourself say things like: “Is this all there is?” “Will I ever really be happy?“, or even “Do I really have a right to happiness at all?” If so, you‘re not alone. We believe people ask these questions because every human being’s deepest desire is to be happy.  

If you don’t feel happy and fulfilled in your relationship, its inevitable you’ll begin to ask yourself why. It’s not a matter of whether you have a “right” to it or “deserve” it. Happiness is a genuine human need, so yes you do deserve to be happy—we all do.

And as far as the question, “Will you ever really be happy?” our answer is: It depends. Are you willing to take responsibility for your own happiness?

We believe the shortest path to a happy life is found through conscious choice. We’ve made a video about what we believe prevents many of us fro having happy, satisfying relationships. We recommend you view this video now before reading the rest of this article.

View the Video now: Be Happy
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Now that you’ve come back, you’ll see how the subject of the video fits with learning how you can begin making  conscious choices as we lead you through the following three steps.

Step 1. Uncover the Internal Root of Your Unhappiness  

We believe most people’s unhappiness starts long before adulthood. We guess that’s true for you as well.  

You may have heard it said, “Everywhere you go, there YOU are.”  

If you‘re dissatisfied we suggest you start from the inside out. Begin the process by identifying how you feel. Ask yourself: “When have I felt this way in the past?”  

You can almost bet, something probably happened in your past, most likely when you were very young. The odds are that whatever happened was painful, and because of it you developed a limiting belief about yourself and others.  

We believe that every limiting belief we hold as “the truth” leads us to make decisions about how we treat ourselves and others that reduce our ability to be happy.  

As an example, imagine a relationship where one of the people held the limiting belief that “they are powerless” and “other people are cruel and demanding.” How do you imagine this person would feel? How would they act in their relationships if they believed this to be true?

Our guess is they would probably feel angry and resentful because they believe that they were being controlled. They would most likely feel scared about what their future holds. Feeling that way, they would most probably end up behaving in ways like:
• being cold and distant
• being angry
• being resentful
• or perhaps giving in to the other person regardless of what they want  

We only suggest you look at these things so that you become aware of what might be happening in your own life at an unconscious level. It’s impossible to make any external changes in your life if you are unaware of what’s going on internally.

Step 2. Stop Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness  

We are left powerless whenever we believe someone else can “make us” feel unhappy. We actually give all control of our feelings over to the other person whenever we do this—and then how else would we feel but resentful and upset?

We teach that it’s impossible for anyone else to “make you” feel any particular way. It is YOUR thinking about your situation that causes your pain.

Do you want your happiness to depend on other people acting the way you want? Or do you want your happiness to come from inside—from responding to life in harmony with what you value?

Step 3. Identify What's Most Important to You at a Core Level  

In order to have healthy, satisfying relationships with anyone else, you first have to know what is important to you. This requires going deep inside to discover what you most deeply value—what you most want to experience in your relationships and in your life.  

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Then, whenever other people behave in ways you don’t like, you can use this to discover what you value most deeply. From that moment forward, you can start turning your attention to the qualities you desire most—ones that would bring more joy to your life.  

We are not saying that you should or shouldn’t stay in your present relationship. What we are suggesting is that, unless you start making conscious choices about your life and your happiness, things will most likely continue to go the way they have been going.

Once you learn to:
• Uncover the Internal Root of Your Unhappiness
• Stop Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness
• Identify What’s Most Important to You at a Core Level

Then it’s possible to make conscious choices and take actions that will help you create the life full of authentic happiness that you desire.  

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